"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just got flaked on...my response...

zinc4

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First time i have been flaked on in a long time...probably since college days...

My response was: Goodbye, have a nice life :)

I was tempted to go silent at first but this message felt good for some reason. I already have an equally hot plate to replace her for tonight so no real loss. So forget the 3 strike rule..this chick is history.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I always think that response carries with it a trace of caring or slight bitterness. I don't believe in silence either, though.

I've never been flaked on before, but I might have said, "No big deal. Later."

If she just never showed at all and never contacted me, I might say "Classlessness always reveals itself early. Good luck." She will think about that line for days, if not weeks. Here I would be making a non-emotional judgment that she lacks class and is therefore beneath me.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I always think that response carries with it a trace of caring or slight bitterness. I don't believe in silence either, though.

I've never been flaked on before, but I might have said, "No big deal. Later."

If she just never showed at all and never contacted me, I might say "Classlessness always reveals itself early. Good luck." She will think about that line for days, if not weeks. Here I would be making a non-emotional judgment that she lacks class and is therefore beneath me.

Perhaps so, but either way, i won't be dealing with her again...i don't tolerate flaking...unless it's me doing the flaking of course.
 

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The important thing is the action of moving on. Focusing your thoughts and actions on the next action. School/Work/New Woman. That is where the character building is.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Too passive- aggressive. Go hard or go home :D
This, do one but not both.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I always think that response carries with it a trace of caring or slight bitterness. I don't believe in silence either, though.

I've never been flaked on before, but I might have said, "No big deal. Later."

If she just never showed at all and never contacted me, I might say "Classlessness always reveals itself early. Good luck." She will think about that line for days, if not weeks. Here I would be making a non-emotional judgment that she lacks class and is therefore beneath me.
You would set her off. she would blow up and cuss you out and try to tear you apart. Seriously. I know girls exactly like that and they're the ones who normally flake and put up this front of being "nice". It's fun to watch them go off on you though, gives you an insight to what you dodged.lol
 

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Atom Smasher said:
I always think that response carries with it a trace of caring or slight bitterness. I don't believe in silence either, though.

I've never been flaked on before, but I might have said, "No big deal. Later."

If she just never showed at all and never contacted me, I might say "Classlessness always reveals itself early. Good luck." She will think about that line for days, if not weeks. Here I would be making a non-emotional judgment that she lacks class and is therefore beneath me.
meh. probably not. chances are the girl couldn't care less. after all, she's the one rejecting you.

it's not sharp enough to cut that deeply.

if the girl has a particularly low IQ that line might induce a b!tchfest though. but they wouldn't linger on it.
 

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zinc4 said:
First time i have been flaked on in a long time...probably since college days...

My response was: Goodbye, have a nice life :)

I was tempted to go silent at first but this message felt good for some reason. I already have an equally hot plate to replace her for tonight so no real loss. So forget the 3 strike rule..this chick is history.
It's good to draw the line, set boundaries. But at the same time, you can't be quick to anger, or jump to conclusions....that's what the chick does.
 

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Well, apparently, it drove her a little nuts and made her wet....i went out of town to meet a new super hot plate of mine and when i get to the pub about 4 hours after sending the message i notice a barrage of text messages and missed calls from her....her meesages are saying stuff like ok i am waiting here jungli at the train station for you...where are you? and stuff like why didn't you answer my call?

Then i get a call from her and she can here the loud music in the pub and she says where are you a nightclub? i tell her yes i went out of town to see a friend and she says come back here to Chungli and meet me right now! I said sorry but it's too late for today maybe in the future....and she starts getting really desperate but i have been waiting here for you for a long time....i then firmly said no...i don't want to be rude to my friend here..we already made a plan....and then i tell her to call me later that i had to go...i got one more message from her asking me if i was sure and then she finally gave up...

She is very sexy and dresses very spicy like and i imagine it threw her for a loop when i told her to have a nice life..probably the first time a guy has told her that...

The bad news is with my other plate at the pub i got relentlessly amogged by a large group of Taiwanese guys who were admittedly pretty dominant acting and my plate who was by far the hottest girl in the pub was attracted to one of them and the guys were even trying to start some real sh*t with me there for a while and my ditzy plate was eating it up....pretty sure i lost the battle of attraction in her eyes because there were so many of them (Taiwanese) and i got kind of punked out by one of them because i was vastly outnumbered...no way i wouldn't have ended up in the hospital...i had to swallow my pride and let him talk a lot of **** because they were all ready to throw down.... after a while of this i got pissed and told my new plate that i didn't like her new friends i am out of here you can come or stay and she begrudgingly left her slutty friend and the crew of amoggers and i banged her for a few hours at a local hotel...but afterwards she said she didn't feel comfortable and had to go join her friend...i just know that she was off to f^ck the main guy who was amogging me and i probably showed some insecurity by asking her to stay with me...oh well....she is history ..... first time i have lost a plate and it wasn't my choice....my luck has been bad between the flaker and this new hot plate..oh well...these super hot chicks only stay strictly for the chase i have noticed once any hint of the chase is gone their IL drops like a ton of bricks...so when the flaker messages me again i will bang her and drop her like a bad habit..a nice pump and dump....

good news is i banged another new plate this afternoon who i cold approached at the train station last weekend...

on a seperate note.....i f%cking HATE AMOGGERS...i have delt with more amogging here in Taiwan than i have in my entire life in the US...no joke...they are conniving little bastards here the guys that is...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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