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Just did a really successful approach without realizing it.

Accension

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I just went to the shops, only wanting to buy smokes and I was lucky enough to be served by a solid HB 9.9 (perfection doesn't exist).

Me: Hey, can I please get some Super King Menthols -- no, not over there. They're over there I think.

Her: *Flirtatious smile* I'm going to need to see ID.
Me: *Produces ID* Hey, are you even old enough to sell me smokes?
Her: I thought that too but apparently I am *flirty smile*.
Her: You shouldn't be smoking. You'll die.

Me: Hey, you're the one selling them to me. Anyway, what are you doing tonight.
Me: Chit-chat.
Her: Wanna hang out tonight?
Me: You can be my cute escort to my friends party tonight. *number close*

I walk out of the shops and my friends goggling at me, "That was win!"
Then, I felt nervous because I suddenly realized this was an approach.
You see how thinking about things messes with your game?

I was just in the buying-smokes-for-the-weekend-and-getting-ready-to-party mindset, but when you put the dorky lol-I'm-trying-to-numberclose-you mindset on, everything fails :).

Anyway, she just texted me, "See you when I get off, cutie xx." whilst writing this.
Learn from this.
 

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Nice.

But how did you go from carefree just getting some smokes to number closing? If you weren't focusing on number closing or flirting how did you ask her without failing?

Just wanna know so I can try it.
 

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Arts said:
Nice.

But how did you go from carefree just getting some smokes to number closing? If you weren't focusing on number closing or flirting how did you ask her without failing?

Just wanna know so I can try it.
I was already in the weekend state of mind.
You know, talk to everyone and maybe invite some people over to my mates.

Number closing or flirting wasn't on my mind and it clearly wasn't me trying to do either.
I think that's why it was so incredibly natural because we were just two people that happened to bump into each other and the vibes we put off were compatible.

I'll try expand on this abstract answer because you're probably looking for something more concrete.

1. Just go about your day.
2. There will be girls in your day. Talk to them not because you want to try pick her up but because she might be a cool person.
3. If she turns out to be cool, you might naturally start flirting. The transition from "We're being social people." to "We're flirting." is so subtle you probably won't realize it happened until after.

Number 3 is where every PUA messes up big time.
It's because they're consciously trying to initiate an unconscious response (attraction).

This is the natural 'mind set' and it will come to you from experience.
In the mean time, stop trying to pickup girls because when two people vibe it happens naturally (often she will pursue it).

Don't expect things to 'just happen' for a while.
 
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