just found a trick to handle approach anxiety

[david90]

associate the rapid heart beats and anxiety to a rollercoaster ride. For me when approach I feel a lot like when i'm about to go on a rollercoaster. Since I love rollercoasters I have no problem with the anxiety associate with it. In fact I welcome it.

When approach a girl u should try to associate the anxiety and fear to a rollercoaster ride. Doing so will turn your fear and anxiety to into a kind of fear and anxiety that you want to have like when ur about to sit into a rollercoaster.

Don't try this if u dislike like rollercoasters.

 

[Jariel]

Good point. The feelings of nervousness and excitement are physically the same - it's only your perception that makes them different.

 

[crunk]

I have an even better idea; 3 second rule. Before your even approaching the "big drop on ur roller coaster" your already halfway down. As soon as you see her, BAM, that quick, less thinking = more acting.

 

[Mr Spitfire]

happy contained excitement instead of fearful contained nervousness.


I let the anxiety out through my eyes, smile, and changes in facial expression. I think the anxiety is felt by trying to contain all your interest and not just letting it out. If a girl is knocking your socks of play it up, like you need a minute to cathc your breath after seeing this girl and make sure she is seeing it.

It will perk up her interest. Most guys no matter how big of losers they are become masters at containing there interest by 18. Showing through what seem like involuntary expressions is different than what girls typically encounter. Just let it go away if she isnt going for it.

I try to throw out my enthusiasm really hard intentionally then reign it back in as much as I can and if she is going for it, it looks like happy contained excitement instead of scary contained nervousness.