You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Wait what? Use logic man. Your instincts told you to DTB. You acted. Develop your resolve. Endure.Dante420 said:It's just it amounted a legitimate reason to break up with her. I want her back but there's nothing I can do, it's totally on her.
1) Shes NOT your girl friend. Shes just some trick who you let take advantage of you.She even admitted after in a text to taking advantage of me. It's just how she reacts, plus I'm on the line of maybe starting something with another girl and I don't want to get stuck in that because I want my girlfriend.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
So your identity was a duality.Dante420 said:This girl means everything to me though. You really don't understand. She was like THE person who was there for me just about everyday for 2 years. She was my first girlfriend. She said that she is so sorry for having treated me like this and that she can never forgive herself and that it's all her fault.
I really want her back.
It's not like I can be like "Oh you just did all this and let our relationship go down the drain but lets get back together after you have shown me absolutely nothing to fix it"
Don't be an idiot. Find a new chick, stop this nonsense and grow up. An F-buddy relationship is an attempt at a quasi-relationship.Dante420 said:17. I'll make her a **** buddy for now.
Yeah, you know and we all know that you wont make her a f buddy, maybe for the first week or something, after that you will got back to your relationship and she will know that you cant handle living without her.Ryoku said:Don't be an idiot. Find a new chick, stop this nonsense and grow up. An F-buddy relationship is an attempt at a quasi-relationship.
How are you going to react when you find out shes getting it from other dudes? Grow a pair kid. Meet new chicks. Where are you going after high school?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.