"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just dont do it!

check_mate_kid_uk

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Do you ever try and point out somthing that is wrong? I was watching sweet 16 on mtv where rich kids plan there $300,000 parties. One guy was looking at dancers for his party, his dad turns to him and says wow what do you think the body fat % is on her and he says "haha like 1%"

So suddenly my brian switches on and thinks no it way higher you would die if it was 1%

I am sure you have had cases where you are talking to people, some one says somthing wrong, and you are very quick to point out the mistake.

Well guess what, dont do it over trivial matters, do not bother correcting him. I dont care what you thinmk your reason is for doing it, the real reason is because you want to show off you where right.

Well let me tell you somthing. If some one else corrected him, would you care, would you make a big deal that the other person is right? of course not!

Well why would some one else care if oyu are right? they answer is they wouldnt and they dont! You know you are right and you care, so keep it to yourself because all you are doing by correcting some one is making them feel stupid and they will resent you for it each time you do it.

Remember no one else cares that you are right and the person you correct just resents it so you are gaining nothing and lossing somthing, so you should just not do it.

If you dont belive me think how anoyed you get even when a teacher at school corrects you. When you are right you are happy and you associate that feeling with the people that bring it out, and if your are unhappy the opposite happens. Why else do you think your favourite subjects at school are genraly the ones you are best at!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
I dont care what you thinmk your reason is for doing it, the real reason is because you want to show off you where right.
Yes, some people sound pompous and arrogant when correcting a person, but there are times when you NEED to be corrected in order to learn from mistakes.

As long as the person correcting you doesn't do so in a condescending tone, you're unlikely to resent them for trying to help. My old chemistry teacher has corrected me many times, but in a friendly way. Without those corrections I would be making frequent errors in my work.

The ability to admit to mistakes should be valued. Dale Carnegie wrote, "If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically."

But yeah, I agree, correcting should never be about boosting your ego. Instead, you should 'help' or 'improve'.
 

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well simon, like i said dont correct people on trivial matters. If it is important to correct them for example its school work etc then correct them.

I was watching the fabulous life of the rich and famous, also on mtv and john trivolters daughter was so used to going only on private jets, when she went on a normal passenger jet she asked her mum who are all these people, she asumed every one travles around in private jets.

I would often go and tell people omg omg look what she said, i would say this exact story of what i saw on tv, to people i know and about how stupid it is that they spend for example £1,600 on a bag to hold dirty dippers when most girls would dream of that bag that is being used for that. Or the celling with fiber otpics lights that cost £40,000 to put up.

I have realised i was jelous that i could not afford a small car whilst they spend £2600 on the babies pram and i could not afford all these things and these people treat £1000 how i might treat 1 pence.

Recently i realised i am just jelous, im getting better, but i think we just get jelous. Jelousy is bad for everyone, you should watch these programs especialy sweet 16 because you notice that although these people are temporerly happy duirng there £500,000 party they are often more misroable then we ever are.

Make sure you always hide jelousy rather then take picks at the people you are jelosu of, because not only well it make oyu look bad and resented, but if oyu try and live with it and hold it in, then you should be abale to over come it.

Jelousy is another reason we critisize people and it is worse the correcting people, you should never critisize.
 
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