"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just say NO!

TheTraveller

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This being my 100th post, I feel that I should really start on the progression of DJ and force the AFC out of me.

I would like to discuss a large AFC element that has been a part of me forever. This is the lack of ability to say "no" to a request. This could be at a job, in school, a favour asked from you by anyone. Have you ever wanted to refuse, to just say no but couldn't muster up the confidence, courage or balls to do so? I rarely could.

Until today. Today I realized I had made a mistake in accepting a job. What did I do? I called them up and said to them, politely, "no, I can't do this ....". After I hung up the phone, I felt so relieved. So confident. So sure of myself. It took a lot of practicing what I was going to say before I mustered up the courage to call, but I did it.

Just remember, live YOUR life. Not someone else's. Don't always seek to please if it DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT! This is at the root of being happy with yourself and your confidence. Just say NO!

- T
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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