Morteo
Don Juan
I've heard a few people on this board suggesting how one should simply say "Hi!" to strangers to overcome shyness and the fear of rejection. Sort of shock treatment to the mind. The problem is, shy people look at this and think to themselves "I couldn't possibably do that...". I, unfortunatly, was one of these people.
I'd be walking on my campus and decided to myself I'd say "Hi" to at least five people. I'd be walking down the sidewalk and spot a stranger and get ready to say it, but then would quickly decide not to. Then another stranger, and another retreat. I figured I was thinking too much about some silly little exercise and dropped it.
A few days latter I was walking around my house and saw some girl, probably a few years younger than me. I wasn't thinking "Hey, I think I'll try to get her attention", or "I think I'll try that 'Hi' thing." The words did, however, just fall out. "Hello." With a slight nod, even. The girl smiled and said "Hi" back.
In the end, how did I feel? Nothing. No elation that I had taken the first step to overcoming my shyness. But, I didn't have a gripping panic attack and wigout in the middle of the street. All in all, the world changed. I didn't change (well, maybe a little...).
The point is, it's nothing. Just do it, but don't try it. If you try it, your mind will try to rationalize what your doing. Don't think, just do.
I'd be walking on my campus and decided to myself I'd say "Hi" to at least five people. I'd be walking down the sidewalk and spot a stranger and get ready to say it, but then would quickly decide not to. Then another stranger, and another retreat. I figured I was thinking too much about some silly little exercise and dropped it.
A few days latter I was walking around my house and saw some girl, probably a few years younger than me. I wasn't thinking "Hey, I think I'll try to get her attention", or "I think I'll try that 'Hi' thing." The words did, however, just fall out. "Hello." With a slight nod, even. The girl smiled and said "Hi" back.
In the end, how did I feel? Nothing. No elation that I had taken the first step to overcoming my shyness. But, I didn't have a gripping panic attack and wigout in the middle of the street. All in all, the world changed. I didn't change (well, maybe a little...).
The point is, it's nothing. Just do it, but don't try it. If you try it, your mind will try to rationalize what your doing. Don't think, just do.