Just found out new girlfriend has been raped. Need advice :(

[MacDiddy]

She is very much attached to me and pretty much obeys my every whim

except give you what you ultimately want and thats to fcuk her brains out. Which you eventually got, so I've been informed.

it's not like I can just dump her like this and completely devastate her life and betray her trust,

BS... why not.. Smart men don't go into relationships and assume all the chicks troubles and debt.

Call me a captain-save-a-ho or whatever, but I just can't do that and not feel disgusted at myself, it's completely against the moral, upstanding person I always wanted myself to be.

You are a capt.save-a-ho. You won't have any chance to be upstanding if you let baggage like this drag you down...

Seems like she's gotten over this alleged rape easier than you have... me think she kinda liked this guy first,.

 

[backbreaker]

ROTFLMFAO =))))))) Thanx dude for shytting my pants laughing... you wouldn´t be sicilian btw, would you?))

no, i'm black

I was having a really s.hitty night, until I read this. She bought you a f.ucking parrot?! WTF?! Like, you just got a wild hair up your ass and said, "b.itch, buy a parrot!"

actually I'lve always been scared of birds.. .i used to have these dreams where I was tied to like..something with my arms were tied upwards and birds would come and just start pecking my underarms.

:crackup: I just remembered, she didn't buy the parrot.. it's worse than that. She STOLE the parrot from her house and gave it to me..and she has 2 kids. I didn't even want the damn bird. He grew on me and he helped me overcome my fear of birds to the point where I would let him out his cage all the time and he woul sit on my sholder and Fvck with my hair and peck at my food...then one day I was cleaning out his cage and i had the window open he flew away

LOL Backbreaker, your a freakin comedian. Too bad your all the way in CA, Im sure it would be hilarious to go sarging with you.

sad thing is, i'm not exergrating, women are this f'ved up and men don 'tunerstand. that's why I don't take them seriously. how CAN you? I am emotionless when it comes to these tramps for the most part. It would take a woman to prove to me that she is a true quality woman (over time) for me to say..damn..i might need to open up.


I don't wanna take over this post. back to the poster. Run man. You have to learn not to take these things we call women seirously

 

[Hi Jol]

I am in agreement with naes420, Crank_It_Up, etc. The reaction by many people on this board is sick. The suspicion and hostility with which many of you respond to a girl reporting she has been raped is one of the reasons girls are reluctant to report this in the first place.

We (sosuave.com members) are not in a position to figure out whether she has been raped, we are not there. Of course TheLazy should not blindly believe whatever this girl claims, but many of these posters are blindly rejecting it. Again, it is disgusting that the minute a girl claims she has been raped some of these people call her a liar.

So I will base what I recommend off what TheLazy says, and he believes her. TheLazy, I think it is great that you believe it is important to support someone who is going through a difficult emotional time. While we often have moral obligations to provide emotional support, however, I believe we almost never have moral obligations to be in a romantic and/or sexual relationship. TheLazy, you should only stay in the relationship if you continue to enjoy it.

I know it sounds heartless to dump someone because of issues related to their being raped. If she does have insurmountable issues, or if you find this situation is driving you crazy, you really should not be in the situation. On the other hand, you should not dump her just because she has been raped, as some people in this board suggest.

In summary, it would be great of you to give her emotional support for her sake. If you are going to stay in the relationship, however, do it for you, not her. And if breaking off the relationship makes it awkward or impossible to remain friends, then you might just have to get out of the situation altogether. If you continue to enjoy the relationship on its own merits, however, by all means continue it.

 

[backbreaker]

On the other hand, you should not dump her just because she has been raped, as some people in this board suggest.

umm...yeah you should.


you seem to have this notion that everyone in the world cares about each other... you think that ***** gives a **** about him when it's all said and done?

everything that she does wrong from here on out will be blamed on her bering raped

you will NO love life whatsoever


stop trying to be captain save a ho.

When I was struggling, broke and had low(er) self esteem, you think these *****es out here gave a fvck about me? you think they were sticking around to "help me out"? i coudln't keep women as FRIENDS, let along GF's...

but some ***** with tits gives you a sob story about how she was raped and you feel obligated to stick it out, even though it had nothing to do with you.


fvck that

 

[ValleyDJing]

actually I'lve always been scared of birds.. .i used to have these dreams where I was tied to like..something with my arms were tied upwards and birds would come and just start pecking my underarms.

:crackup: I just remembered, she didn't buy the parrot.. it's worse than that. She STOLE the parrot from her house and gave it to me..and she has 2 kids. I didn't even want the damn bird. He grew on me and he helped me overcome my fear of birds to the point where I would let him out his cage all the time and he woul sit on my sholder and Fvck with my hair and peck at my food...then one day I was cleaning out his cage and i had the window open he flew away

:crackup: Ok...now I can't resist, randomness facinates me. LOL! I just have to know, what made this beezy think you should have a parrot? Of all the things in the world...a freaking parrot! :crackup: Not a new car, not a nice watch, or clothes...no, a parrot!

 

[backbreaker]

you know what?? I don't know. That's not the only thing she got me. She gave me an electirc keyboard because I spilled a mixed drink on mine one night getting ready to go out and fried it.. it wasn't as nice as mine but hey.. it was an electric keybord. I eventually gave it to the salvation army.

she was a bartender at the biggest sports bar/stakehouse in probably the the state, definatly the city. even when she didn't spend the night, which was often, i lived 4 blocks away from her job, she would bring me free food every night, even if I had someone else over my house.

she had this ****ty pontiac vibe.. i used to sell cars a while ago, a LONG time ago, and words can't describe I hate pontic vibes..and mine you, I drive a pretty nice car (won't go into details, i don't like talking about myself).. she used to "let me drive her car".. like ***** what the fvck do I want to drive this **** for.. it's a pontiac vibe.

I guess she thought by doing things for me she would get closer to me. She "accidently" left a change of clothes over my house... she would cook her ass off.. one day she came over my house with like 40 dollars worth of grocieries.. good **** to.. Cooco Puffs (the way to my heart), boneless chicken, milk (at this point in my life i ate out 3-4 times a day, I didn't bother cooking), some beer... then she cooked a FULL course meal. She was actually pretty cool.. besides the being a superwhor and all.

She had this idea that she would leave her husband for me becuase I "understood her" and let her be "who she is"... in reality, becuase i knew she was a *****, I didn't bother trying to retain her.. if buying me crap made her happy, fine, not like I needed it or anything.

I mssed mikey though (The parrot)... after a while I could do cool **** with him like let him out his cage and let him go ape**** around my friends.

I have more clothes than most women, including this *****. I have a bigger closet than my mom. I like to dress nice.. even if this ***** would buy me something, more than likely it would be som ething I didn't like. Only my old oneitis could buy me clothes that I actaully wear.

BUT eventually all things must come to an end and it got old, she was married, did have kids and I started to take my future GF more seriously, we went our seperate ways. i ran into her 6 months later in a club and we had sex in my car, and I haven't seen her since.


and you know what's really funny? I never, EVER made a move towards her. I mean, she was really cute, had a lot of sp unk, which I did think WAS cute, but I was just becoming the guy I am now, I had so much ass I couldn't take on any more, and she was married... I thought she was cute and left it at that. She threw herself at me. she used to tell me she wasn't going to call me.. I was used to think..uh..I didn't tell you to follow me home in the first place super*****, get out. Then she used to talk about how she liked the fact that I wasn't needy and how I was so ****y and she loved it..NO *****.. I DON'T LIKE YOU. IT'S REALLY THAT SIMPLE. YOUR CUTE AND YOU ARE A *****.

 

[mrRuckus]

you people take this dj stuff way to seriously...you need to set apart your fuking IM A PIMP **** for LIFE..LIKE THIS!! help her out ..

He's known her a month.

He owes her nothing. He wouldn't go that far out of his way for a dude he's known for a month.

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I had a gf who claimed she was raped when she was 14 by 4 guys. I still have no idea if it's true. No one else knows about it she told me. Not even her mom.

She turned out to be pretty damn nuts. Like she valued her dog more than other people.

 

[tmpgstx]

Say No to Hos. Lol!

Bottom line, she DID get drunk and allowed herself to get too 'dizzy' thus making her an easy target. It doesn't justify the crime at all, as one was apparently committed. Girlz that allow themselves in getting to this point, as LMS will tell you, are indeed Hos. They have lots of sex with many different guys. They put themselves in situations at parties and otherwise in getting teamed etc.

Find out this girls history, how many guys as she been with? Ask around in your circle - her friends, has she put out at a moment's notice?

 

[anbesolrox]

lol, I find it ironic you would be asking advice as to the extent of the damage done to her, on a board filled with guys who seem to have even more damage themselves.

Seriously. This isn't the right forum to get advice on something like this. And after reading some of the posts that this topic has generated I feel like I need to take a shower, you evil bastards.

 

[backbreaker]

ok then, so can I send you all the degenerates and abused women I get? kinda like a salvation army deal?


There are thousands of years of experience on this forum.. I was being lighthearted but at the same time serious. it's a serious matter.

you have no idea, none whatsoever, what you are getting into. What do you want us to do? Tell you to comfort her though her heartache that you had nothing else to do

you know what.. go ahead and do that.. and 2 months from now, when you might have had bad/horrible sex one time, come back to us scorn telling us how she cheated on you or broke up with you, saying she was "soo confused" ever since she got raped.


There are some EXTREMLY intelligent people on this forum. This forum has turned my life around, and quite frainkly, if I would have not had my head up mass and taken some of their advice earlier in life, i would be father ahead than I am now.


anyway, it's very sound advice. although i understand where you are coming from, you owe this woman nothing. it's not your problem, keep it that way. you are too young for this

 

[DJDamage]

What you need to do is establish whether this even took place first.

He would never establish what happened. Only the girl know what happened or what happened in her head. The whole point is that the story is wrapped in a nice little package and it just doesn't add up or sit right with me.

There is more to this story she is not telling you and whatever she did tell you is construed in such a way that it makes her seem to be 100% innocent victim. I just don't buy everything, I have heard and seen too many sh1t in my life to believe that.

Women who are raped are never the same, I don't envy you the kind of sh1t that you will encounter down the road.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Is there like a profile (that we could develop) of a particular type of woman who will falsly accuse a guy of rape? I'd like to know what exactly or what clues I should look for to determine if (when I see and collect info (through my perception) on a woman I'm getting to know or see) I should NOT go down that path of even being NEAR the woman. I can't afford a legal battle right now.

 

[backbreaker]

let's see

upbrining...someone who was either molested by her father or didn't have one at all. in my case, it was the latter

if she seems to be too easy to hook up iwth, there is usually a reason.. just like when I used to sell cars back in 02, if I sold someone TOO easy, I knew there a problem 9 out of 10 times, either credit, BK, wife won't let him, whatever the case my be.

Figure out why she broke up with her ex BF. See if she tries to make herself to be an innocent victim of him.. 9 out of 10 times, this guy is not what she protraies him to be.

Someone who uses drugs or is as an alcholic or a sex addict (in my case, 2 of the 3)

someone who doesn't have alot of female friends, and if she does, you get a "trashy" feel of her firends. If she has normal friends, there is a good chance she is normal. if she goes around claiming **** like rape, tis' a good chance she has burned all her bridges in the past


that's all I could ocme up with for now... most importantly, dont' commit to anything until you have a good understanding of a person. I'd rather be wrong and have you move on than be wrong about someone and end up in a legal battle or something like that.

 

[tmpgstx]

Good points BB. Other red-flags are:

1) She has extremes in the form of mood swings.

2) She dyes her hair alot (worse yet from jet Black to Bombshell Blonde or vice/versa)

3) She gossips to no end and most of it is lies

4) She flirts with alot of guys (worse yet, right in front of you)

5) She has alot of Tats or piercings (very good sign she's a dirty little tramp)

6) She has alot of guy friends and says that they're much better to hang out with because girls are so judgemental (guys are not judgemental if they're getting to tap that ass).

7) At clubs, she goes around hitting on random guys

8) Has fake titties .. usually goes hand-in-hand with extreme hair dying (see number 2)

9) She's an attention vampire. She is constantly seeking attention, even from guys to which she is not attracted

10) She dresses showing lots of skin. The more she shows, the more of a jizz bucket she is

If none of these apply to this girl, then it is likely she is your down-to-earth nice girl who cares about people and is not a self-asorbed or insecure drama queen.

It is not good to make her out to be the victem here, and we are not doing that here at all. There are just too many girls out there who are very promiscuis. Only you can be the judge knowing her and your buddy.

 

[Kevin Cass]

why did she tell you that she got raped in the 1st place?..if my gf told me that my good friend raped her after getting her drunk..i wouldnt believe her at first...i don't like the feeling of this and you gotta trust ur gut in these type's of stiuations..take a step back and anylyze the background.

why is she telling me this
rape is a serious subject that you dont tell your bf that uve only been going out with for a month
she included a good friend of mine..hmm

theres so many things that you should analyze before jumping the gun

 

[backbreaker]

good points man... but some of thoose jsut describe your good ole fashion sperm despenser..not necessarly someone that will claim "rape!" or lye about being raped.. well not alot but some

the girl iw as reffering two was one of the most plain jane dressing people I ever saw. I well tell you who she looked like.. she looked alot like the porn star Jasmine Lynn.. everytime I see her (which isn't often because i'm not taht big into porn) this superwhor is who I would think about... but she dressed pretty plain jane, blue jeans, a shirt from ole navy and dress shows...b ut s he was cute and had spunk..then one day after sex mind you she tells me she was raped by a guy at least once a week for about a year who was 10 years older than her when she was in Jr high... he would wait for her after school and make her have sex with her and she was afraid to tell anyone becuase he just gotten out of jail and was 'dangerous'...I actually believe her, but believe or not believe, the point is, IT'S NOT MY JOB TO FIX HER. She was a ***** before I met her, It's almost 2 years later and I'm sure she is still somewhere with a **** in her mouth. I jsut enjoyed my stop on the train while it lasted


back to the points, was definatly an attention vampire. she went clear out of her way to get my attention and pretty much any hot guy who didn't shower her with it in the first place.

her husband would take her to the club and sit down while she danced with other guys (talk about spinless), she jacked me off one day while her husband was sitting down, saying "he doesn't like to dance" and one day (i had met the poor guy before..she had the nerve to introduce me to him as her "friend") asked me to dance with her:crackup:

 

[Last Man Standing]

Lazy, have you had sexual contact with her???

Ohhh, in case you didn't know - innocent virgin women who have just been raped DON"t have a new "b/f'" and sexual relations a few weeks after!!!!!! She is a liar!!!!!!!

I repeat!

 

[backbreaker]

damn LMS I missed that... you are 150% correct.

how the FVCK do you get raped, and then go though the entire courting process and have a new BF.

some people take YEARS to resume a normal life, at least months

man get your head on straignt and get out

 

[Last Man Standing]

damn LMS I missed that... you are 150% correct.

You were too engrossed in your Superhor/Parrot story!

 

[backbreaker]

lol