"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just lost a girl after 2 years

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A few months ago we had a talk about how she was not real happy with everything and sometimes we did pick on eachother but not bad at all, over all we were doing well.

Well the past week she had been acting funny because she wanted to talk to me but did not have the guts to, last night she broke it off saying she is just unhappy with her life, she wants to lose weight, maybe see a therapest ect. She seemed fairly happy with me, even though we are different, she likes going to bars ect and I don't mind them but I am not one to go talk to a ton of friends, we are not on bad terms and still going to try to be friends but it will be hard as hell to do so since I still have feelings for her, she seemed to want me to get pissed when we were breaking up, it was killing her that I was not more pissed off at the things she did.

I am really just hopeing she needs some time to herself to get her **** together, we are both 25 and don't think either of us are ready just yet for a family ect.

Just not sure what to do, it hurts, and sucks, part of me wants to go out and find random women, but part of me doesnt.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Desdinova

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still going to try to be friends but it will be hard as hell to do so since I still have feelings for her,
If you still have feelings for her, the last thing you need to do is remain friends with her. Are you going to just "understand" when she starts dating and fvcking other guys while you're waiting for her to get therapy? You'll waste your life being friends with a woman, hoping she "comes to her senses".

Your best bet is to cut her off completely, take some time to enjoy the things you didn't have time for when you were dating her, and begin a new path of life by dating other women. Let sleeping dogs lie, leave the past in the past, and move on with your life.
 

gray_fox_9

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Listen to Desdinova. He has some good advice. You can't be friends with a chick you still have feelings for. It will tear you up inside. Better off to just cut contact completely. Good luck.
 

theunflushables

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I hear you on this one man. I'm going through the same thing myself. Its really hard when she calls you crying because she tried some rough/bondage **** and almost died choking on a d1ck, but I digress.

Best thing I've found to do is distance yourself. Especially if you still have feelings for her. I don't for mine but I am still starting the pull away.
 
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