just cant seem to hold ineresting conversation

[kevin1198]

i've been practicing my social skills, talking to people, kino, etc. and i must say that i've come a long way. but i still have the problem of keeping it interesting.

even if i ask the person about themselves, it eventually ends up with the person being more interested in somebody else. i cant really keep it funny either. i have a good wit, but it never really shows when i need it, just at certain times.

ive tried watching alot of comedy, but no improvement.
can you help me with this?

 

[eaglez1177]

Im kinda in this situation too, its def a tough thing to work on. But this really helped me and im sure it will help you too.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16274

^Its "The Art of Conversation" by Pulse

 

[kevin1198]

thanks! ill check it out

****EDIT****

I've read this in the Highschool bible, a great article, but i guess a little refreshing wouldnt hurt

 

[TheEnergizer]

imo, both you guys are worrying about it too much with going into the details of 'the art of conversation'. really the main thing is to just have fun and play around if you wanna be interesting. its not at all a studied approach that requires a lot of thinking. just learn how to have fun or something. i dont really know how to explain it. be creative in your speech if you want. like instead of saying hi how are you say hello name how are you this fine morning in an interesting way or something. it mostly has to do with mood. just instead of just sitting there drum on the table or give a huge smile to someone or something and just start acting like youre full of energy and eventually you WILL be full of energy and things will be easy. eventually it just comes naturally and you'll become more interesting! i used to be boring too but i changed.

oh but one thing that is important that i discovered just recently- have you ever had those days where youre all hyper and fun on the inside but on the outside youre just sitting there doing nothing? i used to do this a bunch and it would get me no where cuz i thought i was doing the right thing by being in a fun mood but i discovered it was all inside me. so what i did is just kinda started doing little things on the outside that somehow change your mood like what i said before just like drum on your legs or something or beat box under your breath and i suddenly felt good on the outside and 'outside my head' and i could easily talk to anyone. its amazing how such little things make such a difference lol.

so yeah. basically what did it for me is to just forget about all these ways to do this and just have fun in the moment and in the world around you, not inside your little head. its all about your mood. just be in the right mood and youll be able to keep anyone interested.

 

[eaglez1177]

^excellent advice!

 

[She_feelin_Me]

It's just like having a convo with your closest friend except she has a pvssy thats it! You can talk about anything and like TheEngergizer said just loosen up and have fun. Bounce off your surroundings, notice things about her and ask questions.

 

[kevin1198]

thanks guys, great advice!