"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just Joined a Gym - Questions

wh01987

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:D I just jonied west coast fitness...

I want to overall lose some fat im 160 pounds and am 5'7, Mostly am aiming for the biceps and abs. My gf and the fitness trainer told me im not even that fat and just to do 3 days on and 3 days off.
He reccomended

- 30 mins cardio on these step machines

- and 3 sets of 10 on all these ab and bicep machines so about an hour and 30 mins a day..

also he said drink a protien drink every other day or so....

They have tan beds and everything and so much i dunno what to do with so what do you guys have to contribute.. any reccomendations? :confused:

OHHHH and in the showers there are these weird mats hanging up and a towel with a number out of each shower.. HOW DO I AVOID athletes foot?.. :confused: :(
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Man oh man... another guy new to the gym who wants to focus on just abs and biceps. I'm surprised you didn't include chest.

DO NOT GO FOR SINGLE BODY PARTS.

In a single week, you have the time to work out EVERY one of your body parts and grow dramatically throughout your full body. Do not just focus on that 6-pack and biceps. You'll grow all weird, have lower back pains because of straining abs but no lower back workouts, you'll be disproportioned. What you need to do is create a TOTAL body workout, which is doable over the course of a week.

You won't get big and bulky overnight. It takes years to do what professional body builders do. You can stop and go as you please, but while you're in the gym, at least TRY to work yourself to grow at your maximum potential. It's a waste of time otherwise.

If you aren't fat, then quit worrying so much. BULK UP. Put on some muscle mass. The more lean clean mass you pack on, the less your total body fat percentage will be. If you don't have much muscle to begin with, adding some mass might be just the thing to pump that 6-pack.

Actually, now that I think of it... 160 is pretty heavy for a 5'7" who just joined a gym and is unsure of what to do. Have you done any sports. I'm not sure if what you have is body fat or muscle mass, so you'll need to figure out what you feel like you need and do it.

BUT NEVER WASTE YOUR TIME IN THE GYM. Focus on full body split workout routines. Squats, deadlifts, bench, curls, pullups, lats, french presses, the whole deal. Work each muscle group once a week, and improve every week. Split it into a 3-4 day routine. I aim for 3 sets of 4-6, I remember someone reccomending 5x5 on this site, but the goal is to overload your muscles to growth, so pack some heavy weights.

Think about what you want to do first. Do you want to cut, or do you want to bulk? When I say bulk, I don't mean look like Arnold. I mean, put on some muscle by having a surplus diet and working hard.
 

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i figure doing 3 on and 3 off what is a good routine for full body fitness then
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MAX-OT is the way to go. I'm only in my 2nd week and am already feeling some massive gains. Considering getting some Fina next week to aid me, but that's a topic best left to bb.com... :p

By the way, that "protein drink every other day" isn't going to do a thing for you. You should consume 1.5-2g of protein per lb of bodyweight PER DAY. In your case, that's 240-320g pro/day. Each shake has about 40g in it, depending on how much you use.

As far as 3 days on, 4 days off, it's crap. Follow MAX-OT religiously and see if you don't look and feel 110% better. Isolate one muscle group per day, M-F, and do some HIIT for cardio on the weekends. If you can't stand HIIT, pick up inline skating... it's what I do, and it burns an insane amount of cals (somewhere around 17/min if done correctly... about up there with running the 8 min mile.) Also, all of this isn't going to do you ANY good if you don't have a diet in place. By diet, I don't mean "OK GUYS IM GONNA EAT 1/2 CUP COTTAGE CHEESE EVERY NIGHT BEFORE I GO TO BED AND HAVE NOTHING BUT PROTEIN SHAKES ALL DAY INSTEAD OF FOOD!"... (although cottage cheese IS a good idea before bed because it digests slowly and has a good 14g of protein in every 1/2 cup... giving you nutrients all through the night..) but anyway, enough out of me.

Here's the MAX-OT link:


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(Thanks NRM for the link, and to johnstonefitness for hosting it...)
 
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