"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jonblood

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I'm starting this log in hopes to better my experiences with women through my experience and your help. Many of you guys are very helpful and I'm hoping that you would be generous to give me advice.

My current situation is that I've been becoming friendly with as many girls that live on my block as I can. One of them I met while walking my dog, we became friendly started texting and eventually made plans to take our dogs to the park together.

Today was the day we were supposed to go to the park, but, the weather was bad and it looked like it was going to rain. So I called her, she didn't answer and texted me back about ten minutes later saying that she was in the shower and that it was going to rain. She proposed that I go over her house and bring the dog. In text, she said that she's barely dressed and not to judge her ( a joke I guess ).

Well, when I got there she was dressed and made a joke about how my dog would judge her if she wasn't.

She pulled out a chair for me to sit on whil e she sat on her bed. We just talked and watched the dogs play. We got along well and I made her laugh. However, previously I told her that I was 21, but im only 20. When I broke the new she exclaimed she couldn't believe I lied to her etc. I told her it was because i knew she worked at a club and she was cute so I had to.

There was really no sexually energy, just us sitting about five feet away from each other talking. When it was time for her to leave, I got my cue to go, and said thank you for having me. She said to text her on the next nice day and that we'd go to the park together. Also, she said "Thanks for lying to me" I didn't know was to say so I responded, "Thanks for accepting it."

I'm going to text her friday telling her I'd like to go to the park with her today, but how do I escalate my position? I know she doesn't like to go to parties, but instead to bars which I can't do because I'm still underage. Not only do I want to take it to the next level, but I want to find out if she is in fact interested in me. Thanks guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Solomon

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Did you flirt with her? (great way to build sexual tension)

I.E. this part of an interaction I had earlier this year in the field

HB: I'm 28, how old are you?
Solomon: How old do you think?
HB: mmh I don't know tell me
Solomon:I'm old enough to be your daddy(I said this in a semi-dirty way)
HB:No your not? (she asked questiongly)
Solomon: your a young gal, I'd wear you out
HB: pffft, I'd like to see you try
Solomon: This I would like to see, you trying I mean​

HB looks at me and runs away, I looked stunned after her, and asked her friend why she ran away, her friend response "she is engaged"

^^now granted this is an exterme example, but the girl bascialy ran away cause the sexual tension was high, hence I was pushing the evelope to the max, typically I don't though, not on that level, but it allows me to screen how far I can go in an interaction.

My point is this, when you flirt with a girl keep it fun, but make sure the sexual undertones are underneath, it's not what you say but how you say, and why you say it

peace
 
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