"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Just dumped my gf for flirting. Was I too harsh?

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Now tonight she is taking pics and caressing another guys face and his facial hair.
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Yeah... that's a bit of a problem. If I were in your shoes, I would lay it out very clearly why you did it and then cut all contact completely. Or just cut contact completely. You don't owe her anything, being honest and upfront is a bonus when dealing with what has now become a stranger again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks for the responses. I've offered to work on things, but to no avail. I forgot to mention she also wanted to invite a former guy friend that wanted to bang her over to my place. She's just too immature.
 
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Sorry to hear about it. It's really a slippery slope when it comes to these things.

I think we've all been in that situation where something happens and you already know before the outcome that things won't be the same in a relationship.

Not to jack the thread but this topic raises a broader question; what do you when faced with a similar situation? How do you win?

The way I see it, when you tell a girl not to do something, there are but a few options, none of which seem pleasing:

-she listens to you, but resents you for being controlling. she may take this out on you in another way

-she doesn't listen to you, and does what you told her not to do (in which case you either
leave her, or give in to her power move and revert back to afc status)

I know when stuff like this comes up, you should be ready and willing to walk, but if you have a history, especially if you're in an exclusive relationship, it's not that cut and dry.
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I have a perfect answer for this. Be totally fine, and cool. Then do the same thing back to her (making sure it doesnt seem like your doing it to get back at her but just acting like you thought it was fine) and see if she minds - she will.....then she will stop herself - you dont need to SAY ANYTHING - JUST DO

You also need to fix anything that you might be doing thats creating hte problem in the first place -maybe your becoming complacent - not treating her well - this is her way of saying "i want you to treat me better like a little princess sometimes"

Does everyone agree with me here?
 
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