"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JOURNAL: My Battle With Oneitis

Kailex

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terran2k said:
Kailex, you're trying to pull the wool over our eyes, you're not over her. You're thinking it hurt her in someway that you took her off facebook or that you're going out with other women. keeping track of when last you had contact.

I get the feeling you're trying to say that she'll never find anyone as good as you.

I wasn't going to say anything, but figured I read it, might as well reply to it. That Rollo guy has got you read like a book.
You're confusing two different situations.
The person from my original post is someone new I had met.
My last post is about my ex-girlfriend. I was just trying to draw comparisons between what I was doing wrong with Mai and what I had done right, albeit subconsciously, with my ex-girlfriend from over a year ago.

I know it was a poor transition, but I was urged to update this thread and to be honest, ever since I cut off all contact with Mai, I just don't have anything else to say about that situation, since it's completely over.

And about my ex-girlfriend, I am definitely over her.
What I definitely did wrong with my ex was that I hung around too long, hoping and expecting that she'd change and that an impending break-up would be a kick-start and a swift kick in the ass for her to realize that she needed to get her stuff in gear. Of course, it never happened and by the time I realized it would NEVER, EVER happen... two years of my life had wasted away.

What Rollo commented on was the subject of my oneitis from pretty much February to April.

My last thread is solely about my ex-girlfriend, with whom I broke up with in early 2009.

Sorry if the last entry was a little confusing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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