Just some simple advice, something YOU won't have to learn the hard way

[UltimateScoundrel]

Now, when i first started here i thought that i was the ****. I thought that I could get any woman, any time, just with a few months of being on the boards. Let me tell you how wrong i was. Could I have gotten any woman, probably, but i ****ed up, a lot.

Some Simple Rules

1. A neghit is not an insult. A neghit is not for every use and every occassion. Neghits are only for women who think that they can get any guy they want, who have put themselves on a pedestal. If you use it on regular girls, even if its a joke, eventually they will see you as rude.

2. Kino is not heavy petting. With kino just stay away from things like putting your hand on her leg, or your arm around her, and things like that. Kino is meant to be totally unintimidating, unsexual touching. It's purpose is to make her more comfortable around you, and allow you into her personal space.

3. The first date is only the beginning. Do not start with the leg grabbing and such on the first date. You are not a couple. You are just two people getting to know eachother. On the first date, let her initiate most of the kino, and all of the sexual stuff save for possibly a goodnight kiss, but only if things went well.

4. ****y and Funny does not mean *******. ****y and funny means that you are comfortable with yourself, and you can joke around with her, because you are comfortable around her. You can really be your most entertaining, fun to be around self around her.

5. The number is not as important as you think. The number only means that she possibly may be interested in setting up a date with you sometime. If you give her your number, and she calls you, and wants to talk for hours, that means that she is interested.

6. If you have shorter hair, gel it. You look goofy as hell with your hair all scruffy and laying down like you didn't do **** with it.

7. Be a great guy. Not a nice guy, not a ****y guy, not a funny guy, but just a great guy. A nice guy is a doormat, a ****y guy is rude, a funny guy is never taken seriously. A great guy is kind and compassionate when you are alone, funny and entertaining when you are in public, and confident enough to be himself all the time.

8. Have a motivating statement. When you just can't approach, say something to yourself that motivates you, simply makes you stop thinking and go for it. Mine is, "Engage maverick engage." Like off top gun. [note, this is not my idea originally. I can't remember who to give credit to, but suffice to say it's not mine.]

9. Get a hobby. Skateboard, canoe, ride bike, hike, run, lift weights, play an instrument, cook, garden, write, read, draw, paint, sculpt, just find something to do, and do it well.

10. Girls love a guitar player. Lemme tell you, when chicks find out i play guitar, they like to get a little closer. It's not much, but it's noticable. And it's nice.

11. Go do something fun. For the first date, do something completely fun, and entertaining. Make her associate being around you with having a good time.

12. Don't follow anyone around. Do what you want, when you want. If you don't know what to do, go practice your hobby.

13. Learn to juggle just a little bit. Don't pull this one out for just anyone. Make it a total surprise, and just juggle something quick, like apples in the grocery store, or whatever. Women like little things like that. Just don't try to impress anyone with your mad juggling skillz. It never works.

Maybe the highschool forum isn't where this belongs. But i think that you guys need it more than anyone.

 

[oakraiderz2]

I like this, it sums up basically what are good things to have. But i just wanna reiterate how important kino is. Kino CAN be the deciding factor whether or not you hook up with her. Not enough will lead her to think that you dont like her and look at her as just a buddy, which isnt a good thing. Keep it light at first, but as shes more and more acceptant of it, go bigger and bigger. Dont find this out the hard way like some of us...

 

[drixsa]

this is quite good advise

though simple and pasted together

many of u "budding DJs" prolly need this

i cant say that it wasnt a good refresher myself

 

[UltimateScoundrel]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
I like this, it sums up basically what are good things to have. But i just wanna reiterate how important kino is. Kino CAN be the deciding factor whether or not you hook up with her. Not enough will lead her to think that you dont like her and look at her as just a buddy, which isnt a good thing. Keep it light at first, but as shes more and more acceptant of it, go bigger and bigger. Dont find this out the hard way like some of us...

Definitely kino is important, but you should keep it light, going too heavy straight away is going to turn her off big time. Also, I would like to emphasize point seven. Read it again and think on it a little bit.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

stay away from putting your arms around her....I sort of disagree if its for a second or two..I get get positive feedback from doing that, and also by doing it the right way.......otherwise if it's too long, or too strong..then its bad news....

The legs, you can touch on occasions.for example: I was in front of this HB in a class, and so as the teacher was lecturing, she started drumming her legs..and since I can drum, I reached back and drummed or slapped her leg on the inner thigh.....it wasn't a hard slap it was just a slap..it showed spontaneous behavior(She wasn't expecting that) and she was obviously turned on by it--she moaned, and laughed after I did that...my friends that were next to me said she was constantly looking at me afterwards--my friends were like "she wants your **** man!" he he.....


otherwise....Scoundrel's post was informative and simple.

 

[UltimateScoundrel]

Originally posted by Ded_Skin_Mask13
stay away from putting your arms around her....I sort of disagree if its for a second or two..I get get positive feedback from doing that, and also by doing it the right way.......otherwise if it's too long, or too strong..then its bad news....

The legs, you can touch on occasions.for example: I was in front of this HB in a class, and so as the teacher was lecturing, she started drumming her legs..and since I can drum, I reached back and drummed or slapped her leg on the inner thigh.....it wasn't a hard slap it was just a slap..it showed spontaneous behavior(She wasn't expecting that) and she was obviously turned on by it--she moaned, and laughed after I did that...my friends that were next to me said she was constantly looking at me afterwards--my friends were like "she wants your **** man!" he he.....


otherwise....Scoundrel's post was informative and simple.

I didn't mean to stay away from the legs, just don't be putting your hand on her knee for like twenty minutes while you talk, or put your arm around her in the theater or whatever when its only the first date. Obviously everything should be modified according you common sense and your own personal judgement.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

exactly!

 

[Smooth as Anything]

I like it.

 

[Da Game]

Yeah... Before I tried kino much, I was skeptical about how much it could help. It doesn't seem like it would - you wouldn't think touching someone on the arm could matter so much. But it does! I've noticed amazing results from just very light kino. If you don't use it, you should. It's that simple.

Some great kino techniques I've found:

The hand on the lower back while you're walking/talking. Just for a moment, maybe to accent a point while you're talking.

Playful shove on the shoulder when you're joking around.

Elbowing her gently as you walk.

And many more. Just don't make a big deal out of it. Make it look natural (and it should be). Most people have an invisible personal bubble around them (especially at school). If you can break that bubble gently and without seeming creepy, they'll like you.

 

[Pheonix:ScndrlReborn]

Originally posted by Da Game
Yeah... Before I tried kino much, I was skeptical about how much it could help. It doesn't seem like it would - you wouldn't think touching someone on the arm could matter so much. But it does! I've noticed amazing results from just very light kino. If you don't use it, you should. It's that simple.

Some great kino techniques I've found:

The hand on the lower back while you're walking/talking. Just for a moment, maybe to accent a point while you're talking.

Playful shove on the shoulder when you're joking around.

Elbowing her gently as you walk.

And many more. Just don't make a big deal out of it. Make it look natural (and it should be). Most people have an invisible personal bubble around them (especially at school). If you can break that bubble gently and without seeming creepy, they'll like you.

Exactly, that's how it's done!

 

[El brujo]

"10. Girls love a guitar player. Lemme tell you, when chicks find out i play guitar, they like to get a little closer. It's not much, but it's noticable. And it's nice."

Yeah that's true. And if a girl calls you on the phone, just play your guitar and they'll get jealous of it, coz you give the guitar more attention than the girl that calls you. You can allso tell her your guitar has a girls name,and if she asks why, give her a name from one of your ex girlfriends. But do this only with girls who arent treating you right

 

[Cloud-uk]

yeah I rele like it too, I can see that it would be very useful to starting DJs

 

[bust.it]

another bookmark bump...

for those that need a little push in the right direction, this is well worth the read guys.