"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Judging Advice

everywomanshero

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After having met a lot of guys from the community, I have some basic rules for determining where someone is at:

Worries about how to open == Definitely less than 6 weeks field experience.

Worries about techniques becoming exposed == doesn't understand that all advantages eventually even out. This is an evolutionary principle anyone who has read "the red queen" should understand. All we do is simply create new advantages by observation "in the wild" and field testing. Material continues to work by sheer volume of winning techniques.

Obesses over techniques, body language, or micro elements of a successful PU in a negative fashion that degrades himself or his mates == guy who cannot pull. Sarging is fun, and sure we all want to reverse engineer successful pickups in a positive, productive manner. Haters are guys who cannot pull, so instead they seek to destroy everyones state.

Guys who try to "pull you away from sets" == guy cannot get a set to stick and is scared to approach alone. We are not girls, we do not need to roam in packs.

Wants to look around venue before approaching == tool

picky about sets or claims there is no one worth approaching == approach anxiety/excuser

We really need to start exposing KBJs. Even though it may be obvious to us who these people are, they are very confusing to newcomers who are swamped with information overload. This only adds to the learning curve when they receive bad advice. As always, I am available for anyone on any forum to sarge with. I think we should all lead by example.



Feel free to add to the list.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Damian

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AMEN.

Guys who get the number close, but can't have a relationship = Fronters. They know all the techniques and routines, but don't have the inner game to back any of it up.

-Damian
 

SamePendo

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everywomanshero said:
We really need to start exposing KBJs.
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everywomanshero

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I don't mean exposing by going online and slaming them at will. Man, that would just make the forums drama central. If a guy is a slacker, hopefully he will come out more often and correct the problem. However, when someone refuses to make any steps towards progress after a certain length of time....it's for his own good.

You can literally go from a guy who doesn't know what to say to a guy who never runs out of impromptu routines in a very short time by sarging day in and day out. Give the game 110% and sarge at every opportunity, and you will be rewarded with friends, sex, and unstoppable state. I can't imagine living any other way.
 
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