"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just a quick tip to the guys here, the newbies...

schttrj

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Ok, I will try to keep it as short and to the point as possible.

Try to understand being good to a girl is not bad, but being NICE to a girl is bad. NICE is when you are trying to be good to her and that is bad. But just giving flowers or chocolates at certain occassions is perfectly fine, it shows that you care for her but don't do it to such an extent where she feels she is the most important thing in your life. Nooooo! I am not saying ignore how she feels like. Remember you care about her but she is not everything your life has got.

Regarding approach, what worked me is what I writing here. Guys, I have seen being in the right upbeat state is what is first needed for approaching and gaming. And dudes, the 3-second rule works wonders. Always remember if you can't approach within that spontaneous moment, you should not approach at all. And always do it when you feel like doing it not for the sake of doing it.

C/F things, Negs, Push-pull all these are very important in creating attraction, we all know. But one thing we should remember and that I think is the most important thing when you are gaming a girl. Two things, you need to open up or present yourself like you are an open (not stuck-up) person and she is fully enjoying herself being with you. These two things being taken care of, your game would be much easier.

This is what I have in mind right now. You would be surprised if I say that I am learning some new things everyday and I am really enjoying this whole process of becoming a PUA and I would update this thread if I come up to any new realisation.

Guys are always welcome to let what they think and rectify me if they want.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well yeah about that spontaneous approach im not that sure simply because you still can do an approach even when 3 seconds are over.
Could somebody please PM me the link to the thread which started all of this 3 seconds crap?
 

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The 3 second rule probably was started by Mystery and wouldn't have been started on these forums.

I've realized something. Being nice is only really bad when you are doing it to seek approval.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Absolutely, being nice is when you are tryin to be good to her consciously going out of your way of course. Otherwise, being good is good.

and about the 3-seconds rule, not that you have to look at the watch and say 3 sex over I am not going to approach, but the decision is to be made within 3 sex or simply spontaneously. and it works, man. Just my thought.
 

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SinJester said:
The 3 second rule probably was started by Mystery and wouldn't have been started on these forums.

I've realized something. Being nice is only really bad when you are doing it to seek approval.

its not that being nice is only bad when you are seeking approval...

unfortunately women THINK that because you are nice its because you are seeking approval

whether true or not

just like when you are geniunely trying to have a conversation with a women. even if its just to start convo she more than likely ASSUME you are trying to hit on her.

so im just an arse to everyone when im out :moon:

but the fact that im geniunely a sincere person is contradicting to my persona which makes me very interesting and mysterious.
 
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