"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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just found a trick to handle approach anxiety

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associate the rapid heart beats and anxiety to a rollercoaster ride. For me when approach I feel a lot like when i'm about to go on a rollercoaster. Since I love rollercoasters I have no problem with the anxiety associate with it. In fact I welcome it.

When approach a girl u should try to associate the anxiety and fear to a rollercoaster ride. Doing so will turn your fear and anxiety to into a kind of fear and anxiety that you want to have like when ur about to sit into a rollercoaster.

Don't try this if u dislike like rollercoasters.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good point. The feelings of nervousness and excitement are physically the same - it's only your perception that makes them different.
 
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I have an even better idea; 3 second rule. Before your even approaching the "big drop on ur roller coaster" your already halfway down. As soon as you see her, BAM, that quick, less thinking = more acting.
 
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happy contained excitement instead of fearful contained nervousness.


I let the anxiety out through my eyes, smile, and changes in facial expression. I think the anxiety is felt by trying to contain all your interest and not just letting it out. If a girl is knocking your socks of play it up, like you need a minute to cathc your breath after seeing this girl and make sure she is seeing it.

It will perk up her interest. Most guys no matter how big of losers they are become masters at containing there interest by 18. Showing through what seem like involuntary expressions is different than what girls typically encounter. Just let it go away if she isnt going for it.

I try to throw out my enthusiasm really hard intentionally then reign it back in as much as I can and if she is going for it, it looks like happy contained excitement instead of scary contained nervousness.
 
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