"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a little reminder

jeffthechef

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This site is meant to help you become an alpha/dj.

Of course being an alpha means more girls, but that shouldn't be your main objective. You don't become an alpha by getting girls so before you ask questions about how to get that date or that lay. Perhaps you should really be considering and discovering new ways to become more of an alpha.

What is an alpha though?
There are so many possible yet plausible definitions. However, I think most of the responses would have one thing in common. And, that common thing would be happiness. Basically, if you can walk home afterschool or sit in your room, and feel like dancing or smiling at the stupidest ****, you're close enough. There's no need to try and lead others or show your dominance because people naturally are attracted to happy people.

i haven't felt any urges to get in a relationship or bed with someone for a couple months. i had on and off oneitis for this one hb 9.8 for the past two years. I feel so damn happy and haven't had any afc impulses. I can see her one day and completely forget about it by the end of the day. I used to analyze every single moment. So i would really like to thank those guys who helped me earlier. I had a thread about what to do, and most guys told me that my urge to make another move to end my oneitis was simply an excuse to pursue my clearly evident oneitis. I really wanted to, but didn't in the end. It's been a few months since then, and I feel as though I'm in control for the first time. I've been dancing at home and at school so much and even had some girls walk by and dance.

One thing that works for me is if i play some music in the morning while i get ready for school. I begin to dance and party and it usually carries throughout the day cause i carry this huge ass grin that makes me look like that guy in the viagra commercials.

If you really want to work on being an alpha and getting girls at the same time, SMILE:) :D ...Everyone has mentioned it before. BUT I'M EMPHASIZING IT. Smile at every single girl you see at school. The ones you think are attractive, aren't attractive, you're friends with, and even the ones you dislike. If you can smile this much, it will add to the manipulatable part of your charisma. I try to smile at every girl i see and more of those shy and reluctant girls are easing up. Most of the girls i don't know even smile back and it helps when you try to approach later on. When girls ask me why i'm smiling when nothing is going on, I simply say, "I'm just happy." The girl usually reacts two ways.
1. They say, "Weirdo. Pfft." I keep on smiling and pity them for not being happy.
2. They smile back. Flirting pursues.
TRY IT.

Smile and dance and sing. :) :rock: :woo:
YOU'RE THE ALPHA, THE DJ, THE KING, THE GUY THAT EVERY ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND.

Basically, be happy. Realize that you don't need a girl or sex.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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eaglez1177

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As always, great advice jeff!
 

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jeffthechef said:
This site is meant to help you become an alpha/dj.

Of course being an alpha means more girls, but that shouldn't be your main objective. You don't become an alpha by getting girls so before you ask questions about how to get that date or that lay. Perhaps you should really be considering and discovering new ways to become more of an alpha.

What is an alpha though?
There are so many possible yet plausible definitions. However, I think most of the responses would have one thing in common. And, that common thing would be happiness. Basically, if you can walk home afterschool or sit in your room, and feel like dancing or smiling at the stupidest ****, you're close enough. There's no need to try and lead others or show your dominance because people naturally are attracted to happy people.

i haven't felt any urges to get in a relationship or bed with someone for a couple months. i had on and off oneitis for this one hb 9.8 for the past two years. I feel so damn happy and haven't had any afc impulses. I can see her one day and completely forget about it by the end of the day. I used to analyze every single moment. So i would really like to thank those guys who helped me earlier. I had a thread about what to do, and most guys told me that my urge to make another move to end my oneitis was simply an excuse to pursue my clearly evident oneitis. I really wanted to, but didn't in the end. It's been a few months since then, and I feel as though I'm in control for the first time. I've been dancing at home and at school so much and even had some girls walk by and dance.

One thing that works for me is if i play some music in the morning while i get ready for school. I begin to dance and party and it usually carries throughout the day cause i carry this huge ass grin that makes me look like that guy in the viagra commercials.

If you really want to work on being an alpha and getting girls at the same time, SMILE:) :D ...Everyone has mentioned it before. BUT I'M EMPHASIZING IT. Smile at every single girl you see at school. The ones you think are attractive, aren't attractive, you're friends with, and even the ones you dislike. If you can smile this much, it will add to the manipulatable part of your charisma. I try to smile at every girl i see and more of those shy and reluctant girls are easing up. Most of the girls i don't know even smile back and it helps when you try to approach later on. When girls ask me why i'm smiling when nothing is going on, I simply say, "I'm just happy." The girl usually reacts two ways.
1. They say, "Weirdo. Pfft." I keep on smiling and pity them for not being happy.
2. They smile back. Flirting pursues.
TRY IT.

Smile and dance and sing. :) :rock: :woo:
YOU'RE THE ALPHA, THE DJ, THE KING, THE GUY THAT EVERY ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND.

Basically, be happy. Realize that you don't need a girl or sex.
I don't really like your definition of alpha. I just see it as a guy who's not afraid of his sexuality and who is being a man. That's why the alpha male is happy.

This is also goes back to the concept of self-amusement, that's what it's all about. Just self-amuse and girls will follow.

This advice would not work in a relationship because you have to make women feel different emotions. You can't always be happy, it's part of being humain.
 

CaptainJ

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Every AFC needs to read this

Actually not just AFCs, but people in general
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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