"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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just a quick question

shady313

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hey guys need some help here i had this girl over at my place this weekend and we got on the topic of buying a house an i was sayin i want to buy a farm house but where i live they cost alot but north of me there pretty cheap an she say to me that she would love to move up north is that her way of pretty much sayin that she down with me any help os good help thanks guys
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PeeGee

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Learn from my advice that my stupid ass can't follow: don't think (too much) -- just act.

If she says that she wants to move up north, say 'pack your bags we're going to find a place' and do it.
 

shady313

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thanks bro ya i always think to much when it come to this sh!t
 

oakraiderz2

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Periods...please...youre not 4.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rhoto

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There needs to be a competence exam required for this site.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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She is just agreeing with you and likes the idea or she is getting serious with you.
 

DismantleRepair

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Question? I didn't see any question marks. Or any grammar, for that matter.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mavrick

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She's just expressing your commonalities. Don't ask her to marry you just yet. It's good that she is in agreement.
 
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