Just realized an issue I have

[frivolousz21]

well...this is somewhat humbling.

I wish I could say I am hard ass all the time and nothing bothers me.



to bad I can't.

what I can tell you as I head into month 3 in this new relationship.

I was talking about things with the women...and we were talking about different things, traits that people carry in there lives.


And lately I have started to get into looking for something wrong phase...

she picked up on this..and we have had talks about this.

I told her when relationships for me get to the 3-6 month stage..somewhere along the line..I feel massively paranoid.

well

well....

lets see...my father my entire childhood was a pile of ****..most of the time he wasn't there...when he was it was temp. and he would call and say he will do this and that..and not show.

of course that sucks ass...

my mother put me up for adoption at age 2...luckily my grandma was there to save my ass.

threw out my life she didn't do much...more or less pretends to give a ****.

Ive noticed most of the folks in my life have put in at least 1 decade of service..I'm talking about the people I trust.

only one close friend I have..that I haven't known since at least 13.

its becoming clear I have abandonment issues...wtf?

how am I suppose to let this go...I don't want this affliction? I dont want to get jealous over nothing? make a mountain out of a molehill anytime a gf talks to a male friend.

what a joke..I feel like a pyssy for letting my emotions turn me like this.

is there self therapy for this?

 

[Phyzzle]

Yes, I would have to say that it is a very unusual to go from the ages of 13 to 25 while making only one really good friend in that time.

is there self therapy for this?

Have you tried ecstasy? (serious suggestion)

You can also look up trust-building exercises. Going rock climbing can be a crash course in trusting other people, and in dealing with heights too.

I would say that there's nothing wrong with a little alertness or paranoia concerning your girlfriend and other guys, but you have to learn to keep your mouth shut about it. Just make mental notes, and don't react until you've had a day to think it over, and you're pretty dam sure it was disrespect.

edit: Ooooh, going rock climbing ON ECSTASY. That would rule.

 

[thedeparted]

edit: Ooooh, going rock climbing ON ECSTASY. That would rule.

I think what Phyzzle is trying to say is, "Go jump off a cliff." ;-)

More constructive advice would be to hire a therapist to work on Avoidant Personality Disorder issues. You can't fix this alone. And while SSRI's may be helpful they are only a temporary solution. You have to do a lot of work to retrain your brain. But you are still young. So don't waste time and get started now.

 

[decades]

Half the battle is being aware that you have a problem. It's not just anybody who can diagnose themselves like that (and be right) at your age. People are very reluctant to admit to mental afflictions. I would continue to be extremely self analytical, perhaps find a therapist and work with him. Try and slow things down and Observe yourself when you are Reacting to things in your life. Work on being more self reliant, less needy. Neediness is not easy to see in ourselves. It's not something that jumps out at you. Your needs were not met by the people who were supposed to put you first. The less "needy" we are, the less we are jealous or envious of other people. We can begin to accept ourselves and take care of ourselves.

books your might be interested in.

no more my nice guy
feel the fear and do it anyway
how to win friends and influence people

good luck

 

[( . )( . )]

What a load of new age symp sh!t.

You know there comes a time my little flower when a man has to say to himself "Yep I had a fvcked up childhood, but it's time to sack up, stop blaming and move on"

You by default (of at least pretending to be a man) dont have the luxury of crying to whoever will listen or fvcking away daddy's lack of love like a chick so stop acting like you do nancy.

I feel like a pyssy for letting my emotions turn me like this

Now I've been telling you your a puzzy ever since you started stinking up the place with this twaddle.

 

[thedeparted]

wow, titty-face has a lot of anger there... I wonder why

 

[romangod]

wow, titty-face has a lot of anger there... I wonder why

You would too if you were a guy sporting a rack like Dolly Parton. :cuss:


Cheers!