"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Just had an interesting thought

DJinTraining06

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I'm just sittin here at my cubicle and i had a very interesting thought just pop in my head. The whole argument about chicks liking *******s may have some merit. I do agree with alot of the naysayers bout how a nice guy can get girls too if hes confident. But for the most part i see girls staying with *******s alot more often and for longer than with the nice confident guys.

Here is my theory why. Not sayin this is true or not but i think its def a possibility. Ok so here goes:

We as men like to date girls who are morally better than us. (Im not talkin bout guys who want to get laid cuz then it doesnt matter) Guys who r looking for relationships like girls who r the take home to mom type, good girls, girls who are better than us and we feel were better people with them.
We like to brag about r girls to our friends and stuff. We are so happy with them when we love them. We arent looking for reasons to be unhappy with them them the way girls r with us. girls r never happy. Guys r content (for the most part) when they get what they want. Girls live from emotion to emotion and can change their mind very quick.

Girls don't want their man to be better than them. morally that is. That is a huge turnoff for them. Girls need to be the good one. They need to be able to complain about u to their friends. If ur a good guy it just messes up her world. They love to be with the guy who's rough around the edges,so they could transoform him. They wanna be the reason why ur a good guy. if ur inherently good they have no respect for u. Or no attraction is a better word actually, cuz they may wanna be friends with u if ur a good guy. But they will never look at u sexually. Watch greys anatomy. Who did that chick pick? She had two guys to choose from, and they were both very good looking, confident, successful, etc. She picks the guy who hurt her once before and prob will again. Not the great guy who loved her and wouldnt hurt her.

See it all goes back to the schoolyard. When u were a lil kid who did u wanna hang out with more ur nerdy friend herbert, or the cool kid john. Sure herbert was a true friend, loyal and treated u good, and john used to make fun of u. But when john said hey u wanna hang out after school, and herbert said the same thing. Who did u wanna hang out with? John of course. Part of it was social status, but even more than that, Johns approval was much rarer than herberts, so of course it felt so much better to chill with john. Herbert is nice to everybody so it doenst mean much to u cuz u know herberts affection is easy to get. John on the other hand is the "*******" Girls think very similarly to little children, sorry to say. They get the good feelin of hanging out with the schoolyard bully when they date the *******. It's like it makes them feel special uz they got the ******* to be nice. How boring is it if they get the nice guy to like them? zzzzzzzzzzzzz

Any thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Very true.

But girls also want to be naughty sometimes with the man as the authority figure saying no. Though Nice Guy Herbert probably sucks at that too.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
We as men like to date girls who are morally better than us. (Im not talkin bout guys who want to get laid cuz then it doesnt matter) Guys who r looking for relationships like girls who r the take home to mom type, good girls, girls who are better than us and we feel were better people with them.

What are you talking about? Morally better than us? Why would I want her to be better?

And i don't think i've had a girlfriend who wanted me to be less moral than her.

I don't want a girlfriend to make me better. That just makes me look like crap when i'm alone. "oh i'm such a shell of man since i have no woman."

By whose moral standard anyway?



Watch greys anatomy. Who did that chick pick? She had two guys to choose from, and they were both very good looking, confident, successful, etc. She picks the guy who hurt her once before and prob will again. Not the great guy who loved her and wouldnt hurt her.
I talked to a girl about this. She chose the vet.

And what direction the writers chose to go with have to do with anything? You realize Grey is fictional right?
 
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