"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just lost my father to cancer

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Ricky

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. That has to be a horrible feeling...

I am surprised your ex wasn't there for you. My ex lost her mom earlier in the year than her brother. I was there for her. I thought her mom was great. I didn't make it to her brothers funeral and she was a bit upset, but I didn't have an opportunity. It was so sad. I still talk to this ex to make sure she's ok.

It sounds like you are so much better off with your ex. If she wasn't there for you in her time of need forget her. She is a horrible person.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My condolences, sir. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you will find some measure of comfort in the support you get from your family, friends, and your extended network here.
 
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