"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just realized all of the Don Juans I have known were either Black or White.

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I live in a fairly diverse area with all kinds of ethnicities that include Latinos, Asians, Arabs, Indians, and everything. Over the years I've had the chance to know some players and I just realized that all of them are either Black or White men.

White being any kind of White whether its Australian, Canadian, American, or European. Black being mainly Black American.

These guys hook up with all groups while Latinos and Asians only date their own race (with their women dating all races).

People say Latin Lover and exotic but I have never met a Latino player my entire life unless we are talking about the ones from Spain.

What gives?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't know "what gives", but I do know that there have been hundreds of threads discussing race, and it's an exhausted topic, and this particular thread will be closed very soon.
 

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Iceberg said:
I don't know "what gives", but I do know that there have been hundreds of threads discussing race, and it's an exhausted topic, and this particular thread will be closed very soon.
I don't see the problem in discussing race at all, think we can benefit from talking about it. Like my friend is an incel, ethnically he is Middle Eastern so no doubt he is at disadvantage. Obviously advice given to him would be different. Just don't get why everyone goes up in arms when you talk about race rather than having some useful discussion about it which is possible.

Have talked to enough girls to realize that race is important so I don't get why we can't talk about it.
 

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Puerto Ricans pull MAD pu$$y. They pull top tier Hispanic and black girls with ease I've noticed. So Latino players do exist.
 

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Hustlaz Ambition said:
Puerto Ricans pull MAD pu$$y. They pull top tier Hispanic and black girls with ease I've noticed. So Latino players do exist.
That might be setting the standard then, because most of the women in my area that are hot are White and I have never seen an attractive one date an Asian or Latino before.

Fair enough.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Rolled Stones said:
I don't see the problem in discussing race at all, think we can benefit from talking about it. Like my friend is an incel, ethnically he is Middle Eastern so no doubt he is at disadvantage. Obviously advice given to him would be different. Just don't get why everyone goes up in arms when you talk about race rather than having some useful discussion about it which is possible.

Have talked to enough girls to realize that race is important so I don't get why we can't talk about it.
No. The advice given to him wouldn't be different. Some girls like you, some don't. That's the truth we all live by. Every color.

Beyond that, what do you tell any man? Dress well. Get in shape. Have goals. Be interesting. Does any of that advice have racial implications?

What advice do you think I'd give your friend? "Deny your heritage." "Keep your family a secret." "Lose your accent." "Develop a southern/northern accent." F**k that sh!t.

You are who you are. If some chick isn't going to date you because you're mexican/indian/whatever, then f**kin forget about her. There's no PUA game in the world that's going to work around racial stereotypes. And even if there were, why would "your friend" want to date someone who is judging him based on color?

"Hey mom. Here's my new girlfriend. Yeah, she hated our culture until like a week ago, but she's cool now."
 

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Iceberg's crystal ball is calibrated to perfection.

I will elaborate here. Race does play a part in gaming and a man's life in general, and I have always been a proponent of allowing a certain amount of racial discussion (even though it's technically against the rules).

We're had WAY too many problems in the past few months with racial baiting (I'm not saying the OP is doing this), and we need to stem the tide. The rules state that threads about race are not allowed, and at this time we find it necessary to enforce it fully. I've always supported respectful discussion of the topic (even though some of my fellow mods have disagreed but very graciously let me have my way), but the climate here requires that we tighten things up on this subject for now.

Like Ice says, this topic has been done to death anyway, and we simply have too many members currently who can't handle the topic in an adult manner.

I very rarely take this much effort to explain things, but I think you guys and the OP deserve to know why a thread like this would be locked. We mods take the locking of threads seriously (as an aside, we are continually chastised via PMs and publically for being too lenient) and we discuss these matters carefully before taking action as our desire is to protect the integrity of the site and to be as fair as we possibly can.

OP, I sense that your motives are appropriate, but the fact is that right now every thread of this nature starts a wildfire and we're not going to be lenient at this time.
 
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