Judge a girl by her ACTIONS!

[MusicMan450]

I have learned this the hard way over the past month or so..

This has happened to me on two occasions, and every time, I was baffled, because these girls showed such high IL when we were on the phone or just chatting.

Basically, I've been spinning plates with two girls, and these girls will text and call me about how much they want to kiss me and all this stuff, and it's great flirting. But every time I hang out and try to escalate, even very slowly and isolated, they suddenly become disinterested. One of the girls went as far as to say that she didn't feel like she knew me when we hung out.

I'm not sure why this happened, and feel free to tell me why you think it did, but it made me realize that the "Judge by action" saying is 100% correct. Don't let a girl tell you she wants to be with you, make her SHOW you before you believe her 100%

 

[IamJosan]

Do you act differently on the phone than in person?

 

[MusicMan450]

I honestly don't feel like I do. I may feel a little more confident on the phone, and that may subtly go into my tonality, but it's not like I'm two different people.

 

[st_99]

Yes, texts, emails, even phone conversations are all total Bullsh*t. Believe nothing.

 

[Masculinity]

This is unrelated with judging a woman by her actions. Although you MUST judge her by her actions, this one is a lack of trust. You haven't built enough rapport with the woman; hence, she feels like she doesn't know you which is an implication to feeling uncomfortable with you.

Have you done properly done kino escalation? You can't expect a woman to be ok with kissing you if you haven't done less meaningful touchy-feely things such as holding hands, touching each other, stroking her hair and things along those lines.

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