"Just be yourself" - A hidden gem

[TheChosenJuan]

Most people say it doesn't work
Most people don't realize very few guys actually display their real personality in front of girls they're interested in. In fact, it's the exact opposite. They're afraid of showing who they really are because they're worried the girl might not reciprocate the interest. Don't lie, we've all done it. This doesn't just end with the approach. It carries on through the phone/texting/dating game (if you even get that far with her). And this is the main reason we don't get the girl. Ironic, isn't it? You go in with the mindset "I've gotta say some C&F lines, be super smooth and go for the close." Essentially you've ruined your own chances.

Here's the best tip you're ever going to hear on approaching a girl:

DON'T THINK

One more time...

DO NOT THINK

Every time you try to think of an opener, you psych yourself out.

The minute you stop thinking, the ideas will flow out of your mouth and disperse into the conversation. You'll never have to worry about what to say again. In fact, if you find yourself starting to think, it's a warning saying "What I would normally say isn't good enough, I have to think of something else."

It's not about C&F, it's not about confidence, it's not about social value... it's about not falling into a mind fvck.

It's Russian Roulette with no luck. You can kiss it goodbye there's no such thing as sympathy.

 

[prairiedog24]

My real personality is someone who easily gets addicted to an interest. Be in academics, hobbies, or the current cutie who's caught my eye.

In short, my real personality is AFC. It's one thing to show excitement about my JD, it's another thing to show excitement about my girl. Probably don't want to let that shine through.

 

[Snowman23]

who says that's AFC?

 

[backbreaker]

alot of people misinterpret just be yourself.

it should be, just be yourself, unless you suck, then become someone wortha sh!t, then just be yourself.

 

[Commandante]

They're afraid of showing who they really are because they're worried the girl might not reciprocate the interest.

Nice dogma, but it´s false. Psychiatrist studies say that 60% of people should have some sort of therapy. Scott Adamns says that everybody is an idiot. And to tell the truth I think Scott is right. Everybody, I have a close relationship with (let´s say these are my friends), is somehow weird. But I like them anyway. Their weirdness makes my life funny.

Long story short: the guys hide their real identity because they are simply weird. And women don´t like weird guys.

 

[COD]

thats your advice --dont think................wow..........

I SAY HAVE DEFAULT openers/texts/etc

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Yes, thinking too much can ruin your game. The key is just living in the moment and focus on what you are doing.

And being yourself is fine. Not, your AFC self but, your Don Juan self. Being your self is really just... Doing what YOU want to do. Wearing the clothes YOU like to wear. Saying what YOU wanna say. That is being yourself. Not acting like other people do or doing what everyone else is doing.

 

[Elmoshow21]

It is perfectly OK to THINK. Talking to yourself inside your own head is the root of the problem and is what I believe the OP is trying to guard against. Also, the phase "just be yourself" is missing clarity. It causes a person to question who their 'self' is. Instead, the phrase should be "just be comfortable with yourself".