"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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just had the weirdest date. dont know what to think

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umm, so i met this girl online last night.. she hasnt been online for a long time and is just coming back to the scene. shes single, lives alone.. recently single.

so we start talking and find out we live near each other. few hours ago we were talking on msn and she asked if i bought the movies i was gonna buy (cause i did) and shes like cool can i was them please and we started talking about making popcorn and whos house to watch it at (didnt think she was serious until she asked my address)

so shes like you gonna come? its getting late - was about 8pm by then and she thought i woulda been able to drive but yeah i dont drive which probably dissapointed her. so she came over and came inside while i got ready.. she loved my dog (she has some) and picked me up and i took my ps3 cause that was the only way to watch it (bluray) .. ten min drive or so.. we get there. had a few laughs and talk in the car. nothin special. i didnt feel any sexual attraction from her side. look like she just wanted company. i like her.. shes very nice.. we have ALOT in common. same food, love for animals, movies.. etc.

so anyway, we decided to have some popcorn and noodles. took about ten mins of our time. by the time we watched the movie it would of been 9pm or 9.15pm. about 15 mins into it she starts yawning and shes like ohhh sorry im so tired... must be the food. and im like, well we can finish it another time.. its cool and i take my ps3 n stuff and she drops me off and off she goes. felt like i wasted my time. id like to see her more but i dunno what the hells goin on. oh and to top it off. i left my damn ps3 controller at her house.. i needed that. i havent told her yet.. was waitin to see what she'd say.

so there you have it.

p.s; i thought her being a nice person and not some hoe that i wouldnt try make moves the first date so i just talked and got to know her a little.... oh, she's 29 years old and asian. i'm 25 and not asian.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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katatonia

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chance- said:
p.s; i thought her being a nice person and not some hoe that i wouldnt try make moves the first date so i just talked and got to know her a little....
Umm really? Enjoy the friends zone.
 

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chance- said:
p.s; i thought her being a nice person and not some hoe that i wouldnt try make moves the first date so i just talked and got to know her a little.... oh, she's 29 years old and asian. i'm 25 and not asian.
LOL

Don't assume that she just wants to be friends man. If you think that way, it'll happen that way. Instead, figure out what you want with her. Do you wanna be just friends with her? if yes, then just be friends with her. Or do you wanna be more than friends with her? IF yes, then start working your game harder.
 

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chance- said:
p.s; i thought her being a nice person and not some hoe that i wouldnt try make moves the first date so i just talked and got to know her a little.... oh, she's 29 years old and asian. i'm 25 and not asian.
This "nice girl" probably went home after your nice-guy date and spent an hour getting bent over the side of her bed by some jerk.
 

chance-

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was a bit hard seeing as she spent half the time making food for us then we were both eating... pretty much after she put the bowl down that was it and it was time to go because she was getting tired. i had no time to plant moves even if i wanted. i hardly got to check her out it was all so fast and i didnt expect to meet anyone on sunday night. i'll see what happens next time... since i left my controller at her house .. heh.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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chance-

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Captain said:
This "nice girl" probably went home after your nice-guy date and spent an hour getting bent over the side of her bed by some jerk.
if that is so.. i probably wouldn't be interested anymore. i didn't go see her for sex... i wanted a new friend, possible gf. i'll take her for a walk with my dog next date so we get a chance to flirt a bit instead of watching a movie and not talking.
 

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I'm kind of old school, so I really haven't done much of the internet thing. But I'm thinking that you missed a few opportunities for neg hits, or some ****y/funny.

Okay, you don't wanna try to bang her on the first night because she's a "nice girl" whatever. But what you DO want is her to think of you as a man. Not an asexual friend. But a man.

So if you could replay that situation again, and she's talking about whose house to watch a movie at, you say "Come to my house? I don't bring girls home on the first date." "Are you cooking for me? I expect to be wooed." Stuff like that will make her understand her place in your world. She's a girl, and you're a man evaluating whether or not she's worthy of your time.
 

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Did it ever cross your mind that she could be setting you up by coming by to case your house in an innocent way? Maybe she wanted to see what your place had to offer for her or friends to come by later to steal???

This is something to consider.. Stranger things have happened.

I would never invite some unknown to my house before feeling her out in person away from my residence.

If you do not think these people are out there, you may find out the hard way. I am not trying to be an a$$, I am trying to get you to think about your safety and worldly possessions first over a piece. That piece may not be worth your peace.
 
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