"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Judging a person's virginity

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I've heard some people say that they can tell whether a person had sex before or not by looking at them or judging their body languages. Is that true and how can you tell?

Do you make yourself more valuable by telling a girl u never ever had sex before or the other way around?

And I heard someone on this forum say that once you apply kino on a girl, you are telling her that you had sex with someone before. Is this true?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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antidonjuan said:
(1) I've heard some people say that they can tell whether a person had sex before or not by looking at them or judging their body languages. Is that true and how can you tell?

(2) Do you make yourself more valuable by telling a girl u never ever had sex before or the other way around?

(3) And I heard someone on this forum say that once you apply kino on a girl, you are telling her that you had sex with someone before. Is this true?
Dont believe all the bull**** people tell you!

1)you cant tell if someone is a virgin by looking at them. Im a virgin but everyone I talk thinks Im a "pimp" and get ass everywhere

2) Dont put sex up on a pedastol it not a big deal.

3) False depend on what type of kino grabbing a girls arse then yes

a tap on the shoulder than no

follow the link in my sig to get great faster
 

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No, but I am really good at reading bodylanguage, there are some very important characteristics that you should get to know. Some are really obvious. People who are having sex are relaxed, more concentrated and dont fiddle with things. There are tons more, but I am tired right now, will probably update tomorrow.

People who are sexually starved: Often nervous, itchy, fiddling with pens, pieces of paper etc, you can see it in their eyes; they crave it. They often scratch their privates and such in public (yes, girls too). Another great way of finding the starved; you know when you sit on a chair and your leg sorta starts to jump up and down? Classic sign of sexual craving or sexual anxiety.

Will update tomorrow, post any questions here, good night! :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wow, i can't wait for the updates! you are so smart!
the body languages i understand but how can you tell in their eyes!?
the leg jumps up and down is sorta interesting because i saw this girl doing it.
sometimes when i look at a girl who is pretty i just instinctly see them as sluts (slut face) and some girls i see them completely innocent.
Is the body language pick ups work for everyone? i noe some pretty good actors out their too! (me)

anyways, thank you for your reply and this psychology thing is so cool!
 

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I can tell she's not a virgin by the way moans when im fcking her

But no, this is all stupid, no offense.
 

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You usually can't tell a person's a virgin unless they look really nerdy or something like that. If I told someone I was a virgin they would be really really surprised. I'm assuming you can tell someone is a virgin though the first time they have sex because most people suck there first time.
 

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In Motion said:
No, but I am really good at reading bodylanguage, there are some very important characteristics that you should get to know. Some are really obvious. People who are having sex are relaxed, more concentrated and dont fiddle with things. There are tons more, but I am tired right now, will probably update tomorrow.

People who are sexually starved: Often nervous, itchy, fiddling with pens, pieces of paper etc, you can see it in their eyes; they crave it. They often scratch their privates and such in public (yes, girls too). Another great way of finding the starved; you know when you sit on a chair and your leg sorta starts to jump up and down? Classic sign of sexual craving or sexual anxiety.

Will update tomorrow, post any questions here, good night! :)
that was almost convincing.

say its true... then give a list of reasons to back it up, right?

no. just because you say it's true doesn't make it true.
 

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Ok, here we go. First I want to mention some things I forgot yesterday being partially high of poppyseed bagels.

1. What I have mentioned may not be caused by sexual things, it can also be caused from such simple things as nervousness, anxiety etc. However, people tend to think about sex ALOT. You will have to study the person a bit and take a look at the circumstaces before you judge.

2. I used the wrong word for the leg jumping up and down, what I meant was that it expresses sexual frustration. This is a very clear sign and can usually only be explained by sexual frustration or ADD.

3. Masturbation can help disguise a lot of this but nothing can really replace real sex. Some people are also good at faking but if you can read them well enough you can probably see through their disguise.

4. I have been observing one of my best friends behaviors trough the past year, (she is a girl btw, and a very attractive one at that, prob an HB8-9) through dryspells and spankin times. From now on I will simply refer to her as the subject. This is very important to back up what I have said, and prove to doubters like Michele.

All right, Ill start of with my subjects behavior over the past year. I also want to make it clear that I am in no way an emotional tampon, she has learned that she cant ***** to me about such things and instead *****es about it to her AFC friends. The things she has informed me with are things like: "I got a new boyfriend, I am banging him, I broke up, banging some other guy."

Ok: this started out while the subject had a boyfriend and was banging. In this period she was happy, relaxed and concentrated. She got good grades at school and had a good social life. NOTE: this does not necessarily have anything to do with the fact that she was having sex, this was probably just her normal self.

Her boyfriend breaks up with her leaving her a little depressed. Now this is the most interesting part; for the next couple of months she started acting more frustrated and angry. Her grades at school went down and she started drinking more. Her horniness went WAY up and she even asked me to have sex with her, (why would I want to ruin a good friendship?). In class she was less concentrated, this one time she actually started masturbating IN class with an electric eraser! Her body language was more spastic then usual and as stated previously she became more aggressive and frustrated. She looked confused and stressed.

Now: The subject aquired a new boyfriend and things slowly progressed to a normal state. I know that they were/are having sex, her grades went back up and she started acting normally again, she felt and looked more relaxed.

I could probably write a book about this but I have little time and dont want to spend my day on a forum. If you h ave any questions or are in need of further evidence, please post here.

I recall you asked me about the eyes? I believe it was the could sir Roald Dahl who said that you can smile with your eyes. This is probably something you have seen before, now in concurrence you can also be horny and filled with sexual frustration with your eyes, its harder to detect but just take a look around you in your class, people with nervous and twitching eyes are sometimes sexually frustrated but not for most of the time, my best advice is to observe someone who you know is having sex or who is frustrated and take a look at their body language etc. Thats all for now.

In Motion
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This thread is ridiculous. Where did you come up with these crazy ideas? Being a virgin can benefit and harm you depending on how you look at it. It shows the girl that you're not a slut and don't settle for less than what you want.. but it can hurt you because it could be a turn-off that you're not experienced. Most women though, it really doesn't matter to them as long as it doesn't matter to you.
 

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That's stupid... Bouncing your leg could mean a large number of things. Maybe your bored, energetic, anxious, excitited or frustrated and none of these have to have anything to do with sex. That chick being depressed would have been because she broke up with her boyfriend...

I guess having sex could make you more relaxed and whatever but there are so many other variables that you can't read into sh!t like this and I don't even see the point. Masterbation would have the same effect anyway.

OMG I'm gettin good grades and have a social life, but it's not because I'm currently having sex, who would have thought!
 

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Trust me, I know her well and I knew how the things affected her. She's not one to get depressed over breakups, especially not that one. You can choose to believe me or not, just don't be an ******* about it, give me constructive criticism and read through my post carefully before you give me sh!t. If you read through it you will find that I did mention masturbation can have the same affect and that some of these things may be the results of other emotions or events. Eliminating basically all the things you gave me **** for.
 

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In Motion said:
Trust me, I know her well and I knew how the things affected her. She's not one to get depressed over breakups, especially not that one. You can choose to believe me or not, just don't be an ******* about it, give me constructive criticism and read through my post carefully before you give me sh!t. If you read through it you will find that I did mention masturbation can have the same affect and that some of these things may be the results of other emotions or events. Eliminating basically all the things you gave me **** for.
So when people aren't having sex they're masturbating, so I still don't see the connection. You sure she just didn't turn loopy? People go through a lot of changes in high school.
 

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wow, it must take a genius to copy the words of another and put it as their own type of psychobabble.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In reference to what In Motion is saying I would like to being with "the face is the mirror of the mind and the eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart" - St. Jerome

I have a female best friend similar to his who exhibits the same behavior. Interestingly enough there was a Seinfeld episode once that dealt with this topic. I'm not saying that the body language and actions IN Motion has suggested are 100% like he said himself they are not, but he knows how to read his subject quite well. I know mine is the same and I can read her. Would I rely on that knowledge 100% with other girls no of course not but its a good place to start.

My hats off to you In Motion for not having sex with the girl that takes some will power. I got put into the same situation and just did it
 

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I am a teen and I don't masturbate at all, is this some sort of disability or something? Cuz i heard someone say that 99% of the guys masturbate
 

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Michele said:
wow, it must take a genius to copy the words of another and put it as their own type of psychobabble.
I can assure you that absolutely everything I wrote are my own words and that I have not copied anything from anywhere. There is no need to be such an 4sshole about it. Are you able to say something constructive or are you just keep trolling?

Regards, In motion.

mpimpin said:
In reference to what In Motion is saying I would like to being with "the face is the mirror of the mind and the eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart" - St. Jerome

I have a female best friend similar to his who exhibits the same behavior. Interestingly enough there was a Seinfeld episode once that dealt with this topic. I'm not saying that the body language and actions IN Motion has suggested are 100% like he said himself they are not, but he knows how to read his subject quite well. I know mine is the same and I can read her. Would I rely on that knowledge 100% with other girls no of course not but its a good place to start.

My hats off to you In Motion for not having sex with the girl that takes some will power. I got put into the same situation and just did it
Thank you, you are obviously an highly intelligent person. Finally someone who can respond properly. I can only agree with what you wrote, no argument there. Seinfeld episode was actually a pretty good example, I should have thought of that. You can probably salvage that relationship, I was a little blunt when I said 'ruin' the relationship, but it does affect it a great deal.

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I am a teen and I don't masturbate at all, is this some sort of disability or something? Cuz i heard someone say that 99% of the guys masturbate
Its not a disability, dont worry about it too much. What you heard is probably right, I would say that a great majority of guys masturbate regularly, especially teens. Even people in relationships masturbate. I would advise you to start doing it, it feels good and it is great for you both mentally AND physically.

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That's stupid... Bouncing your leg could mean a large number of things. Maybe your bored, energetic, anxious, excitited or frustrated and none of these have to have anything to do with sex.
Actually, its not stupid. Bouncing your leg up and down is ALWAYS because one of the following reasons: Restless leg syndrome (quite common), ADD, sexual frustration. I advise you (and any other doubters) to think about it when you do it the next time. In most cases you will find that you have just thought of something sexual etc.
 

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masturbating? that sounds so disgusting trying it! touching my own private area is terrible, i wouldn't listen to you on this one
 

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antidonjuan said:
masturbating? that sounds so disgusting trying it! touching my own private area is terrible, i wouldn't listen to you on this one
Hey, its your life, do what you want but I suggest that you read up on the subject to see the benefits.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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