Just dumped my gf for flirting. Was I too harsh?

[Alle_Gory]

Now tonight she is taking pics and caressing another guys face and his facial hair.

Yeah... that's a bit of a problem. If I were in your shoes, I would lay it out very clearly why you did it and then cut all contact completely. Or just cut contact completely. You don't owe her anything, being honest and upfront is a bonus when dealing with what has now become a stranger again.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Thanks for the responses. I've offered to work on things, but to no avail. I forgot to mention she also wanted to invite a former guy friend that wanted to bang her over to my place. She's just too immature.

 

[tomato]

Sorry to hear about it. It's really a slippery slope when it comes to these things.

I think we've all been in that situation where something happens and you already know before the outcome that things won't be the same in a relationship.

Not to jack the thread but this topic raises a broader question; what do you when faced with a similar situation? How do you win?

The way I see it, when you tell a girl not to do something, there are but a few options, none of which seem pleasing:

-she listens to you, but resents you for being controlling. she may take this out on you in another way

-she doesn't listen to you, and does what you told her not to do (in which case you either
leave her, or give in to her power move and revert back to afc status)

I know when stuff like this comes up, you should be ready and willing to walk, but if you have a history, especially if you're in an exclusive relationship, it's not that cut and dry.

I have a perfect answer for this. Be totally fine, and cool. Then do the same thing back to her (making sure it doesnt seem like your doing it to get back at her but just acting like you thought it was fine) and see if she minds - she will.....then she will stop herself - you dont need to SAY ANYTHING - JUST DO

You also need to fix anything that you might be doing thats creating hte problem in the first place -maybe your becoming complacent - not treating her well - this is her way of saying "i want you to treat me better like a little princess sometimes"

Does everyone agree with me here?