What is success? Well, it's achiving goals. There are two kind of goals, those that you know and want to achive and those that you didn't really indentify as goals.
The latter would be something like winning money, getting a smile out of this beautiful women, getting complemented or meeting new people accidently.
Success, right? Certainly. But this is success you cannot control. And you are the man, the DJ after all. So let's focuse on the other kind of goals:
Those that you set for yourself. There is a problem with those goals. You are risking failure to meet them. That's why people are afraid of setting goals for themselves. They then say something like "maybe", "one day", or "I really should".
Bad. Really bad.
So let's split this up:
BAD GOALS: Those that I just mentioned. You don't really set them up, because you are making up excuses and know deep inside that you are not likely to meet them. Why is this? Fear of failure...
GOOD GOALS: "One day, I am going to travel to India". And deep down inside you really mean it and you now that you are going to do it. You know that you will do it in a certain timeframe and maybe you are already planning in further detail. But there is still a certain uncertainty, because you are saying "tomorrow". Not good.... But maybe you just don't have the time and money yet.
BETTER GOALS: Those that you put in a certain timeframe: "In the next 7 days, I am going to do ten cold approaches." Here, you risk failure. You have gotten over your fear. Still, you don't know yet if you have the willpower to pull through. So it's up to you.
BEST GOALS: Those that you do RIGHT NOW. This can be grabbing your phone right now and calling this chick to ask her out. Or your uncle that you had a very bad argument with and you didn't talk to each other for months.
Those can also be the elimination of bad routines. Just STOP doing something.
For example: I used to chat a lot. Like 2 hours a day. And you know that texting is not good because there are no emotions. I did realize this but I was afraid to stop because I thought that I would be left out or something like that. Sosuave taught me to loose that fear. So eventually I stopped. I reached this goal. I made the decision. Yes, my friends were a little bit confused. Some told me they would never do that because it would feel like isolation. Well, I found other ways to communicate. No big deal really.
(I don't want to incourage people to stop chatting, it's just an example
)
Usually, there is a little rock of reality and a big mountain of fear between you and your goals in life. Pull out you DJ-wand and make this mountain disappear. This little rock shouldn't be much of an issue anymore.
So what it comes down to is this: Loose your fear of failure. Do it! Start by eliminating bad habits and routines. Put new ones in their place. Success is like a snowball on a mountain of potential success. Once it's rolling, the addiction of it is going to make you crave it, ignoring your fears and getting more and more success.
But never forget: A man/DJ is not defined by his success, but by how he deals with failure!
The latter would be something like winning money, getting a smile out of this beautiful women, getting complemented or meeting new people accidently.
Success, right? Certainly. But this is success you cannot control. And you are the man, the DJ after all. So let's focuse on the other kind of goals:
Those that you set for yourself. There is a problem with those goals. You are risking failure to meet them. That's why people are afraid of setting goals for themselves. They then say something like "maybe", "one day", or "I really should".
Bad. Really bad.
So let's split this up:
BAD GOALS: Those that I just mentioned. You don't really set them up, because you are making up excuses and know deep inside that you are not likely to meet them. Why is this? Fear of failure...
GOOD GOALS: "One day, I am going to travel to India". And deep down inside you really mean it and you now that you are going to do it. You know that you will do it in a certain timeframe and maybe you are already planning in further detail. But there is still a certain uncertainty, because you are saying "tomorrow". Not good.... But maybe you just don't have the time and money yet.
BETTER GOALS: Those that you put in a certain timeframe: "In the next 7 days, I am going to do ten cold approaches." Here, you risk failure. You have gotten over your fear. Still, you don't know yet if you have the willpower to pull through. So it's up to you.
BEST GOALS: Those that you do RIGHT NOW. This can be grabbing your phone right now and calling this chick to ask her out. Or your uncle that you had a very bad argument with and you didn't talk to each other for months.
Those can also be the elimination of bad routines. Just STOP doing something.
For example: I used to chat a lot. Like 2 hours a day. And you know that texting is not good because there are no emotions. I did realize this but I was afraid to stop because I thought that I would be left out or something like that. Sosuave taught me to loose that fear. So eventually I stopped. I reached this goal. I made the decision. Yes, my friends were a little bit confused. Some told me they would never do that because it would feel like isolation. Well, I found other ways to communicate. No big deal really.
(I don't want to incourage people to stop chatting, it's just an example
)Usually, there is a little rock of reality and a big mountain of fear between you and your goals in life. Pull out you DJ-wand and make this mountain disappear. This little rock shouldn't be much of an issue anymore.
So what it comes down to is this: Loose your fear of failure. Do it! Start by eliminating bad habits and routines. Put new ones in their place. Success is like a snowball on a mountain of potential success. Once it's rolling, the addiction of it is going to make you crave it, ignoring your fears and getting more and more success.
But never forget: A man/DJ is not defined by his success, but by how he deals with failure!