"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just a little reminder

jeffthechef

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This site is meant to help you become an alpha/dj.

Of course being an alpha means more girls, but that shouldn't be your main objective. You don't become an alpha by getting girls so before you ask questions about how to get that date or that lay. Perhaps you should really be considering and discovering new ways to become more of an alpha.

What is an alpha though?
There are so many possible yet plausible definitions. However, I think most of the responses would have one thing in common. And, that common thing would be happiness. Basically, if you can walk home afterschool or sit in your room, and feel like dancing or smiling at the stupidest ****, you're close enough. There's no need to try and lead others or show your dominance because people naturally are attracted to happy people.

i haven't felt any urges to get in a relationship or bed with someone for a couple months. i had on and off oneitis for this one hb 9.8 for the past two years. I feel so damn happy and haven't had any afc impulses. I can see her one day and completely forget about it by the end of the day. I used to analyze every single moment. So i would really like to thank those guys who helped me earlier. I had a thread about what to do, and most guys told me that my urge to make another move to end my oneitis was simply an excuse to pursue my clearly evident oneitis. I really wanted to, but didn't in the end. It's been a few months since then, and I feel as though I'm in control for the first time. I've been dancing at home and at school so much and even had some girls walk by and dance.

One thing that works for me is if i play some music in the morning while i get ready for school. I begin to dance and party and it usually carries throughout the day cause i carry this huge ass grin that makes me look like that guy in the viagra commercials.

If you really want to work on being an alpha and getting girls at the same time, SMILE:) :D ...Everyone has mentioned it before. BUT I'M EMPHASIZING IT. Smile at every single girl you see at school. The ones you think are attractive, aren't attractive, you're friends with, and even the ones you dislike. If you can smile this much, it will add to the manipulatable part of your charisma. I try to smile at every girl i see and more of those shy and reluctant girls are easing up. Most of the girls i don't know even smile back and it helps when you try to approach later on. When girls ask me why i'm smiling when nothing is going on, I simply say, "I'm just happy." The girl usually reacts two ways.
1. They say, "Weirdo. Pfft." I keep on smiling and pity them for not being happy.
2. They smile back. Flirting pursues.
TRY IT.

Smile and dance and sing. :) :rock: :woo:
YOU'RE THE ALPHA, THE DJ, THE KING, THE GUY THAT EVERY ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND.

Basically, be happy. Realize that you don't need a girl or sex.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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eaglez1177

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As always, great advice jeff!
 

It's-Me

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jeffthechef said:
This site is meant to help you become an alpha/dj.

Of course being an alpha means more girls, but that shouldn't be your main objective. You don't become an alpha by getting girls so before you ask questions about how to get that date or that lay. Perhaps you should really be considering and discovering new ways to become more of an alpha.

What is an alpha though?
There are so many possible yet plausible definitions. However, I think most of the responses would have one thing in common. And, that common thing would be happiness. Basically, if you can walk home afterschool or sit in your room, and feel like dancing or smiling at the stupidest ****, you're close enough. There's no need to try and lead others or show your dominance because people naturally are attracted to happy people.

i haven't felt any urges to get in a relationship or bed with someone for a couple months. i had on and off oneitis for this one hb 9.8 for the past two years. I feel so damn happy and haven't had any afc impulses. I can see her one day and completely forget about it by the end of the day. I used to analyze every single moment. So i would really like to thank those guys who helped me earlier. I had a thread about what to do, and most guys told me that my urge to make another move to end my oneitis was simply an excuse to pursue my clearly evident oneitis. I really wanted to, but didn't in the end. It's been a few months since then, and I feel as though I'm in control for the first time. I've been dancing at home and at school so much and even had some girls walk by and dance.

One thing that works for me is if i play some music in the morning while i get ready for school. I begin to dance and party and it usually carries throughout the day cause i carry this huge ass grin that makes me look like that guy in the viagra commercials.

If you really want to work on being an alpha and getting girls at the same time, SMILE:) :D ...Everyone has mentioned it before. BUT I'M EMPHASIZING IT. Smile at every single girl you see at school. The ones you think are attractive, aren't attractive, you're friends with, and even the ones you dislike. If you can smile this much, it will add to the manipulatable part of your charisma. I try to smile at every girl i see and more of those shy and reluctant girls are easing up. Most of the girls i don't know even smile back and it helps when you try to approach later on. When girls ask me why i'm smiling when nothing is going on, I simply say, "I'm just happy." The girl usually reacts two ways.
1. They say, "Weirdo. Pfft." I keep on smiling and pity them for not being happy.
2. They smile back. Flirting pursues.
TRY IT.

Smile and dance and sing. :) :rock: :woo:
YOU'RE THE ALPHA, THE DJ, THE KING, THE GUY THAT EVERY ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND.

Basically, be happy. Realize that you don't need a girl or sex.
I don't really like your definition of alpha. I just see it as a guy who's not afraid of his sexuality and who is being a man. That's why the alpha male is happy.

This is also goes back to the concept of self-amusement, that's what it's all about. Just self-amuse and girls will follow.

This advice would not work in a relationship because you have to make women feel different emotions. You can't always be happy, it's part of being humain.
 

CaptainJ

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Every AFC needs to read this

Actually not just AFCs, but people in general
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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