"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Joon Balloon's BALANCE THEORY

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Ok so all you DJ'er's out there that have this CONTROL COMPLEX and always need the upper hand in relationships, i have news for you.... IT DOESNT WORK!

if you think you can control a woman the same way you control your pet, you must be dreaming....

so what am i talking about here????? here we go:


SCREENING PHASE of Relationship:

you meet a chic and you guys are hitting it off great. theres a mutual liking for one another and things are going great.....

THEEEENNNNNNNNNN, the tides suddenly SHIFT....

She starts becoming distant and stops returning your calls 3 minutes after you called like she usually did...

all of a sudden, NEEDINESS SYNDROME starts to take action and you become that AFC struggling to hold this chics interest....(the story of my life but luckily im not alone.. ha ha)

what has happened here?

DEFINITE SHIFT IN BALANCE

they way i see it is, MOST GUYS (not all) dont have what it takes to recover the relationship to its previous BALANCED state and will fold and make stupid AFC mistakes, CHASING the Interest of the chic and will ultimately self destruct the whole relationship.


here's the simple RESOLUTION:

when a chics begins to do this.....LET THEM! LET THEM GO! LET THEM GO!!! LET THEM GO!!!!!!

******because if you dont, she got you to the point that you will be sweating her every move. and even if the relationship pans out, SUBCONSCIOUSLY, you will overreact over the little things like when she says, "im going to my girls house tonight to chill" instead of coming to see you.**********

JUST LET THEM GO WHEN THEY START TO PULL AWAY

this will ultimately keep the BALANCE in an indirect way.
(read between the lines here and you will understand)

if she never calls, hey guess what? she did YOU a favor!

POINT IS:

relationships are supposed to be a BALANCED entity. you share mutual trust, love, respect, loyalty etc. with one another.

if you come across a girl who does not believe in this ABANDON SHIP!!!! get out, and get out fast!!! you will be saving yourself plenty of frustration in the long run......


~Joon Balloon
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You are a genius!!!! You have discovered the secret that we women hold againts you!!! THANK YOU. Do you know how many times we try so HARD to get rid of you guys and the point seems to not get across?!?!?!? If we don't call or respond to your messages listen to to this guy PULL AWAY! We don't want you...Oh and if we call a week later and seem to be interested, give us the cold shoulder, don't take our excuses, you are just the second option after that other Dj toyed with us and broke our hearts...
 

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Sh!t, it took almost 10 yrs of dating to figure this out so lets just call it, me having an ephiany (sp) and waking up to smell the coffee.

my relationship now is going great due to 1 reason...

WE KEEP A BALANCE AND ALWAYS HAVE!!!!! BINGO! THERES A KEEPER!!!!
 

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WE KEEP A BALANCE AND ALWAYS HAVE!!!!! BINGO! THERES A KEEPER!!!!
dont forget:

Love
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this is KEY!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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have you not yet realised this forum is for guy's Heartlessbtch?

my advice is fo find a donna juan forum not don!!
 

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Nowhere in your DJ bible says that women cannot join this site. So I suggest you get on that... and when you do get back to me hun...then I'll decide if you are worthy of me lowering myself to your level....

oh yeah! if you didn't realize he aprecciated my advice... so go along and frolick in the woods you lost one
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
dont forget:

Love
trust
compassion
COMMUNICATION
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this is KEY!

Genius!!!! Can we add respect please?
 

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Originally posted by HeartlessBtch
Nowhere in your DJ bible says that women cannot join this site. So I suggest you get on that... and when you do get back to me hun...then I'll decide if you are worthy of me lowering myself to your level....

oh yeah! if you didn't realize he aprecciated my advice... so go along and frolick in the woods you lost one
Well it's like this as far as I'm concerned...

there's nothing stopping me from registering on an Over 80's Sweedish Cookery forum however seen as it's not something that has been created for 19 year old lads from England I don't go on it!!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by G-Man UK
Well it's like this as far as I'm concerned...

there's nothing stopping me from registering on an Over 80's Sweedish Cookery forum however seen as it's not something that has been created for 19 year old lads from England I don't go on it!!
LOL u are too funny... I'm starting to think you are cute...Grr I love that Macho male Egotistical attitude!!! keep it on that's what turn women on! :flowers:
 

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dont forget:

Love
trust
compassion
COMMUNICATION
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ADDING REPSECT!
 

So pimp its scary

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People don't seem to understand, what you learn here is mostly designed for the attraction phase of a relationship (1-10 dates, or the ONS whatever the game is).

After that you really are on your own.
 

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Got to remember that some guys may find it extremely difficult to let the girl go. Y'know, those that get all depressed and suicidal because the change of having a girl to not having a girl is too much. Add the fact that some might believe that they will never be able to get that feeling again.

I agree with the balance part. But to expand on that, there has to be a balance within one's life. As in, not to put too much on women but to balance it out with other things as well, such as hobbies, interests, family and friends. The idea is definitely in the right direction.

Now to see if people actually understand it and can internalize it.
 

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absolutely...

i agree.... you must have a balanced life as well.... by throwing all your eggs in one basket sort of speak, your in for one bumpy ride...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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