"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How does one peers/acquintances/social circle judge you based on your performance with females? What are their perceptions of you with females and how do they measure your value with females? Is it the amount of girls you have had sex with, the amount of girls you have played, the amount of girls you have kissed... What is the barometer that you are judged on?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok. In my experience the guys judge you on how many girls you have slept with first. Then on how you got the girl into bed..i.e. did you pay, did you buy her a drink, or were you suave enough to game her and bed her on the same night for free? They problem with me is that I've got a lot of Christian buddies who pretend that they are "above" girl-hunting and say that they "don't like to objectify women"..haha...which is total BS as we all know. I need to hang out with better players. That's one of the reasons I came to this site.
 

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Okay I think that excuse your buddies use is just an "Excuse" as to why they dont get women.

Based on the amount of girls you had sex with...

Everyone I speak to seems to think this however I sometimes wander what if you have kissed many girls? Why is sex the ultimate goal? Do the other things you do with the girl not count ?
 

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if you're in high school then number of kisses might garner some praise but it could also be interpreted as a sign that you don't have what it takes to go all the way with these women. I've never made out with a girl that I haven't subsequently banged. If you can make out with a girl then you can most definitely get the full deal.
 

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Ll Principe said:
How does one peers/acquintances/social circle judge you based on your performance with females? What are their perceptions of you with females and how do they measure your value with females? Is it the amount of girls you have had sex with, the amount of girls you have played, the amount of girls you have kissed... What is the barometer that you are judged on?
how you are socially. I don't think its a numbers game, because that can all be fabricated. By seeing how you interact in real situations that are observable, that is how you are judged.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well it can be "fabricated" to a point when you start going on dates and kissing the girls infront of your peers than that fabrication falls away.

I was thinking between 16-21 one is judged in a "high school" fashion in otherwards

a) amount of kisses you get
b) the other stuff(bj,hand job, finger, muff, tit suck)
c) sex as "bonus" points

Than from 21-26

a) amount of sex you get
b) the other stuff
c) kisses "small bonus"

It works visa versa basically 16-21 its more about a numbers game with scoring and 21-26 its more about the sex... By 26 I hope to find an equilibrum and someone I can settle down with and start LTR.
 

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Ll Principe said:
How does one peers/acquintances/social circle judge you based on your performance with females?
What's the benefit of hanging out with people who do this?
 
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