I met an older woman at a business conference six years ago. She worked in a different state, and we hung out a few times that week. I talked about wanting to transfer to her state so it's funny we met and hit it off so well. We started a long distance relationship and eventually six months later I found out she was only physically separated from her husband, not even legally. The whole time she led me to believe she was divorced and he was harassing her. I just started putting the pieces together when she'd get nervous about their friends possibly seeing us together so we wouldn't go out much when I flew to see her every weekend, and because she asked me to stay upstairs when her kids made a surprise visit. She said it was to protect me and her kids' feelings. I researched state court records and found no record of a divorce.After I confronted her she broke down and said she lied because she knew I wouldn't wait on her and felt bad for her husband because he was so depressed and crying to get her back and threatening to get full custody of their kids because he knew of another boyfriend she had before me. I tried to go with it a few more weeks but it became too much drama. I found a box full of letters he'd been giving her begging to work things out. I broke the whole thing off and went no contact.
Well I just read the thread Inker started about his wife cheating. I had my friend look up my ex on Facebook, curious to see if their marriage survived. I couldn't determine if they were still together. She used her maiden name. But I looked at her daughter's page and there were pictures of a little girl who looked just like me, I mean very very much like me. I spent an hour researching friends lists for family members and sure enough it is my ex's daughter. Birthday pictures would put her time of conception almost two to three months before we broke up.
I called her and asked if there's anything she wanted to tell me. She said nothing she didn't already try to tell me. Apparently she tired emailing me but I don't know if she's lying because after we broke up I cancelled my internet service so I lost my email account through that provider. I also changed my phone number. I think if she really wanted me to know she would've found a way. I've been texting her today and she's asking me to leave her alone now. She said she tried to hint at being pregnant but I left her out to dry and her husband stepped up and saved her and it's too late because she already has her dad. So I talked to her husband and he said he's 100% sure it's not his because he got a vasectomy years before and hadn't slept with her for a year. This actually matches what she told me back then. I remember she said she made him get a vasectomy because she might want to have kids with someone else one day and planned on leaving him. I'm sure he's been led to believe I knew the whole time they were still married.
This is really disturbing beyond belief. She never hinted about being pregnant. Even if she did what the hell is that? You don't hint about something that serious. You come out and say it. I used a condom most of the time but she also said she was using birth control. I even saw her little plastic planner container with all these little multi colored pills.
I asked how she knows I'm the bio father and she basically yelled at me and said did you not believe me when I said I was faithful to you? Of course I had to say she proved herself a liar and a cheater so how could I not doubt her. She hung up and texted that I can see her if I move there but she already has a legal father and I will have to share time with that arrangement as she sees appropriate.
I guess I really know how to make a woman hate me. Maybe because I call them out on their $hit.
I don't know why I'm posting this here. Maybe to warn other guys just how shady some people can be in relationships.
Well I just read the thread Inker started about his wife cheating. I had my friend look up my ex on Facebook, curious to see if their marriage survived. I couldn't determine if they were still together. She used her maiden name. But I looked at her daughter's page and there were pictures of a little girl who looked just like me, I mean very very much like me. I spent an hour researching friends lists for family members and sure enough it is my ex's daughter. Birthday pictures would put her time of conception almost two to three months before we broke up.
I called her and asked if there's anything she wanted to tell me. She said nothing she didn't already try to tell me. Apparently she tired emailing me but I don't know if she's lying because after we broke up I cancelled my internet service so I lost my email account through that provider. I also changed my phone number. I think if she really wanted me to know she would've found a way. I've been texting her today and she's asking me to leave her alone now. She said she tried to hint at being pregnant but I left her out to dry and her husband stepped up and saved her and it's too late because she already has her dad. So I talked to her husband and he said he's 100% sure it's not his because he got a vasectomy years before and hadn't slept with her for a year. This actually matches what she told me back then. I remember she said she made him get a vasectomy because she might want to have kids with someone else one day and planned on leaving him. I'm sure he's been led to believe I knew the whole time they were still married.
This is really disturbing beyond belief. She never hinted about being pregnant. Even if she did what the hell is that? You don't hint about something that serious. You come out and say it. I used a condom most of the time but she also said she was using birth control. I even saw her little plastic planner container with all these little multi colored pills.
I asked how she knows I'm the bio father and she basically yelled at me and said did you not believe me when I said I was faithful to you? Of course I had to say she proved herself a liar and a cheater so how could I not doubt her. She hung up and texted that I can see her if I move there but she already has a legal father and I will have to share time with that arrangement as she sees appropriate.
I guess I really know how to make a woman hate me. Maybe because I call them out on their $hit.
I don't know why I'm posting this here. Maybe to warn other guys just how shady some people can be in relationships.
If she does then I suggest doing your best "do I know?" confused look, followed by getting the hell out of town road runner style. Meep Meep!
