"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just need a 2nd opinion on this

Mind_Warrior

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Heres the story:

I met this girl in business class. At first I wasn't interested in her as she your average looking girl. Started talking to her, she seemed very nice so I figured what the hell, ill ask for her number anyway. And so I did. Called her up last week, we went out for drinks, talked a lot, and quite frankly, I had an amazing time with this girl. Easy to talk to, never any awkward moments, basically, a real pleasant evening. I can also tell she had a good time with me. I guess we can qualify this as a first date. But this was merely to see if I had any real interest in this girl as I wasn't really sure to begin with. Turns out I do and would like to make a move on her. But theres a problem. Being the end of semester, she is living in residence and will be going home for the summer. Right now she lives about 10 mins away but her home is about 1 hour and a half away, which is far... she will only be back in mid-august for the next semester.

The dilemma:

Should I make my move now? Or should I wait until she returns to do it? I mean, im not head over heels for this girl but I am interested. If I make my move now, I'll have an immediate answer as to whether she is interested as well. Drawback, no time for her as she lives far and don't have time for that. Other option, I wait until she returns to do it. Pros: more time for her, closer to home. Cons: Might find someone else in the meantime and lose my chance.

The solution:

Personally, I would take the risk and wait because I just don't have the time. I COULD, but that would be overkill and no girl is worth my health, at least not yet LOL.

I would just like to know what you guys think of this situation and what you would do if you were in my shoes.

Thx for the input :up:

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HuuBinh

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Dont' wait, make your move now.

You have nothing to lose, if it doesn't work out, that's a lot easier for you to move on.

If it does work out, and ya'll hook up, I am relatively sure that she will make every effort to be with you more often during the summer.

Since she seems to be interested, what I'd suggest is you initiate your intentions to her directly. Tell her that you realize she is moving back home for the summer, but you would like to take her out and find out how much you like her.

If she is interested, she'll be very happy. good luck
 

escobar04

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just wait

make sure you make her remember you somehow

long distance relationships don't work out

I experienced that myself
 

belividere

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dude you only went out once. I'm sorry to burst your bubble here but, did you even kiss at the end of the "date". If not dont sit around daydreaming about a one-sided relationship. Go and broaden your horizons. Do yourself the favor of gaining experience before settling for an LTR. Please go and date as many women as possible.
 
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