"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Just broke up with my 3yrs LTR 20 minsutes ago. It hasn't sunken in yet.

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I still love her with all of my heart, and it was fukcing sad to leave. We practically lived together the last year or so.

Right now I am actually in high spirits because I still havent realized that it actually is over. But I know that in a few days, around tuesday or so, I'll be fukcing miserable. Seeing her with another man, not getting any texts from her, wondering what she does, who she's with, maybe seing her with some of my friends, not getting any TLC, not getting daily sex, not eating her great food...

I've decided to sarge as much as possible, even though rejections will probably hurt a bit now.


So heres the plan to avoid depression:

* Go to the gym 3 times per week.
* I'm gonna drink less.
* I'm gonna try and be with my friends as much as possible.
* Sarge as much as possible whenever I can.
* Try and focus on NEXT TARGET when I get rejected. Try to laugh it off.
* Get a tan, shower more often (up to 2 times pr day), get cleener and whiter teeth, dress better, be more outgoing.
* Ride my motorcycle as much as I can before the winter.
* Do cardio a few hours every week.


I'll try to post the results of my sarging here. Any additional tips would be grately appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You've answered nothing with everything. To confront your problem you need to come clean about the reason you decided to split.

It's commendable that you're combating the situation with working on the outside of your house but what's more important is your state of mind.
 

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I'm not the least bit hungry even though I haven't eaten much. I feel so extremely restless...

I'm going to meet up with a 7 now that I've known for about a year but never really spent much time with. I's weird but I don't feel any attraction towards her like I used to do when I was with my LTR.

I'm such a crybaby now...
 

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Now I'm just looking at my phone hoping she'll text me. Miserable...

Just got home from HB7. I was there for just an hour or so. We arranged to meet later this week for dinner.
 

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If you don't mind me asking, why did you break up with her in the first place? 3 years is a long time, and you'll come out of this a better person. Stay in the gym, stay with your friends, and try to be in the field as much as possible. Now's a good time to focus on your job, school, etc. Get YOUR life in order, and don't worry about hers. You made the decision to break up, so you shouldn't be worried if she's going to text you or not.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She hust texted me actually and just wrote "Have a nice day at work tomorrow." I haven't replied and dunno if I will, but its a bit childish not to reply...

I broke up with her because she's not the one I wanna spend my life with. Shes great and I love her, but just not the right one for me. In a few days I probably will think she's the one for me. But done is done. I'm gonna try and eat some even though I'm not hungry... The worst is going to be to go to bed tonight...
 

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Dude, I was in exactly the same position 2 weeks ago. We had been going for 2 years. Only thing you can do it what you said your going to do. Believe me, theres always a better version out there my friend, ALWAYS!
 

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Target_100 said:
I broke up with her because she's not the one I wanna spend my life with. Shes great and I love her, but just not the right one for me.
It's odd though, your post sounds like YOU were the one who was dumped. "just not the right one for me" is pretty vague. I tend to think that when you dump someone you either can't tolerate the person any more or you're simply just a confident enough person that has other options and this minor bump will have no real effect on you.
 

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I broke up with a girl i was with for over 4 years about 8 months ago.
It is certainly hard to leave when you still love them.

but when you have reasons for breaking up you gotta just keep remembering those reasons and not all the good things... otherwise you might find yourself wanting to get back together.

...I won't be in a LTR for a long time. As time goes on i'm feeling more and more carefree and single, and loving it.

time heals all.

...unless you're foot was blown off in nam or something. :rolleyes:
 

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Target_100 said:
I'm not the least bit hungry even though I haven't eaten much. I feel so extremely restless...

I'm going to meet up with a 7 now that I've known for about a year but never really spent much time with. I's weird but I don't feel any attraction towards her like I used to do when I was with my LTR.

I'm such a crybaby now...

Target_100 said:
Now I'm just looking at my phone hoping she'll text me. Miserable...

Just got home from HB7. I was there for just an hour or so. We arranged to meet later this week for dinner.
This isn't goddamn LiveJournal or a fvcking diary. Go cry in your cheerios somewhere else. I think it's you who pees sitting down.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude you're a girl. Seriously. You broke up with her so what are you crying about? Obivously its gonna feel strange not haveing her around if you where going out with her for 3 years but you broke up with her. She sould be the one crying and acting like a b!tch not you.
 

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My testo is in the middle to low range when I we did bloodscreening in the army, so the comment on p1ssing seated wasn't too far off. It's therapy to write this sh1t for me, and I'm gonna post up my progress on the sarging as well.
 

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What's with you guys? If it helps him to write about it let him write about it. Stick to your word man don't get back together with her if you know she's not what you want. And i think all the things you say you're gonna do now that you're broken up are good things so keep at em and keep us posted on the sarging.
 

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Target_100 said:
My testo is in the middle to low range when I we did bloodscreening in the army, so the comment on p1ssing seated wasn't too far off. It's therapy to write this sh1t for me, and I'm gonna post up my progress on the sarging as well.
Have you looked into test replacement therapy? I wouldn't accept that sh!t.
 

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Just because he broke up with her doesn't mean he can't be sad. 3 years is a long time. He was used to her and now that shes gone he feels weird and out of place. Not unusual. But if you really think that she isn't the one theres no point in continuing the relationship. Hopefully you made the right choice. If you didn't miss her that would be kind of weird. Just move on and keep active.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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