Journal - Approaches on street, at mall, etc.

[Mindgamez]

Sunday, March 30th
My *ex* from when I was 14 years old came to my place to help me for my film.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5eXS2BYKL8

DAMN she got so much hotter. Her ass is perfect, her tits too. And I used to *go out* with a girl of that calibre back in the day. She's a 8.5 no doubt.

It's crazy to think about that. Back in the day, we used to be the shy little couple. Though, I was still getting the hottie for some reason.

So I've always deserved girls of that calibre since I'm 14. Since I'm 14, I know I'm able to attract hot women.

Crazy to think about that.

Anyway, she has a boyfriend. We still flirted a bit and teased each other sexually. We slapped each others' butt once or so. As soon as she breaks up (if she ever does), I'm going for her V.

So I have to ask myself this question.
I've been entitled to 8s and 8.5s since I'm 14. When I was 14, I had no game whatsoever, and I was able to date her for 3-4 weeks. No kisses or sex, because we were young, but still.

Does it mean that I was truer to myself when I was younger? Perhaps was I more caring? I definitely was caring for her. I helped her out a lot back in the day when she used to be depressed. I was more caring, I was more loving.

I was less confident? That's for SURE. I was such a pvssy back then. But I had a big heart, and I opened it up.

So what attracts a girl? What's the difference? From my 14 year old self to now?

Has my game regressed? What if I would have never learned the game? Would I be with a hot girlfriend already? Would I be more caring and loving? Even though needy, I would have never felt like I had to surmount a mountain to get to the hot girl. I would have never felt like I had to learn something in order to be able to connect with girls. I would have believed that it's all about love and being true to yourself, and nothing more. No matter how chody or shy. I would have never thought of the issue with confidence.

When I had her, I didn't even think of confidence. It didn't even cross my mind.

Without game, I would have believed that attraction happens when it decides to happen. That it's nature's law and that there's no need to resist it. That we don't need to force it.

And this is such a powerful thing. You know, I used to believe that the One would come whenever. I believed that my *ex* could perhaps be the One, which is why I cared for her with all my loving and being.

Since I'm doing cold approach pickup, I don't feel that anymore. With any girl. It's crazy.

What is the answer? What is the key to getting what I want out of life?

In my opinion,
We need the best of both worlds. On some level, you want to better yourself as a person as much as you can and grow confidence and amazingness. On the other side, you want to believe that any girl you meet could end up being the One. You have to open up your heart and love her with your full being. Not be afraid to really care for her.

You can get the hottest girls with no game. You just need to believe that you can attract girls with no game.

Monday, March 31st
Cool day.

Break is nice. I'm chilling with Jacques and etc.

I meet with Sarah, Jamie, etc. I don't think I'll go for Sarah. Jamie? I don't know how I could navigate that. I'm pretty much friendzoned IMO.

No approaches at mall. Pussied out too much. I was in a rush because my mom had to pick me up.

My mom stopped at the groceries store to pick up some tomatoes. I told her I wanted to stay in the car, so I did.

The band, Miroist. The album, Curve.

I looked at the empty sky.
I promise myself that 2014 will be the most intense year of my life.
I took a deep inhale.
I promise myself to give myself to my maximum, every day of this year.
And exhaled. I closed my eyes.
Nothing can stop me. There is no challenge I can't overcome. There is nothing I can't accomplish. I am extremely powerful.
I opened my eyes again.
I will do every single habit right. I will grow myself fully. And I promise.
I nodded my head. And I said out loud.
Me: I promise.

Tuesday, April 1st
Most daring day at school yet. And got myself out of bullsh1t with a teacher.

We had a fart machine. Me, Gary, Porno, and Jacques, we CRASHED into RANDOM classrooms that were FULL. HAHAHAHA.

We had the camera. We crashed in, asked for if the class was called Intestinal Studies. We then farted and left the class.

We did it like 10-12 times. Me and Porno did the majority of them.

I was so scared at first, I'm not going to lie. I'm way too preoccupied about my *reputation*, a.k.a. my self-image/ego getting damaged. It made me realize that Porno cares so much less about it than me. This is my big concern at school, and it's driving me crazy.

At some point, a teacher ran out of class and asked us our full names with a dead serious face. He was really, really mad.
Me : Oh I'm sorry! But...
Him : *cuts me off* it's too late. You? What's your name?
Porno : Porno, blabla
Me : But, we understand and we are sor...
Him :*cuts me off* You did it, too late!
He was basically being the ultimate ******* and not even letting me the opportunity to talk.

So then I tried one last time. He actually listened this time. I wasn't trying to justify myself. I tried to show him I understood my mistake, that I was wrong and I admitted everything. He suddenly loosened his grip and calmed down a little bit. I could see the tension in his eyes disappear slowly. Porno asked him if he would denounce us, and he said no. Of course, saying that he would would make him a huge *******, because all that we tried to do was to *make a smile on people's faces* as I said.

To disarm someone of authority, admit being 100% wrong and them being 100% right. They will lower their defences. DO NOT show any signs of resistance. He will end up on your side, because ultimately, you force yourself to be on HIS side. Doing so, its like both of you are on the same side. To finish nicely, find a sincere compliment.

Me : I'm very sorry for this. I know you care really much for your students to succeed and everything, that's a great quality to have, and it was our fault to disrupt the class like that.
Him : It's alright. It simply was bad timing. It was done at the wrong time.

And then we said goodbyes and he even smiled at us.

Amazing.

Wednesday, April 2nd
Great day. Multicultural week at my school.

I'm chilling at the agora where the event is happening. I'm meeting some new people, not much though.

I get Jessica's number (girl who was making out with everybody at the ski trip haha). I invite her to Annies the bar this thursday, she agrees. I friendzone her to meet her friends.

Awesome.

Getting home,
I ***** out from cold approaching at the mall again... ugh.
Though, in the bus going home, I see that Paki girl from earlier who was doing the dance at the multicultural week. I ask her if she was the girl doing the dance with a smile. She had a big grin on her face a soon as I approached her.

Funniest thing! We actually walked down at the same bus stop. I realized that she lived on my street also! Wow. She asked for my full name, was laughing the whole time. I had a big smile on my face the whole time too, I couldn't help it. She seemed quite excited to talk to me, and I kinda was too. She's a 7.5 or so, but she has a great smile.

Funny person. We end up exchanging facebooks. She's the one to add me first.

Does it count as an approach? Let's say so.

CONCLUSION
- Be nice, admit that you're wrong, and you disarm whoever was mad at you. People of authority like to feel authoritative, so bow down to them and they shall respect you back. Forget about your ego and winning the argument. It's about getting out of bullsh1t. Even though you know deep down that you're right, tell them that you're wrong.
- I was entitled to 8.5s since I was 14. When I was 14, I could get 8.5s. When I was younger, I was just as awesome as now. How crazy is that.
- You can get the hottest girls with no game. You just need to believe that you can attract girls with no game.

 

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[Mindgamez]

Thursday, April 3rd
My heart was pumping like crazy. I don't know why it happened.

34:23
http://youtu.be/bWjjNPCsfbI?t=34m23s

After they were done talking, I knew it was my time to go in front of the class and express myself.

And as soon as I stepped in, I felt totally relieved again. It was as if I was home again, I felt at my best. The first sentence I said was powerful and on point.
"So everyone, I'm going to ask you guys a question before I start my presentation. Who believes that Hollywood is probably the largest market place in the world in terms of movies?"
Everyone in the class raised their hands. I could engage the whole class. A great start.

And I kept talking. My body language was very open. I would move my hands accordingly to put emphasis on every point. I projected my voice from the bottom of my belly to the top of my lungs. I could feel my energy transfer into the room. I could feel my presence immerse the room with my speech. I felt like my real self. I would crack up jokes about how Avatar was Pocahontas with tall blue smurfs on another planet, how people watched transformers only because Megan Fox was hot. I was moving back and forth, making eye contact with everyone in the class.

The debate part of my presentation against the other team was alright. I was a bit closed in my body language and they ended winning, even though our arguments were better. I guess people like Hollywood better. I didn't take it personally.

Can't deny the fact that my friends believed I was the best speaker in the whole class. It's a great feeling to know that.

I know how to engage an audience. Great.
Too bad that talking to a girl isn't the same as engaging a room full of people.

Local mall,
I had maybe 20 minutes or so to approach. I walk around in the mall for like 10-15 minutes, until I spot an 8.5-9 or so. I sit a few meters away from her, she's on the phone.
It's 54. I have 6 minutes left until bus comes.
Fcking sh1t she's on the phone. What do I do? Do it anyway? I could compliment her and bounce out.
55.
56.
57.
Sh1t, I have to hurry!
I walk past. She eye contacts me. I keep walking. I turn back, rush back to her.
Me : Hey, totally random, just letting you know that you're really beautiful.
Her : Oh thank you!
She had a great, sincere smile. I was nervous, but at least I did it. I felt so good after.

The night!
I arrive at Jacques' place. He lives right next to the bar, it's amazing. I learn that he actually watches lll stuff, like Mathew(I'll call him Diamond from now on, don't get confused). It's great to know that my friends are into that stuff. Porno was here too, and Diamond's friend Tyler.

We get to Annies. I approach a few girls. I vibe and stuff. After a while, I head back on the streets.

I approach some hot cheerleaders. On the street, I directly introduce myself unapologetically, extend my hand, get to close proximity. They were heading back home in their residence near our college. I was about to invite them to Jacques place, but I didn't do it. They were 8.5s at least.

Walking back to the bar, we spot some random girl who gives herself some gangsta look. We talk for a bit.
Her : Oh, you like poutine? If you buy me a poutine, I'll have sex with you. Joookkeesss!
She was hot as hell. She was just teasing me, and then she ran away.

We saw her back in Annies grinding every single guy. I went up to her and we grinded from the front for 5-10 seconds. She grinded Jacques and Porno too, hahaha.

I do get into a negative vibe near the end of the night, but that's fine. Porno was being all positive and stuff.

It was shocking to see myself deny his positivity. In my head, I was telling myself how he was getting annoying with his: Oh dude just cheer up and take action! and then he went to the convenience store to buy some chips, candies and other foods of unconsciousness.

I was judging him. I was judging him instead of simply enjoying the present moment, and I was lost judging people instead of simply enjoying myself.

We went back home. On the way back, we see some girl who we talked to earlier that night. She's chubby, but she's cool. Jacques invites her to his place until her bus comes. He does some funny rape jokes... I don't know how she managed to stay all relaxed and comfortable hahaha!

The night, I hardly sleep at all. I don't even know if I fell asleep. Even though it felt as if the night went by quite fast.

Friday, April 4th
I watched Tyler's newest video on hardcase newbies. I'm not one of them, but I learned a lot from it.

People who had it harder become stronger at the core. They have a better resistance to pain. They are more resilient. This is something people who were naturally confident since birth will never have and develop. Because they always had it and never had to work for it, it doesn't feel as fulfilling and amazing to them.

Also, a hardcase has no excuse. If he skips one day, he's done. DONE. He can't skip ONE habit, or he'll come back to hell. I'm not one of them, but I could apply that mentality and just do my best no matter what.

And suddenly, I knew that it was OK to have difficulty. It was OK to have lows, because I'll come back stronger.

I felt extremely good.

I hopped in the car, started practising my public speaking for the 20-30 minutes on the way to the Pioneer bar. I pictured myself giving the speech in front of an audience of 100 people. I felt entitled to give that speech. I felt entitled to the world. I felt as if nothing could stop me. I felt like I knew the wisdom of the world, the knowledge of god. I know I am strong.

I arrived, walked in the bar with full confidence. I greeted the cool guys at the bar with feeling fully entitled. No anxiousness at all, I know I'm on their level. I play a game of pool with Geoff and his friends, it's super chill.

I got to the dance floor. I honestly believe it was one of my best nights in terms of feeling good at a college bar. That's how it's done baby.

I grinded some hotass blonde chick twice. It was very short though, half-assed. She would bend down in doggie style pose and rub her ass against my hard ****. And then she would leave and I would be too scared to run back to her.

I have to assert my dominance and show who's boss!

There was also this hot latina girl in my yoga class I talked to. She seemed into me, copied my voice and stuff. I didn't take her number, assumed I'd see her later at night... but I didn't. DAMN I have to close, not assume I'll see her later damnit!

I approached some two hotties. I pretended one was in one of my classes. We talked for a bit, they didn't seem so interested. So I went back to shuffling.

My shuffling got much better I believe. I just love dancing so much. And that's what I did near the end when everyone else was leaving.

Oh yeah,
Both girls I texted to get dates 1-2 weeks ago didn't reply back lol.

CONCLUSION
- Feel entitled. You deserve the world.
- You have much more wisdom than anybody else in this world. I truly mean this. 97% of people in this world are absolute lame people who always get stuck in unconsciousness. It's horrible, and people don't realize. You're at the top.
- If you're not a hardcase newbie, be grateful for that. At the same time, adopt their mentality of NOT SKIPPING ONE DAY, ONE HABIT. You have to go all the way, or else you fail. See it that way, and you'll go real far.
- Public speaking is great. If it's your passion and is your thing, work on it.
- Stop judging people. Accept them for who they are, no matter how crazy or stupid you think what they do is. Let them be, and let them live. Focus on yourself.

 

[Mindgamez]

Sunday, April 6th
No pickup, but awesome awesome day. I went to an airsoft war. I was sniper.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPH7LXPZFBo

They all told me that sniping is by far the hardest role to play in airsoft. Because the sniper in airsoft is only permitted to shoot at 450 feet per second and an assault rifle can shoot up to 400, which is ONLY 50 FPS below, the sniper has not much of an advantage but a lot of disadvantages. It's not like in the movies. We can't kill targets a mile away, only up to 80 meters, this ONLY if you're really good and have good equipment, which I didn't have.

The shop owner of the airsoft store downtown told me that any sniper that is fresh from the box and not upgraded plain SUCKS, and that any assault rifle can outplay a sniper with no upgrades. This is exactly what I had, and the worst part was that it's a gun from an unknown random company no one ever heard of.

The worst role to play as a beginner. I had a bolt action rifle, only single shots. While everyone else had fully automatic weapons.

I was committed to going about it hard, no matter how hard it'd be. So I did. Fvck what others told me.

I arrived there. Everyone, no exception, was dressed with their full military equipment. Everyone was much older too. Everyone had camo except me, I was wearing full black in a forest full of snow. Basically, everyone was an experienced player.

First few games, I got a bit of troubles and died fast.

Though, at some point, people were talking to me as if I was the elite player. They were going like "Oh we've got only one Bolt Action in the team! Alright, can you camp at the top of the tower and snipe down the targets? Everyone, we have to protect our sniper!"

Funny to hear that from good players talking to the noob. Hahaha.

But at the end, I decided to act as if I was the pro. So I did. And this is when I got much better.

I could actually focus on my shots, not cringe or worry about missing a shot.

There was this shot I took. I was amazing.
In airsoft, the slightest tree branch or obstacle totally deviates your projectile. I was hidden in a house. I saw the target maybe 50-60 meters away, I could see a bit of him through the window.

I fired one shot, hit a tree. Too much wind going right, so I had to readjust to the left.

I rushed the bolt action, took a deep breath and tried again. The projectile totally flew away in the wrong direction. No luck.

I totally relaxed myself. I meditated.
I can get this shot. It's not about rushing, it's about... focus.
I took a deep breath and held it. The world disappeared around me. I didn't hear the sound of guns firing. I didn't hear my teammates yelling to move in and capture the objective. All I could feel was the wind and my heartbeat.
I fired.
The shot went left, curved back on the right and went between the two trees and went right through the window. It took 2 full seconds for the projectile to hit.

My target looked back in total surprise, raised his hand to signal that he was hit.

Success. It was so much satisfaction to have pulled such an amazing shot for a beginner like me.

I killed between 2 or 3 people while I died 5-6 times. Decent ratio for a beginner on his first game playing the hardest role, haha.

I drove back home,
Thinking about my experience. I got better when I assumed I was the elite player. The one people looked up to. Yes, I wasn't the best at all, but people assumed I could perhaps save the game. When I rushed my shots too much, I had no luck. But when I actually took my time to shoot and controlled my shaking, I could pull off an insane shot.

Monday, April 7th
Daygame this time.

Play this now:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8EDZJel1Ig

I went to Porno's house to practise our speech a bit. Good stuff.

We went downtown and Denis was there. This time, I actually did open more often. We did maybe 5 approaches, nothing much. I couldn't close because Denis was always there ****blocking me, haha. He's good at it... he does it just so I can learn from his sh1t.

But it's true. I did learn a lot.
He was closing much more often. He was dominating the conversation and girls turned their attention on him. All. The. Time.

I don't know how he does it. But whenever he speaks, the girl looks at him. He doesn't speak particularly loud, he's just, there. He's just dominant and certain. When he closes, same thing. He doesn't hesitate. Boom. And he gets it.

I didn't get any numbers. I tried to close once, the girls frowned lol.

But we did have decent fun conversations. Denis would always eject and force us to eject for some reason, I felt it was a bit douchy of him at times lol. I should have stayed in anyway and closed. We couldn't close the girl without him interrupting. Today was just different. He was putting me on the test, and I'm glad he made me realize things. I have to step it up so much more. Good stuff, I can learn from the best.

I'm glad I met him.

After the day was over, Porno was telling me about how we had a good day of approaching. He was telling me about those things he disagreed with. I found it quite ridiculous that he was telling me that forcing yourself to approach is bad and unnatural. He told me it had to be natural, that we had to approach when we felt like it.

I had the idea that next time, I'd start counting my approaches again, making sure I do 10 before heading back home. He told me how it would make me a pick up robot and wouldn't really help me progress.

Porno : Hey man! Didn't you say it yourself? It's all about love, you say it all the time in your journal.
I was pissed at that point. You can't simply snap yourself into love like that all the time.

You think what you want man. But I'll force myself 10 approaches next time I go out.

 

[Mindgamez]

Tuesday, April 8th
Cool stuff.

My integrating seminar class, that hottie 8.5 was checking me out. I had to look away in nervousness. Eeh.

Local mall,
I saw my friend Eric from a long time ago. We partied at my neighbour's house a while back, and he invited me to get a bit drunk before we head back home. It was like 4:00PM or so and we had to drink outside and try not to get caught LOL.

So I figured why not. I drank a bit, it was funny.

I asked some random MILF if she believed in Jesus.

I walked in the bus and saw some girl from my high school, girl I never talked to before. We talk for a while. She giggles of nervousness, a lot. I can feel her shyness. I was shy too. She was alright, actually she was kind of hot. Not super hot, but hot enough. Maybe 7.5

I got her number at the end and invited her to go get some asian food together. She agreed. But I don't know if I'll follow up... There's that thing I have for two other girls. Read through.

Wednesday, April 9th
Fun times.

I hop in the morning bus. I see Chanelle sitting a few feet away, in front of me. We talk for a bit. She asks me when's my break today. I tell her 11:30 to 2:30. She tells me "See you then!"

I get the hint, so I ask for her number. We text back and forth instead of yelling at each other from far. Fun times. She calls me sexy fingers, haha.

We walk together to class, blablabla.

Class is done. I see Florence near my locker, Jacob's friend from a while ago. She lit up instantly when we saw each other. We hugged, we started talking. It's funny because we don't even talk that much and it seemed like we were great friends already. She got much hotter... I noticed her nice smooth hair and her tits. They were big and round, very nice.

I invited her to Pioneer the bar this Friday. She agreed with joy. I took her number down.

Afterwards, I'm chilling with some cute asian girl. She's alright. I see Chanelle in the caf and we sit together. We flirt a bit. We eye contact each other for long periods for no reason. It's hot. She's hot as hell. I can't get enough of looking at her body. It's perfect... She's no doubt a 9. Or even 9.5. She's the girl Diamond dated for like a week, lol.

If I find a picture of her tits I'll post it. Just, way too hoott.

She would playfully touch me at times. She's the flirty type with guys, so I can't tell whether she's just playing or if she would be genuinely interested in sleeping with me.

We had some funny group conversation with her friends. They think I'm a very funny guy lol.

We walked back to class together again. On the way back, she waved back to some chody-looking guy who was basically ugly.
Chanelle: Oh, he's my ex. He was my ex, technically. We dated for not long, a few weeks.

Oh dayum. An ugly guy, chody-looking guy can get a girl that hot?
So can I. No problem.

Walking to class.
Me: So Chanelle, do you think I'm hot?
Her: Yeah, I think you're hot. Yeah.
Me: Thanks, you're hot too. We're like the best hot duo.
Giggles and jokes and all.

I felt entitled. Is she hotter than Melissa? Definitely.
Melissa had something sexier in her vibe though. But Chanelle absolutely beats her with her goddess tits.

But fcccckkk... Melissa was so hot. Fcking b111ttccchhhhh. If I see her again next week, I'll just start flirting with her again. Show her I'm the man now, nothing to lose. Fvck it. She used to want me so bad.

Local mall,
I had exactly 10 minutes before the bus would come. I walked around really fast. There was 2 minutes left, I rushed the last girl I saw and told her she had nice hair and walked away. She was gorgeous too.

Also,
Started reading this book The Natural by Richard La Ruina. It's all about pickup. He's a good PUA. It's good to find content from other PUAs too. His tips are useful. Definitely going to use them.

CONCLUSION
- Feel entitled. Girls, no matter how damn hot they are, will be attracted to you just for you. HB9, HB9.5? No surprise. With all that self-development, of course I attract girls of that calibre.
- Close man, close. Get in the habit of closing. Girls EXPECT you to lead. They love it. Practise leading.
- My classroom game is ridiculously bad. I only talk to men, literally.
- Assume that you're the leader. That you're the elite player people look up to. And if you just assume it, you'll do amazing things. You'll achieve things you never thought you could achieve. Fck, that shot through the dense trees was a fvcking mission impossible. I believed in it, focused, and had it right.
- READ BOOKS. They help a ton, trust me.

 

[Mr. Cappucino]

I've tried something else. I tried approaching saying : Excuse-me, am I bothering you? I noticed that most people said : Yeah a little, sorry I'm busy. or something like that. It might sound a little more polite, but more people walked away because I gave them the option to, kind of I think... what do you guys think about this?

Mindgamez, people could tell that by saying "exuse me, am i bothering you?" That you are shy. Just approach them and say something like hey, whats up. Give them "the look" and be sure to make them laugh as to break the ice. Talk to them like you're looking for a new friend and they have to impress you to see if they're worth your time. That will catch them off guard.:wave:

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[Mindgamez]

LOL is that what I said, from 2 years ago? X) But yeah good tip haha.

UPDATE.
So I won't be updating my journal on Sosuave anymore. It'll be on the SimplePickup forum instead. It's not that I don't like you guys, it's just that not many people actually read it here lol. I like the layout of SimplePickup better, I don't have a 10000 characters limit and can write as long as I want. I can put vids, etc. That's all

Here's the rest of my journal. Keep reading if you're interested.
http://www.simplepickup.com/forum/f...pproaches-self-development-24.html#post254385

 

[j.619]

this is an amazing journal. awesome that you stuck with it for so long