"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Joined a pathetic message board? Could I benefit from it at all?

adpreston1988

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Okay, I got bored the other day and somehow ended up at this teen message board (kind of like this one) except it had picture ratings and stuff. I saw a photo of this one hot girl there and decided to become a member. After becoming a member I posted some pics up and got some good feeback about my looks. But I have no idea why the **** I did this. I'm honsetly not that much of a loser and don't know why I started getting addicted to this. Probably because it's an easy way to chat with girls that I've never met before. Anyways, I should get away from this message board ASAP, right?? Or could I benefit from befriending a hot looking girl and getting girl advice from her or something?? Anyways, I know you all are probably cracking up at my pathetic story (and I don't blame you because I think people that do this kind of stuff are losers - yes I did insult myself for doing this). But please give me some feedback.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nononono, I am intrigued.

You are new here right? I can tell, your confidence isn't that great.

Would you like to be a test subject? You seem malleable and adept. You can openly admit feeling pathetic and becoming addicted. Simple packages are the biggest gifts, I hope you believe that, I sure do;)

I wrote you up a 5000 word essay about the possibilities and possible lessons you could gain from this experiment. It is deep, and very DJ oriented.

I hope you are willing to experiment and learn new things. I hope you are willing to work... smart.

First things first, got a series of questions.

One at a time is how I am going to ask them. I don't want any spoiling of the goods. This is active research friend, psychsexual, this is going back to freud. I hope you had fun as a baby saying the words poop and fart, if you did, this may possibly be a grande experimet:)

First question.

What are you becoming addicted to?
 

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I'm hoping that you're being truthful and this isn't some kind of joke so I'll answer you. Basically I'm becoming addicted (haven't yet, since I just joined the other day) of looking to see the members' responses to the photographs that I posted. It's a picture rating thread that you post pictures in and people rate them from a scale of 1-10. I just joined the other day, but now I'm constantly feeling like I have to check on the site to see what people posted about my picture. I'm probably just doing this because I don't get that much attention from girls in school (despite my good looks) and I'm compensating for this by posting pictures online.
 

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Second Question

Do you believe that it really is easier to chat with more women?
 

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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Second Question

Do you believe that it really is easier to chat with more women?
I don't understand your question. Chatting with more versus what??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by adpreston1988
After becoming a member I posted some pics up and got some good feeback about my looks. I'm honsetly not that much of a loser and don't know why I started getting addicted to this. Probably because it's an easy way to chat with girls that I've never met before.
 
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I'll give you some advice. Want women? Get off the PC for a few hours.
 

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If anything, you should teach as many AFC's as possible. As David DeAngelo likes to put it, "The fastest way to learn something is to teach it." Master the concepts and help others to reach the same level you are at. Make sure you get out in the field and share your experience with those that are less experienced than you. That is the fastest and most efficient way to becoming a much more attractive man.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by Damian
If anything, you should teach as many AFC's as possible. As David DeAngelo likes to put it, "The fastest way to learn something is to teach it." Master the concepts and help others to reach the same level you are at. Make sure you get out in the field and share your experience with those that are less experienced than you. That is the fastest and most efficient way to becoming a much more attractive man.

-Damian
The goods have been spoiled. If I could have related it simply to David D, I would have.

Thank you Damian.

adpreston if you would. Continue with this knowledge in mind, be great...

Do you believe chatting online with women is easier when never having met them before, and could you learn something from them?
 
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