"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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just focus on your inputs, not the outputs

btownbuck2012

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So I'm currently working in a job that requires me to do quite a bit of cold calling. My company gets hired out by other companies to get them better sales leads. It's a decent job, definitely not what I want to do for the rest of my life, but it's got me in the area of the country that I want to be in, but that's not what this post is about.

So in my current role, I have to prospect people whom I think our clients would like to talk to, i.e. decision makers at target accounts who have the authority to make the call on whether or not they want to use an outside vendor, get them interested in my client and set up a phone call between them so that they can hash out the details about whether or not they'd like to work together.

Long story short, it can really suck at times. There are times where I catch nothing but sh!t all day. I've had people hang up on me, tell me that I'm terrible at my job, lecture me on how I shouldn't be bothering a person of their "position", etc. etc.

But at the end of the day I've got to hit my quota every month, and I've found a way to do it. Just keep trying.. That's the secret to everything. Effort will always pay off. Always. Sometimes it won't pay off when you think it should, but it always will. every single time. no exceptions.

It's the same thing with dating. Just keep trying. Keep trying to talk to women. Keep trying to improve yourself. Don't ever give up. Some days it truly does feel like you're never going to "get it". You probably think to yourself, "this isn't fair. I've worked so hard to get better with women and I'm still getting nothing. Why is this happening to me?"

Well the short answer is, who knows? Nobody knows why bad things happen to some people while others just seem to have good fortune fall into their lap. But the one CONSTANT, CERTAIN thing you can count on is work ethic. Work Ethic will always reap you some type of benefit. You may be working hard right now for something that will pay off 3-4 maybe 10 years later. Who knows. I do know that if you give up though, it won't ever happen.

Also, take pride in the fact that at least you're trying. At least you're making an effort. In my book, corny I know, that's all that matters. Be the guy who always keeps trying, who always gets back up, who always is ready for another battle. Not only will people respect you more and you'll feel better about yourself, but you'll start to win small battles and gain more confidence.

That's something the world is sorely lacking. Someone with work ethic and a little back bone. Be that guy. The Universe and all it's karma will eventually throw you a bone. So for example in my job I make sure that I make at least 100 calls a day and I also make sure that out of the 100 calls I make, they're all calls to my prospect's DIRECT line. No admin assistant's, no switchboards. Think of talking to women the same way. Are you consistently hitting your quota? I.e. i'm going to talking to 1 girl a day or 5 a week, or 20 a month, whatever. Just focus on hitting your numbers, not the outcome and the rest will take care of it's self.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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While I appreciate the sentiment and reasoning behind the post, I don't fully agree with it. Yes, never give up but also take the time to look at what it is you are doing wrong. If you approach 100 girls and they all turn you down saying no. Something isn't wrong with them and something isn't wrong with you either. Something is wrong with your game.

Stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Take the time to step back once in a while and analyze your game. What you're doing right or wrong.
 

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El Payaso said:
While I appreciate the sentiment and reasoning behind the post, I don't fully agree with it. Yes, never give up but also take the time to look at what it is you are doing wrong. If you approach 100 girls and they all turn you down saying no. Something isn't wrong with them and something isn't wrong with you either. Something is wrong with your game.

Stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Take the time to step back once in a while and analyze your game. What you're doing right or wrong.
100% agree. The PUA model is hit on 100 girls and if one of them talks to you, you're successful. That's not successful - that's shameful.

Work smarter not harder. Also giving up on something that isn't working or making you happy should be applauded. Why make yourself suffer for no good reason??
 

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El Payaso said:
While I appreciate the sentiment and reasoning behind the post, I don't fully agree with it. Yes, never give up but also take the time to look at what it is you are doing wrong. If you approach 100 girls and they all turn you down saying no. Something isn't wrong with them and something isn't wrong with you either. Something is wrong with your game.

Stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Take the time to step back once in a while and analyze your game. What you're doing right or wrong.
The theme I wanted guys to take away from my post was persistence. Obviously, as you progress, you'll constantly be improving and reevaluating your approach. the point is to keep trying. Of course you'll be more efficient with each attempt because of the experience you're gaining.
 

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Not being outcome dependent is very important.

The second you care more about the girl than the experience of improving your confidence is the second your game falls apart.

Failure is a good thing. It means your taking action in your life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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btownbuck2012 said:
The theme I wanted guys to take away from my post was persistence. Obviously, as you progress, you'll constantly be improving and reevaluating your approach. the point is to keep trying. Of course you'll be more efficient with each attempt because of the experience you're gaining.
True. Persistence before improvement.
 
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