Befuddled
Don Juan
Hey fellas. It's been a heck of a long time since i posted here...and well ive forgotten my old ID and password... so anyway... just a little situation that got me totally by surprise..... and i just wanted some feedback from you guys.
So i met these couple of girls who were aquaintances with each other a couple of months ago. i was really attracted to one of them(#1), and the other one was just cool to hang out with...kinda like one of the guys(#2). Both have boyfriends.... #1's bf is around, and #2's is a long distance thing.
So early on, i was mack-in #1 up, unfortunately she kinda(not sure) shot me down....so i cold shouldered her just cause what she did was totally disrespectful. This awkwardly started having positive effects... unfortunately i wasnt interested anymore. so she finally got the message and is out of the equation...at least for me. ive met a couple of girls since then. But #2 and me seem to hhad become good friends. And trust me i kept it at friends...i'd talk to her about other girls n stuff. i wasnt all that attracted to her, but she was a cool person. I wasnt gonna play the happy home wrecker with her. And we actually went out a couple of times.... not dates, just friends. There was lot of Kino from her part now that i think about it, but in my mind it was just friends all along sine she kinoed everyone that way(people were starting to think we were bf and gf, which shocked the hell out of me).
Now... we'd talk some (not as much as bf and gf did, but we'd talk) and well i didnt feel the need to sweet talk her at all so id be totally honest. So here we have a couple of events unfolding:
1. somehow we ended up talking about dates and who has to pay. i said... i felt the persons company was why id go out with them in the begining, and id go dutch. (i paid for the stuff every time we went out.... didnt bother me at all, cause just friends...id always pay for friends) (maybe thats my mistake not sure). Apparently she got preety huffy about this...so much so that she told other mutual friends.
2. i smoke the icky-icky sometimes with my buds, and far less often than most and she started riding me about that, so i laid it on the line and told her id give up eating processed foods before i give up 'natural' foods.
3. So she asks me, would you let your kids smoke ? i told hert hat would be their choice...and that i didnt want children. that got her all huffy again...and she told me i needed to grow up. ive never had friends do this lol.....
4. we are at a bar and she told me that someone asked her if shed have sex with me...and she said that was disgusting. Now...to me... lol...that wasnt insulting at all... shes a friend....i wouldnt shag her up either. then....get this.... she asks me what i thought !?!? so since we were friends... i said.... no comment. because if i said yes...it would be weird between us and if i said no, id be gay.
So then the other day we (a study group) were heading out somewhere, and she asked me if it was too expensive ? (i was kinda surprised cause we were goin to mickeyD's)
oh well...
so here's the problem. this girl....who in my eyes was a great friend, with a boyfriend, which i totally respected, has totally gone cold on me.. and i mean.... ice queen cold. i crack jokes... and before we all used to laugh, now she just redicules me..which everyone else still finds my jokes funny. it's very uncofortable. whats going on oh DJ-gods, cause i am truely... befuddled.
So i met these couple of girls who were aquaintances with each other a couple of months ago. i was really attracted to one of them(#1), and the other one was just cool to hang out with...kinda like one of the guys(#2). Both have boyfriends.... #1's bf is around, and #2's is a long distance thing.
So early on, i was mack-in #1 up, unfortunately she kinda(not sure) shot me down....so i cold shouldered her just cause what she did was totally disrespectful. This awkwardly started having positive effects... unfortunately i wasnt interested anymore. so she finally got the message and is out of the equation...at least for me. ive met a couple of girls since then. But #2 and me seem to hhad become good friends. And trust me i kept it at friends...i'd talk to her about other girls n stuff. i wasnt all that attracted to her, but she was a cool person. I wasnt gonna play the happy home wrecker with her. And we actually went out a couple of times.... not dates, just friends. There was lot of Kino from her part now that i think about it, but in my mind it was just friends all along sine she kinoed everyone that way(people were starting to think we were bf and gf, which shocked the hell out of me).
Now... we'd talk some (not as much as bf and gf did, but we'd talk) and well i didnt feel the need to sweet talk her at all so id be totally honest. So here we have a couple of events unfolding:
1. somehow we ended up talking about dates and who has to pay. i said... i felt the persons company was why id go out with them in the begining, and id go dutch. (i paid for the stuff every time we went out.... didnt bother me at all, cause just friends...id always pay for friends) (maybe thats my mistake not sure). Apparently she got preety huffy about this...so much so that she told other mutual friends.
2. i smoke the icky-icky sometimes with my buds, and far less often than most and she started riding me about that, so i laid it on the line and told her id give up eating processed foods before i give up 'natural' foods.
3. So she asks me, would you let your kids smoke ? i told hert hat would be their choice...and that i didnt want children. that got her all huffy again...and she told me i needed to grow up. ive never had friends do this lol.....
4. we are at a bar and she told me that someone asked her if shed have sex with me...and she said that was disgusting. Now...to me... lol...that wasnt insulting at all... shes a friend....i wouldnt shag her up either. then....get this.... she asks me what i thought !?!? so since we were friends... i said.... no comment. because if i said yes...it would be weird between us and if i said no, id be gay.
So then the other day we (a study group) were heading out somewhere, and she asked me if it was too expensive ? (i was kinda surprised cause we were goin to mickeyD's)
oh well...
so here's the problem. this girl....who in my eyes was a great friend, with a boyfriend, which i totally respected, has totally gone cold on me.. and i mean.... ice queen cold. i crack jokes... and before we all used to laugh, now she just redicules me..which everyone else still finds my jokes funny. it's very uncofortable. whats going on oh DJ-gods, cause i am truely... befuddled.
