Just a thought....

[muttley]

Sup Dudes,

i just had a little thought regarding attraction and all that stuff.
I was thinking that from past experiences that if i ever found a girl to be attractive , approached her and saw a low IL from her, id next her. Now if she , at a later date showed increasing amounts of IL i would most likey respond positvely towards her and maybe get something going with her. Id indeed consider her.

I was wondering, is this the same for chicks? i.e. if a chick likes you BUT you show low IL at the time, so she moves on, then you show a higher IL a few weeks/months later, will she also respond the way i would or how most guys would? or would she not be bothered at all, meaning would she still be interested?

I had this thought because i was speaking with a female friend i know about this and she said that "no matter what chances you have with that guy , you will always like him" .

Now, i dont know if i should believe this because my past experiences counteract this, i could be wrong, i dunno

what do you guys think about this?

stay positive

muttley

 

[squirrels]

So you're asking if you should try to pretend you're NOT interested to try to make HER more interested?

It depends. But I think you're overcomplicating the process.

 

[Qmanchoo]

I think she was speaking to the idea that if you created attraction in her during your interaction and as a result she likes you...that she'll never not like you until you do something to swing her opinion in a negative direction

Also

I think her talking about chances = how much social value the girls has vs. the guy. If his is value is much higher her chances are lower (since he has options), but as long as his remains higher she will always like him.

So, given that lets re-write what she said so that it makes sense.

"no matter what chances you have with that guy, you will always like him"

"If the guy is sexy and attractive and I perceive that his social value as higher than mine....and he doesn't do anything to make me think he's a chump...I'll never stop liking him"

 

[PRMoon]

You're asking will her intrest carry over after you express low IL, and it depends on the girl. Just like it would with you if were to see a girl and she didn't display that much interest in you and the next time you saw her there might be some OTHER hot girl there that you're taking intrest in. On one hand you've already seen that the first girl didn't show that much interest so you figure why go back down that road when you've got opportunity elsewhere.

There are thousands of ways a situation like this could play itself out. It could be in your favor it could be against you. Every indivudual person will have a different mind set depending on the situition there presented with. It's all about playing the cards we're delt.