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Just got back into the game, Am i crazy or is this chick into me?

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Hello, I recently decided to get back into the game after taking almost two years off to focus on school. I just got accepted into my 2nd choice University for transfer so I thought Id earned it. I was definitely vibing with this girl but Im a little rusty in figuring out if she likes me or not, I used to be really good at that but since its been so long id like a second opinion.

I used to have problems approaching girls, so i just decided to go for it this time. I talked to every attractive chick in all my classes, since this is my last semester I have a bunch of friends in like every class so were always talking and laughing. Every girl I talked to smiled the whole time and seemed to be really nice. If i had to rate myself, I would give myself between 7/8, closer to 8.
Anyway, I work for my CC as a tutor. My job consists of chilling out in a room and waiting for people to come in for help. Last week, there was this new tutor, I was kind of having a bad day when I walked in so I didnt even see her and just picked a table and sat down to study. As i was studying, I noticed other dude tutors going up to this girl and trying to talk to her, she would talk to them for like 5 - 15 mins and he would walk away. I noticed she was pretty hot, but than a lot of people started coming in for help. Mostly its girls that come in, and that day I helped maybe 3 - 4 girls. So than the students leave so I start talking to the receptionist, making her laugh and having fun with her, I notice the new tutor walk past us but didnt think about it too much. I think she was on break because she left her table for awhile and a female student came in and sat down in that table. I sat down next to her and started helping her, the tutor came and took her stuff and put it down next to a table next to the one I was sitting at originally, one that still had all my stuff. I noticed that my friend who tutors the same subject as me talk to her, than the student asked me a question i didnt understand so I called that friend over and had him take over ( he didnt have a chance with her btw).

I went back to my seat and sat down, did a math problem, asked another female tutor for help and when my friend helped that student I was helping, he looked back at me but I signaled to him I was getting help so he kept going. After that, I turned to the new tutor and said Hey.

We ended up talking for about 2-3 hours, uninterrupted. She would not let the conversation stop, I noticed every time there was a pause, she would say something else and we would start discussing that. She asked me my age, i made her guess ( she guessed correctly ), and when I asked her for her age, she actually told me. We talked about each others lives, she asked about my studies, what my plans were, what I wanted to be, what I wanted to do afterward, etc. We talked about religion, and she told me she usually doesnt have deep conversations like that with people. I told her i wanted a house, she said she wanted an apartment but wanted a house when she got married. She told me she doesnt like kids but wants to have just one, I agreed ( but i never asked in the first place ). We were both on swivel chairs and the whole time, her whole body was facing me. When it was time for me to get off ( I get off earlier than her ), she asked me about my schedule and I asked about hers. She confirmed we would be working together once a week, and said she would see me next week. She was laughing and smiling the whole time, she constantly re initiated the conversation, I actually ended up staying later than scheduled because the convo didnt end, I told her I stayed because I came in late. We talked for very long, and not once did she mention a bf. Her phone was on the table, I was even messing with it a few times, and she never touched it the whole time.

I was going to ask for her number, but I didnt want the other tutors to hear me and I didnt want to be unprofessional. Im planning on talking to her next week, than at a high point saying " hey, I like talking to you, here write down your number" And handing her a pen and paper. Than i would tell her to take her break with mine, haha.
So what you guys think? Is this girl into me or am I just reading too much into things?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I don't understand how you cannot understand whether she likes you. She obviously likes you. You also seem quite inexperienced.

From my own experience after I returned to the game after 1.5 years of not drinking or going to the club, I was a little needier and let myself be lead around by girls a little bit as I was unsure of my own SMV.

You should meet other girls and see how they react to you and you'll find out wtf exactly is going on.

But from what I can tell she seems to be quite into you and it's a mutual attraction, plus you can actually hold a conversation with her.

So nothing but green lights to me. Don't get gimicky or nervous, just ask her for her number ASAP, for whatever reason or excuse. You don't have to tell her "I wanna ask you out", she will know what's up anyway. BTW don't really rush into it, just do it when the time is right, but the sooner the better.

You should just type in your own number and call urself with her phone TBH, as she already was letting you fvck with her phone last time. That's much easier and a bit more assertive and fun too.
 

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You are right, I am fairly inexperienced. I did get some girls when I was in hs and middle school, I was usually able to hold conversations but really sucked at approaching and meeting girls. I also sucked at escalating lol. I had a really big fear of rejection. For almost the last 2 years, I did talk to girls as i came across them in my classes, but I did not see them as "girls" and had no interest in them because I wanted to prove myself in school first.

I recently have been approaching many girls, and turns out its super easy and pretty fun. I dont really know what my SMV is, but from the 3 weeks of classes so far this semester, it seems like its fairly decent. I actually didnt know what SMV was until you mentioned it and it actually gives me a reason to talk to girls because that allows me to get a better understanding of my SMV. I dont know if I can hit the clubs because Im 20 and cant really drink, but I think ill just approach random girls around school.

Haha dude that is such a good idea, typing my number on her phone, idk why i didnt think of that. I definitely had the chance too. I will keep that one in mind for sure. It also seemed to me that she was into me, if it turns out she isnt, than I can honestly say I have no clue what it looks like when a girl is into you.

I certainly learned a lot though and thank you for the advice. It is very appreciated. Ill post back here next tuesday and give an update on how it goes.
 

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Just trust your gut. Your ancestors have all done this courtship stuff before. It's in your dna to court chicks. Of course you may stumble, but just make sure you keep school your 1st priority.
 

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haha dude that is so true. As a biologist, that definitely makes a lot of sense to me. If my ancestors could not court girls, I would not be here lol. There had to have been a way for them to know that a potential mate was interested and it certainly seems like it would be the gut, as I have gotten gut feelings and have usually been right. I will keep that in mind and just trust my gut from now on. And school is always a priority for me, I cant allow a girl ruin my future, not when ive worked so hard already. Thanks man. Im definitely glad I found this site lol.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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****, so today i saw the girl again but it just wasnt the same. We talked a lot but it just didnt feel the same. She gave me her number but when i suggested we take our lunch break together she wasnt down. I did the sketch book thing, i got her drawing book, drew a picture of a girl stick figure and wrote "Pretty girl in Tutor Lab -2015." She saw it and laughed and said thanks but that was it. I dont know if its a good idea to keep pursuing since it doesnt look like shes feeling me and we work together.. I dont even feel like contacting her because our connection felt like it was gone. What should i do? Im thinking i should just friendzone her and move on. I also saw her phone and this time she was texting some dude named Steven lol. I just cant believe i was so wrong. Any suggestions on what to do next? I have to admit i am a little disappointed, but i am fine moving on if that is what is best.

I did tell her a few times that she was amazing... for she was a really good artist and that impressed me.

Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I did meet a dude who could be a good wingman so today wasnt a total loss.
 

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ChemGod said:
****, so today i saw the girl again but it just wasnt the same. We talked a lot but it just didnt feel the same. She gave me her number but when i suggested we take our lunch break together she wasnt down. I did the sketch book thing, i got her drawing book, drew a picture of a girl stick figure and wrote "Pretty girl in Tutor Lab -2015." She saw it and laughed and said thanks but that was it. I dont know if its a good idea to keep pursuing since it doesnt look like shes feeling me and we work together.. I dont even feel like contacting her because our connection felt like it was gone. What should i do? Im thinking i should just friendzone her and move on. I also saw her phone and this time she was texting some dude named Steven lol. I just cant believe i was so wrong. Any suggestions on what to do next? I have to admit i am a little disappointed, but i am fine moving on if that is what is best.

I did tell her a few times that she was amazing... for she was a really good artist and that impressed me.

Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I did meet a dude who could be a good wingman so today wasnt a total loss.

Uhh yeah probably time to move on. There's an old saying - strike while the iron is hot. Stuff was vibing between you two and that's your chance.

HOWEVER....

One thing to keep in mind is that you're both at work. You both work at the same place. I personally never advocate in favor of this approach though there are others who have all sorts of tips on how to handle it. One thing I've noticed in my younger years was that if you're vibing with a woman while she is at work, I've seen them feign interest in you if they're bored or having a slow day. I've been on the receiving end of it myself, but you live and learn. That could be a possible reason here too.
 

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Uhh yeah probably time to move on. There's an old saying - strike while the iron is hot. Stuff was vibing between you two and that's your chance.

HOWEVER....

One thing to keep in mind is that you're both at work. You both work at the same place. I personally never advocate in favor of this approach though there are others who have all sorts of tips on how to handle it. One thing I've noticed in my younger years was that if you're vibing with a woman while she is at work, I've seen them feign interest in you if they're bored or having a slow day. I've been on the receiving end of it myself, but you live and learn. That could be a possible reason here too.
Hmm interesting, I hadnt thought about that before. Come to think of it, the only reason I started talking to her was because I was bored haha.

I wrote that when I was on my lunch break, so when I went back in, I just ignored that girl completely and started flirting with other girls. I started flirting a lot with the new receptionist, just for fun ( she was responding very well but I'm not into her ), and than I was having a conversation with some people and she basically put herself into the conversation so I sat next to her a little and started talking to her for a bit before saying bye as if I was leaving than I walked to the receptionist and flirted with her for a good 20 mins. The tutor was nice and smiling like always but Im moving on. She lost her chance lol. I have met other girls in my OChem class who I thought were pretty cute so i think im just gonna start working on them.

Though I can say that this girl showed me I am into intelligent girls and I am very grateful for that. That is a trait I would like in a wife, but for now Im just trying to have fun in college.

I can take this as a lesson learned - Do not try to interpret the actions of girls when they are required to be there lol.

Though she did give me her number, but I have no plans to contact her.
Your input was very much appreciated.
 
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