(disclaimer – long detailed post and I probably fvcked up lots of times im still learning)
Ok so there is this polish girl at work (I live in uk), she has shown a lot of interest in me since we started work together 3 weeks ago.. She has a bf at home but she made it very clear to me from day 1 that he is studying and probably cheating on her and that she doesn't care because she doesn't love him anymore and say's she wants to finish it but 'feels bad' about having to finish it. She is 6 years younger than me, shes 25 I am 31. In a weeks time she will go back to Poland. (next monday)
So since we started working together there has been a lot of flirting and teasing etc. She also initiated adding me on facebook out of the blue. Last week I told her 'it would be a shame for you to go home without us going for a drink or 2' so she said yes BUT she said that her polish friend should come also. So at that point I kind of thought ok its not a date just a night out. But I was fine with that since I thought at least it would be fun to be out with 2 girls from work. She suggested friday night, I said ok (yes I know weekends are guy time but its impossible for me to do something in the week because of the hours I work)
So we went out, the night went pretty well, I bumped into a lot of people I know and she got the 'jist' that I was a fairly popular guy around where I live. She said 'you're famous'. I looked the business too, had a nice navy rollneck on, black tailored jeans with some fresh vintage white sneakers. (james bond look)
Only problem was that we spent most of the night listening to her polish friend (chaperone) moan about how she wasn't over her ex etc and we all spoke mainly about how she needs to move on etc. I had no time alone with the girl I like so couldn't really make a move. All that really happened was that we linked arms and she rubbed my shoulders as I had back ache from work. She made it clear she was cold and I put my arm around her etc. She asked about my past relationships, I told her that I was involved with a woman that had a child and grew close to the child but I ended it. I didn't say a lot about it just a 30 second description. She seemed impressed that id taken on a child and said 'you are a man for looking after the child' The evening was spent in more of a composed and grown up manner than to how I interact with her in work.
The bars closed and I put them in a taxi. When I got home 10 mins later I had a message on facebook from her:
her: (heart) thank you
20 mins later-
her: and stop being rude to me OKAY
me: what are you thanking me for and how am I being rude?
her: you were rude as **** and I am thanking you for a good night
me: Wouldn't life be boring if a guy didn't know what buttons to press?
her: it would, and I appreciate (smiley face)
She then went on to say sorry if she didn't talk much, she told me her English is poor and she is shy and didn't want to appear stupid. I told her she doesn't need to say much as her eyes give her away. I commented on her bringing her chaperone friend with her and she said she brought her because she wanted me to feel comfortable.. She then sent me one of those emoji's with a kissing face with a heart coming from it. So I said, 'you're very affectionate all of a sudden' and she replied with 'yes it was only because of your outfit' (with a drooling emoji)
Then she goes on to say she is really talkative in her own language and regrets not being able to talk to me more when we were out. And then she says it's more important what you are doing not what you are saying. So I tease her a little and then tell her it's time for me to sleep. Then she writes a load of stuff that kind of comes across a tiny bit desperate and then excuses her self and says good night.
Next day I wait until about 4pm and ask her if she is immune to hangovers like she says, we joke around and she goes on to say 'she was impressed by the advice I gave her friend about moving on from her ex' so I tease her about her being impressed by me and then she says she is not impressed by my 'rudeness' (she means me teasing her). So I tell her, 'you enjoy my teasing, every time I tease you you get mad but I can tell you are trying your best not to smile' and she says, 'ok you do make me smile' She then goes on to say she is out shopping at the moment and that there are lots of pretty girls around etc, so I say 'ahh but they aren't naturally pretty like some' implying that she is naturally pretty.
At some point weeks before I had mentioned to her that I prefer foreign women, she brings it up (all this conversation going on via facebook whilst she is shopping) and says 'I think you like foreign women because they don't talk so much' so I say, 'you don't need a mouth to talk, the eyes say it all, besides, its not what you say, its what you do that counts' She then says 'You are romantic'. I say 'you can't be sure of that' She says 'I know you are' I laugh and say, 'I have to go, shop till you drop' .. Then she is like 'Wait, before you go - I just want to say I trust you, that's why I know you are romantic. Also I have your chewing gum' I say, 'You keep them, they will come in handy if a certain situation arises (wink emoji) She then says, 'are you saying my breath smells?' I laugh and say 'how would I know?' I tell her to enjoy her day and she says 'you too'.
Following evening I get a message from her (sunday night) asking me if i'm ready for a work tomorrow and if my back is ok. I tell her yes but I may need a little massage. She says 'I thought I already gave you one, was it not good enough?' I say I cant remember you giving me one. Then she goes on to say she is sad she is leaving England in a week. She goes on to say she wants to come back here to study. She then starts going on about how I looked like james bond again when we were out (lol) and she goes on to say 'you make out like you are a bad guy but I don't believe you are' so I say 'maybe I am, maybe I'm not.. You have a week left to find out (wink) She says 'I don't think I want to find out (tongue poking out emoji) the only thing I know is that you are rude!' I say 'we will see' and then excuse myself to go for my dinner. She says 'Bye Mr Rude'
So fast forward to today. Everything seems fine, I carry on teasing her as normal in the morning. Then at one point she is bending down to pick some stuff up on the floor and I give her a little nudge and knock her off balance. She gets angry but again 'she is trying not to laugh or smile' Anyway for the rest of the day I don't really see her other than at lunch where she ignores me. Then it gets to the end of the day, we are walking from work and she has this annoyed face on her but still 'trying not to smile or laugh' we walk from work and she says 'I am rude' she looks a little angry but is also kind of playful and tries making fun of me saying 'you have no friends'. Then I say to her, 'its your last week here, maybe we should do something again before you go' (she leaves on Monday) and she says 'Erm no I don't think so' (still kind of looking a little annoyed, but at the same time I sensed she felt like she was enjoying being in control of the frame) So I say, 'so you will leave for Poland and will possibly never see me again, you don't want to go out for some goodbye drinks?' And she says 'No because you are irritating' So I just laugh and say 'ok, goodbye (hername)' and then we go our separate ways.
Have I over done this/given her too much attention? Is it just a **** test? Or was it never there in the first place? I still have a week left working with her... How should I play it if its not already fvcked?
Ok so there is this polish girl at work (I live in uk), she has shown a lot of interest in me since we started work together 3 weeks ago.. She has a bf at home but she made it very clear to me from day 1 that he is studying and probably cheating on her and that she doesn't care because she doesn't love him anymore and say's she wants to finish it but 'feels bad' about having to finish it. She is 6 years younger than me, shes 25 I am 31. In a weeks time she will go back to Poland. (next monday)
So since we started working together there has been a lot of flirting and teasing etc. She also initiated adding me on facebook out of the blue. Last week I told her 'it would be a shame for you to go home without us going for a drink or 2' so she said yes BUT she said that her polish friend should come also. So at that point I kind of thought ok its not a date just a night out. But I was fine with that since I thought at least it would be fun to be out with 2 girls from work. She suggested friday night, I said ok (yes I know weekends are guy time but its impossible for me to do something in the week because of the hours I work)
So we went out, the night went pretty well, I bumped into a lot of people I know and she got the 'jist' that I was a fairly popular guy around where I live. She said 'you're famous'. I looked the business too, had a nice navy rollneck on, black tailored jeans with some fresh vintage white sneakers. (james bond look)
Only problem was that we spent most of the night listening to her polish friend (chaperone) moan about how she wasn't over her ex etc and we all spoke mainly about how she needs to move on etc. I had no time alone with the girl I like so couldn't really make a move. All that really happened was that we linked arms and she rubbed my shoulders as I had back ache from work. She made it clear she was cold and I put my arm around her etc. She asked about my past relationships, I told her that I was involved with a woman that had a child and grew close to the child but I ended it. I didn't say a lot about it just a 30 second description. She seemed impressed that id taken on a child and said 'you are a man for looking after the child' The evening was spent in more of a composed and grown up manner than to how I interact with her in work.
The bars closed and I put them in a taxi. When I got home 10 mins later I had a message on facebook from her:
her: (heart) thank you
20 mins later-
her: and stop being rude to me OKAY
me: what are you thanking me for and how am I being rude?
her: you were rude as **** and I am thanking you for a good night
me: Wouldn't life be boring if a guy didn't know what buttons to press?
her: it would, and I appreciate (smiley face)
She then went on to say sorry if she didn't talk much, she told me her English is poor and she is shy and didn't want to appear stupid. I told her she doesn't need to say much as her eyes give her away. I commented on her bringing her chaperone friend with her and she said she brought her because she wanted me to feel comfortable.. She then sent me one of those emoji's with a kissing face with a heart coming from it. So I said, 'you're very affectionate all of a sudden' and she replied with 'yes it was only because of your outfit' (with a drooling emoji)
Then she goes on to say she is really talkative in her own language and regrets not being able to talk to me more when we were out. And then she says it's more important what you are doing not what you are saying. So I tease her a little and then tell her it's time for me to sleep. Then she writes a load of stuff that kind of comes across a tiny bit desperate and then excuses her self and says good night.
Next day I wait until about 4pm and ask her if she is immune to hangovers like she says, we joke around and she goes on to say 'she was impressed by the advice I gave her friend about moving on from her ex' so I tease her about her being impressed by me and then she says she is not impressed by my 'rudeness' (she means me teasing her). So I tell her, 'you enjoy my teasing, every time I tease you you get mad but I can tell you are trying your best not to smile' and she says, 'ok you do make me smile' She then goes on to say she is out shopping at the moment and that there are lots of pretty girls around etc, so I say 'ahh but they aren't naturally pretty like some' implying that she is naturally pretty.
At some point weeks before I had mentioned to her that I prefer foreign women, she brings it up (all this conversation going on via facebook whilst she is shopping) and says 'I think you like foreign women because they don't talk so much' so I say, 'you don't need a mouth to talk, the eyes say it all, besides, its not what you say, its what you do that counts' She then says 'You are romantic'. I say 'you can't be sure of that' She says 'I know you are' I laugh and say, 'I have to go, shop till you drop' .. Then she is like 'Wait, before you go - I just want to say I trust you, that's why I know you are romantic. Also I have your chewing gum' I say, 'You keep them, they will come in handy if a certain situation arises (wink emoji) She then says, 'are you saying my breath smells?' I laugh and say 'how would I know?' I tell her to enjoy her day and she says 'you too'.
Following evening I get a message from her (sunday night) asking me if i'm ready for a work tomorrow and if my back is ok. I tell her yes but I may need a little massage. She says 'I thought I already gave you one, was it not good enough?' I say I cant remember you giving me one. Then she goes on to say she is sad she is leaving England in a week. She goes on to say she wants to come back here to study. She then starts going on about how I looked like james bond again when we were out (lol) and she goes on to say 'you make out like you are a bad guy but I don't believe you are' so I say 'maybe I am, maybe I'm not.. You have a week left to find out (wink) She says 'I don't think I want to find out (tongue poking out emoji) the only thing I know is that you are rude!' I say 'we will see' and then excuse myself to go for my dinner. She says 'Bye Mr Rude'
So fast forward to today. Everything seems fine, I carry on teasing her as normal in the morning. Then at one point she is bending down to pick some stuff up on the floor and I give her a little nudge and knock her off balance. She gets angry but again 'she is trying not to laugh or smile' Anyway for the rest of the day I don't really see her other than at lunch where she ignores me. Then it gets to the end of the day, we are walking from work and she has this annoyed face on her but still 'trying not to smile or laugh' we walk from work and she says 'I am rude' she looks a little angry but is also kind of playful and tries making fun of me saying 'you have no friends'. Then I say to her, 'its your last week here, maybe we should do something again before you go' (she leaves on Monday) and she says 'Erm no I don't think so' (still kind of looking a little annoyed, but at the same time I sensed she felt like she was enjoying being in control of the frame) So I say, 'so you will leave for Poland and will possibly never see me again, you don't want to go out for some goodbye drinks?' And she says 'No because you are irritating' So I just laugh and say 'ok, goodbye (hername)' and then we go our separate ways.
Have I over done this/given her too much attention? Is it just a **** test? Or was it never there in the first place? I still have a week left working with her... How should I play it if its not already fvcked?
