Just call me Captain Hindsight (I urge you to read and learn from my mistake)

[JohnnyStrabler]

So I am on my way home from the mall, and I usually dont take this bus/route. But since I have time to kill, I said what the heck. As I walk into the bus I noticed this girl, a solid 9 in my book, glance at me and go back to her phone. As I sat down on my seat of choice (she is now at my 2 o' clock facing away) I saw her look at me and quickly look away. I thought to myself "hmmm maybe she just does that, people do that when a new person comes into the bus....no biggie"

The excruciating 15 minutes bus ride is now extended to an agonizing 45 minutes, thanks to school children and agitated drivers. I sat there alternating between looking at her or the window beside me (I can see her reflection...dude I cant keep my eyes off her...you guys should see her), and from time to time I will catch her turn around and look at my direction (her 8 o' clock), then brush her hair several times with her hands and go back to her phone (or check herself in the reflection of her phone). I thought to myself; "maybe she is looking out the window, like enjoying the view....just stay calm Johnny boy" at one point she took off her earphones and stuff her iPod into her purse. I then, thought to myself "hmmm, ok maybe she is tired of the music" but then she looked at my direction, looked down and smiled to herself. I looked at the seat behind me and saw a guy in a suit I thought to myself "OH! She must be looking at him! He looks important! All I am wearing is my 2 year old v-neck....good thing I realize this now and spared myself from embarrassment"

After 45 minutes of shuffling through my songs and contemplating about creative ways to kill myself as I am now staring at something I cannot have (ok...I was not thinking about suicide, that was a joke) I am finally there at my stop. I went off the bus and as I was walking in the street I looked to my left where the bus is now driving away slowly, I looked at the bus window and saw her looking directly at me, she gave me a smile and a wave as the bus drove away......

FML. Let this idiocy of mine be a warning to others. When in doubt, approach! Rejection is truly better than regret

 

[rocket87]

Fail!

Hope you learned from this. You will figure it out, eventually.. It'll just hit you one day. Maybe this was that one time for you that does it.

Best worst-case opener when you have NOTHING else = "hey i'm getting off in a couple stops but I had to come see if I knew you, you look familiar." Or just go for direct game. Either way it's going to turn into direct game so it doesn't really matter. She'll know you're approaching her based on looks. Which is no big deal, since you're a man and selective about your targets.


gl in the future <3

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

I am going to go bury my head in sand somewhere........

 

[rocket87]

I am going to go bury my head in sand somewhere........

Lol dude. I know the feeling. Honestly, feeling this way, at least for me, always benefits me in the future. Anything from work stuff to game stuff, hen I f*** up (due to being retarded, not giving enough effort, etc.) I always improve permanently from there on out. I'm talking about strictly situations where I just didn't even try. Beating yourself up over it so you have a feeling associated with the epic fail can help in the future.

In the big picture though, this could be the last time you ever let an opportunity saturate like you did that day. Just move on, it'll happen again.. over and over, there's so many chances. You just have to seize them. Go for a nice run or do some lifting or whatever and get your mind off it.

 

[Kenny Powers]

on the bright side this story f-ing made my day hahahaha i was legit laughing out loud. The end was hilarious! Sorry to take so much pleasure from your pain but such is life LIVE AND LEARN

 

[DJDamage]

FML. Let this idiocy of mine be a warning to others. When in doubt, approach! Rejection is truly better than regret

Yep, those who hesitate masturbate.

The longer you wait for the perfect moment to talk to a girl, the more likely it will flee away from you.

If you think she likes you then assume she does.

Say anything. In your situation you could have asked if she knew when was the next bus was coming and follow it up by some joke that they never come on time anyway's just to gauage her response to you.

Your situation may not be a loss cause after all since you got some strong IOI's in the end. Although chances are slim you can always come back to that bus stop a week later and take the same bus at the exact time or go on craiglist and post under "missed connections".

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

but such is life LIVE AND LEARN

of course

also to add more lulz this was what I looked like at the end

http://laurencarr.webs.com/photos/deer_in_the_headlights_look.jpg

or John Krasinski's reaction at 7:49 to be more precise

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MyGJXLxtVEo

 

[Kirro]

Johnny my dude, you'll get over it, you'll get another opportunity sometime, how you use it is up to you. Next time, will you seize the moment or pass it up? That's something you & time have to work out.

As for me, I let opportunities pass me by continuously, even on occasions where it couldn't be any easier I've passed them up, I don't feel I'm ready & if I die before I am...whoops......I played this game the wrong way before, I'd rather die than experience that again.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

Your situation may not be a loss cause after all since you got some strong IOI's in the end. .

Totally dude, when she took off her earphones my pen!s was yelling "DUDE! DO IT NAO!!!!! GO GO GO TALK TO HER NOW, BOSS!!!!" but my brain was like "look behind you she might be looking somewhere else"

Johnny my dude, you'll get over it, you'll get another opportunity sometime, how you use it is up to you. Next time, will you seize the moment or pass it up? That's something you & time have to work out.

I will always remember this day as the April 26 incident....

Not making excuses, but I was unshaven, my hair was not combed, I was wearing the plainest of all my clothes, and I am running on 3 hours sleep. I did not feel like a DJ.

Well, Imma leave for now to do my homework just to get my mind off this.

Gentlemen; APPROACH! APPROACH! APPROACH!

 

[Kirro]

Totally dude, when she took off her earphones my pen!s was yelling "DUDE! DO IT NAO!!!!! GO GO GO TALK TO HER NOW, BOSS!!!!" but my brain was like "look behind you she might be looking somewhere else"



I will always remember this day as the April 26 incident....

Not making excuses, but I was unshaven, my hair was not combed, I was wearing the plainest of all my clothes, and I am running on 3 hours sleep. I did not feel like a DJ.

Well, Imma leave for now to do my homework just to get my mind off this.

Gentlemen; APPROACH! APPROACH! APPROACH!

Dude, you have a better body than 90% of the population, its gonna take more than scruff, plain clothes & fatigue to turn a girl off physically...despite all of that, you're at a point where you'll still look good regardless, YOU JUST WUSSED. Don't try to rationalize it.

& I'll approach when I'm damn good & ready, this shop doesn't open until my best products are on display. Proper advertising + quality = idea...not one or the other both.

 

[dudewut]

Fail!

Hope you learned from this. You will figure it out, eventually.. It'll just hit you one day. Maybe this was that one time for you that does it.

Best worst-case opener when you have NOTHING else = "hey i'm getting off in a couple stops but I had to come see if I knew you, you look familiar." Or just go for direct game. Either way it's going to turn into direct game so it doesn't really matter. She'll know you're approaching her based on looks. Which is no big deal, since you're a man and selective about your targets.


gl in the future <3

That is a GREAT opener, what if she says something along the line of "No, you dont know me" or something like that?

I dont mean to derail the thread but the delivery is VERY important BTW, a bank teller at a local bank was asking me if I would like her to put the balance at the back of the receipt thingy, and what I meant to say was "what? you want my number? Why dont you just write yours there" in a ****y and joking manner but I guess I stuttered or maybe I talked too fast and that she probably only heard the words "number" and "write yours there" so she gave me a business card.

So yeah OP, you are not the only one who failed today, at least we both learned something. And so will other people who will read this thread. Thanks for the lulz.

 

[hansol]

Hahahaha awe man, that's a bummer. Big balls for sharing though.

 

[IamJosan]

This has happened to me before. It sucks! But then I get over it because I see a million more hotties the next minute. There are so many of them!

 

[drf408]

That is awesome and true - Rejection is better than regret. My posts are all the same issue. I analyze and over think things and do the exact same thing! I think that too when a girl looks over a lot, like "oh she's just looking around" **** like that always happens to me. But when do i get the nerve to approach I over thought it soo much my mind goes blank and I have NOTHING to say.