"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jsut by looking at someone-shes not my type

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can u tell by looking at someone if they are ur type or not-if so how-examples please. my friend saw this guy and i said would u go for him-she said ah no hes not my type-just looking at him -she never talked to the guy. she said u can tell by just looking. she said she can tell by looking at the guy if hes her type or not. i was huh now isn;t that kind of premmature .

how can u and do any of u guys do it. like for me if i see a girl who wears too much makeup , dresses too fashionable, too $$ clothes, $ cell phone, - i think shes not my type-as she proably looking for a $$ guy , and thats not me. i am a simple hoody and jeans guy and not loaded. i think she go for the metrosexual guy with the nice car, cool haircut...etc
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Now, now! None of that kind of talk! It sounds like you're saying "She's too good for me, so I won't even try."

Just because she's rich/beautiful/popular doesn't mean she's better than you, and it doesn't mean you can't DJ her. Remember Cher (multimillionare) was in an LTR with a guy that made bagles for a living!

Go get her! (Maybe she'll buy you some of those $$$$ track shoes to go with your jeans and hoody!):cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
 

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In my opinion, you can make guesses, but you can never truly tell what a woman is like by the way she looks or dresses. I'd say appearance is really about 10 percent of who we really are. She could be all decked out in D&G because she's a rich stuck up daddy's-girl, or she could be a poor girl maxing out her credit cards because she wants to give the appearance of being successful. Whatever.

FWIW, all the girls I've really fallen for have always been girls that I never initially though of as prospects. They were always the cute girls that I overlooked for the hotter ones, but they ended up being more interesting girls. I've learned not to be shallow and judge women off appearances.

If I were you I would just keep myself open to meeting all sorts of girls, and then just qualifying them according to your standards of what you want from a girl. You can learn a lot about a girl from how she treats other people, including yourself.
 

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Ha. And I thought the "not my type" bull**** was just an excuse for women to blow off a guy. Or maybe it actually is. :D

Obviously you can't tell just by looking at a person whether he's your type or not - looks are misleading. Your friend just wasn't attracted to the guy physically. It doesn't mean he couldn't have gotten her digits if they talked and he was her type after all. :D
 

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ya but if a girl has all those $$ items , u now she
has money or her parents give her money-so she would expect it from the guy she dates too-ppl date ppl who are alike.

i shop in non brandy clothes stores- gap, navy... and always spend under 50 bucks on one piece of clothing, i take transit, pretty much simple -wash and wear guy. i really doubt and think a LV bag, 300 cell phone, gucci trendy asian girls u see around at malls would be dating a guy like me. lol. i don;t think i be goin and askin em out too-either too stuck upish and if we did go out-just differ values, and everything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I can easily look at a girl and talk to her for 15 minutes, I can tell if she is my type. I remember I met this girl and could tell in twenty minutes that she was not my type even though she was really attracted to me.

I just didn't want to deal with her bullsh!t.

I later confirmed that she was not my type.

I need a girl that can take almost everything I say as a joke because most of the time it is a joke.

I do not go out with Emo chicks, goth girls, or preppy girls that much. I look for country and 60's and 70's rock girls.

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