"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just a thought about guys who say ugly guys can get hot chicks.

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There are lots of very hot women with ugly dudes.

You'll find that alot of models are dating ugly dudes.

But take note of this, usually the ugly dudes are alpha males: strong personality, loud, bad ass, ****y and arrogant, rich or funny.

You never (or rarely, for those who take my words literally) see a 10 with an ugly dude who is a pu$$y little b!tch or a shy nerd.

And the reason for that, for us men, looks account for one slice of the attraction pie and the others are confidence, social status, financial status, lifestyle etc.

Looks aren't the be-all and end-all but you have to have something else going for you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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realtalk said:
There are lots of very hot women with ugly dudes.

You'll find that alot of models are dating ugly dudes.

But take note of this, usually the ugly dudes are alpha males: strong personality, loud, bad ass, ****y and arrogant, rich or funny.

You never (or rarely, for those who take my words literally) see a 10 with an ugly dude who is a pu$$y little b!tch or a shy nerd.

And the reason for that, for us men, looks account for one slice of the attraction pie and the others are confidence, social status, financial status, lifestyle etc.

Looks aren't the be-all and end-all but you have to have something else going for you.
its the alpha qualities that give the high value, this is what newbies and those in denial find hard to accept

o yeh and loks are retardedly subjective, i always laugh when someone goes "a HB 9.5" "HB7.5" etc... thats a very exact mark... and would be different for every one...totally pointless online validation seeking
 

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o yeh and loks are retardedly subjective, i always laugh when someone goes "a HB 9.5" "HB7.5" etc... thats a very exact mark... and would be different for every one
I agree to some extent. But there's always that one girl that it seems like all the guys want. Some of this may be due to her ability to flirt/lead guys on/wrap men around her finger. But she has to have the looks to back it up or it doesn't work.

It's true there is some variation according to taste. Different guys may look for different things in a woman. But generally speaking, an attractive woman is an attractive woman, and most guys will recognize her as such.
 

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How long do you plan to continue with this charade JASA? This lurker is getting sick of your bull****.
It's not MY B.S. I'm just quoting the experts. Oh, and Luis Alvarez officially endorses evolution i.e., agrees that females do not look for facial symmetry in a mate.

Also how about actually reading The Descent of Man written by him before using the good name of Charles Darwin to support yourself you cretin?
Relax. I'm sure you have the ability to communicate your argument against science without including childish personal attacks. I've always wanted to read the Descent of Man but I'm very busy nowadays. I do however know that he makes no mention of females using the facial symmetry of males as criteria for choosing a mate.


What I find VERY interesting is that nobody on your pro-AFC/anti-DJ side will post a picture of themselves to illustrate where their extensive experience on this subject is derived from. It always boils down to hearsay, usually from isolated incidents at drunken parties. You, evidently, are no exception and are left at the mercy of 150 years of hard data and research.
 

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usually the ugly dudes are alpha males: strong personality, loud, bad ass, ****y and arrogant, rich or funny.
Something else to think about: Maybe there are things about the woman that drive her value down. Like she may have a large number of kids, STDs, or she may just be batsh!t crazy.

I've noticed this in my own life when guys I knew who didn't seem to have much going for them were able to land a very physically attractive woman. The thing was, few other guys were willing to put up with her BS because she was a total nut job.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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zekko said:
Something else to think about: Maybe there are things about the woman that drive her value down. Like she may have a large number of kids, STDs, or she may just be batsh!t crazy.

I've noticed this in my own life when guys I knew who didn't seem to have much going for them were able to land a very physically attractive woman. The thing was, few other guys were willing to put up with her BS because she was a total nut job.
That's a really good point and something I tend to forget.

I guess we sometimes put hot women on a pedestal and forget they have their own problems and insecurities.
 
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