"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thank god, I just dumped my girl RIGHT BEFORE she was about to dump me. THANK GOD I kept the upper hand. Phew, dodged that bullet.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I really don't think that can be considered keeping the upper hand. If you 2 aren't going to see each other, then what's the point of "keeping the upper hand." Also, how did you know she was going to dump you? Sounds pointless to me.
 

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How.. utterly... saddening.
 

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Here the point .














Heres you O-|-<
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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teencraft

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I just felt like posting this up. It almost felt liberating for me because i was the WORST AFC in the world. I used to hang on to relationships til they were definitely past due and then when the girl dumped me I would "Convince" her she should stick with me. It almost makes me sick thinking about it. It just feels very good to have the power in a relationship for once and I felt like posting it up.
 

LikRetsam

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No no, really, you're cool now.
 

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Originally posted by teencraft
Thank god, I just dumped my girl RIGHT BEFORE she was about to dump me. THANK GOD I kept the upper hand. Phew, dodged that bullet.
Do you want a cookie?
 

LikRetsam

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You mean... Seeing a problem and dashing for the exit? No this isn't way better, this is called being a chump. And if he's that willing and happy to kick her out just so HE doesn't look bad, what does it say about the relationship itself? This was so obviously set up to happen this way. He 'caught wind' of what was going on from a 'friend' and did what he was expected to do.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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