"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jophil. Must read especially for Master DJ's.

5string

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I have been friends with Jophil for quite some time. We talked alot. He was even thinking of coming to see me this summer. I was contemplating the same.

I received a letter yesterday from his woman which informed me that he passed away 5/21/11. He had renal cancer for 11 yrs and lost a kidney. His cancer returned several weeks ago and spread literally eveywhere. He succumbed to it.

Not only a Master Don Juan, but a Master Human Being. I'll miss him. Raised a glass of Scotch in his honor last night.

When I am gone, release me, let me go. I have so many things to see and do. You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears, be happy we had so many years.
I gave you my love, you can only guess how much. You gave me happiness. I thank you for the love each of you has shown. But now it's time I travel alone.
So grieve for awhile if grieve you must. Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It's only for awhile that we must part. So bless the memories within you heart.
I won't be far away for life goes on. So if you need me, call me and I will come. Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near. If you listen with your heart, you'll hear all my love around you, soft and clear.
And then when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and say, "welcome home".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jitterbug

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Oh no :(

I called him Uncle Jophil, he was like a mentor to me, although we've never met other than exchanging messages through this forum. He's that cool alpha uncle every young man wishes he had. I was going to go up to his city this year for a holiday and pay him a visit. I wish I had done it sooner.

Cheers for everything, Uncle Jophil. Will always cherish your advices and wisdom.
 

KarmaSutra

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The lesson we should all take from Brother JoPhil's passing is we cannot afford to waste one second.

I know JoPhil is running and playing with dogs somewhere else.

Peace Brother.
 

Boilermaker

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I was rebellious and sometimes rude to him .. but he was a shining star for me.
I have shared his stories and wisdom with so many of my friends.. even though we haven't even met ..

You will be missed dear Jophil.
 

Rollo Tomassi

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Rarely have I known a more worthy opponent who became such a great friend and, for lack of a better term, sosuave colleague.

Flights of Angels sing thee home great soul, you will be missed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Sad. I have "known" him briefly...but the knowledge and advice he has imparted will last. I thank him for that. RIP.
 

Solomon

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may he rest in peace with the lord and his angels

Jophill was the standard of what a true "DJ" is
 

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Wow, I had no idea. Jophil was always a big supporter of mine and I have long held his perspective in the highest esteem. I hope his advice and jokes will live on for a long time to come, in our hearts and on these pages.

Rest in peace Jophil, we will miss you.
 

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Wow, I'm shocked. We were IMing on a regular basis and I was wondering what happened to him.

A true loss for our community.
 

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Jophil had 5,288 posts over five years. Not one of them was a complaint or even a mention of having had cancer. He was a man until the end.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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romangod

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I am truly shocked. A real man right to the end displaying courage and wisdom. He will be missed.

Rest in Peace.


Cheers to JoPhil!
 

5string

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romangod

He was a real man right to the end. The last time we talked he said he was having really bad pain in his neck and back and was going to the doctor. That was all he told me. I was thinking it was a herniated disc or something. He was a rather private man. His girl said the cancer had spread to his back, lungs and lymph nodes as well. I feel really bad. He's one heck of a guy.

I'm sure he's dancing with the Angels.

May his next journey be even more wonderous than the last.
 

zekko

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One of my favorite posters and his absence has definitely been noticeable.
The forum is poorer for his passing.
It's odd, because I had a strange feeling this morning that something might have happened to him.
Like others have said, he was a great example of a real man.
I hope his family is managing well.
 

guru1000

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Jophil and I had always shared congruent thinking. As he and I had always believed, the most important standard to uphold in one's life is to never, never, never, never compromise yourself for anyone or anything. Jophil never did--till the end.

Much respect and love Brother.
 

Stagger Lee

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I had know idea he was anything but healthy. I had been away from the forum and after coming back I wondered where he was. He was one of my favorite posters. He passed on too young. I guess it's like they say, the good die young.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PokerStar

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Noooooooo!!
we lost a brother.
I guess its stupid of me to believe that people will live forever.
:mad:

we should put up Jophils greatest threads or posts, to educate the newbs how great this person was.
 

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Wow, I'm speechless... Even though I don't know anyone here in person, I feel pretty close to all regular posters in the MM forum. This news really hits me.

Rest in peace, jophil. You will be missed...
 

Mike32ct

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I'm all choked up right now. Even though we never met, Jophil was like a member of the family, a favorite uncle like the others mentioned.

He was a true gentleman with a lifetime of wisdom and an understanding of women that was second to none. Most of all, he was on this site because he wanted to help guys everywhere.

Goodbye Jophil. You will be missed beyond words. :cry:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

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