JukeboxHero's Approach Journal

[Jukeboxhero]

Alright guys!

I'm officially starting my approach journal today. Here's the plan

1. Go out. Say "Hi" and make eye contact with at least 15-20 strangers. At least half of them will be attractive girls.
2. Have at least 6 conversations with strangers
3. Make at least 3 approaches with attractive girls. Try to kino and get a number from at least one of them.

My first scenario will be taking my dog for a walk at a nice metro park. I don't know how long I'll be there, but it's more to walk my dog then to talk to girls..hopefully it will serve as a good warm-up though.

later today I think I'll hit up some Malls and probably a club/bar later tonight.

Aright guys. I'm off, I'll report back later tonight or tommorow. Wish me luck!

 

[Jukeboxhero]

Alright....

Well, yesterday (Saturday) didn't go too well.

I went to the park to walk my dog and said "hi, how are you?" or "nice day" to almost everyone I met. It felt good just to be outside, instead of moping in front of my computer all day. I was actually in a pretty good mood. I even had a few brief conversations with people. Unfortunately there wasn't any single girls. It was all parents with children and couples, save one girl who was studying some Jehovah Witness material. I asked her a few questions about that and then left.

Then, I tried going out later in the evening and something happened. I just didn't feel in the mood. I think it's partially because I started getting all introverted and thinking about what I really want to with my life...maybe, maybe not.
But overall, I just felt very low energy, listless, apathetic.....Do you ever feel like that? I hope it's just a temporary slump, since I know everyone has their bad days, where they don't even feel like talking to people. I mean, I wanted to, but everytime I thought about it, I just felt more discouraged for some reason.

So, I hope I can learn something from this.

What do you guys do to get in the mood? To feel outgoing, energetic, funny, confident and all of that stuff? Also, my mind draws blanks when I see any target to approach, especially if they're in a group because that seems to feel really awkward. I feel that my issue is less about fear of rejection, and more about feeling awkward and not knowing what to say.

If anyone can give me ANY ideas about what you do to open up the creative side of your brain...or to just get in the mood to approach and come up with anything interesting to say..that doesn't make you seem like a boring person. Please, I would like any suggestions.
And it doesn't have to be a specific canned line (because I know a lot of people are against those), but even that might be enough to get me started, and then I can spin off of that!

 

[BCOMusic]

Hey man,
Confidence is something that is really important to build.

I did the DJ Boot Camp exercise in eye contact and conversation which worked pretty well, but the one thing that really stood out is....

Leave people better off then the were before you came. Spread the joy. It seems like you are having problem finding the joy in your life, and that is something that no one here can help you with.

It is about you though....sitting in front of a computer all day will cause you to mope around, you should be accomplishing something.

What did you do today to get where you want to go tomorow. The path is LONG but you will start to see what many people talk about on this forum. Read as much as you want, as long as you implement what you read and understand it. There is a LOT of good philosophy on this website, and really smart people as well.

Why are you approaching? Are you are boring person? Why do you identify yourself with boring?

You are what you make of yourself.

Also,

Not knowing what to say = Seeking Approval

Why does it matter what you say, if you aren't a slave to the outcome?