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So the only difference with an alternate grip is that one hand is underhanded instead of both being overhanded (I for thought it would be more complicated then that for some reason..I-tallionStallion said:Def do alternate grip. I agree with quag, you could have added more weight, much more weight. Your practically walking around with the weight.
And btw...did you calculate the weight correctly? Were those 35lbs or 45lbs on the bar? Don't forget to add the bar weight
Yes, one hand over, one under. If you're going to use this grip then make sure you alternate each set, else you'll get an imbalance between one side of your rear chain and the other because each side is stressed differently due to the grip style. However personally I don't like this grip, it feels awkward and imbalanced. I'd rather do both overhand with straps than this grip tbh.JohnnyIrish said:So the only difference with an alternate grip is that one hand is underhanded instead of both being overhanded (I for thought it would be more complicated then that for some reason..)
Also do you recommend one alternating between sets which hand is under and which is over?
I will definitely employ this type of grip next deads day (as well as up the weight significantly)
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Rows: I'll stick with what the guy said then unless I get advice to the contrary here.Quagmire911 said:I won't comment on the row as I have never done that movement before, sorry I can't be any help with it.
As for the calf raises going from 20 reps to 45reps is a big jump and you need to take this into consideration. How are you doing your calf raises btw? Like this:
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/Gastrocnemius/SLStandingCalfRaise.html ???
As for grip there are other things that can be looked at. I think it would be better just to hold off and get your dead to 250-300+ for reps over the next few monthsIf it is causing you problems once the compound is higher then other stuff can be looked at. Remember the hammer curl is there to work the grip. If you have an issue with right being stronger than left then you can just hold the right back and wait for left to catch up. I don't really think this is important either though when it is only a few reps of a difference. Different if there was a BIG difference.
Good work on the squat, try and get a video of one of your worksets. Don't want to see you stalling because of form issues like I did.
Keep it up, you're doing great. Will be good to see get over 200 for reps on the dead, hopefully this week![]()
JohnnyIrish said:
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Listen to the trainer on that one for now with the rows. Once the weight goes up it'll get harder to maintain a good form on that machine though.JohnnyIrish said:Thanks, I'll use the alternate grip Friday.
btw- i-tallion: I added up the plates + the bar weight (45lbs) when I calculate the weight.
Today:
Squat (ATG) 2x5:
bar x 10
85 x 6
115 x 1
165 x 5
165 x 5
/\ I added 20lbs this week. Damn this was tough. I also concentrated to make sure to push with the heel of my foot, not the ball of my foot.
Pullthroughs 3 x 10:
42.5 x 10
42.5 x 10
42.5 x 10
/\ Worked my lower back good.
Chest supported Row 4 x 8:
bar x 10
20 x 6
45 x 8
45 x 8
45 x 8
45 x 8
/\ Notes and the link to this video are below.
Hammer curls 3 x 8
30 x 8
30 x 6
30 x 6
/\ I can do 3 sets of 8 with my right hand.. but my left hand's grip fails at 6 with the second and third set. Is there something I can do to work grip specifically?
Calf Raises 3 x 15:
50 x 10
90 x 6
130 x 15
130 x 15
130 x 15
/\ Ok this exercise kicks my ass. I don't feel like I'm making much if any progress.. except for the fact that I was finally able to do 3 sets of 15 of the SAME weight this time (and barely.. It was burning after the second set so I waited 5min for the burning to subside). I guess its natural? *shrugs* Doing 45 reps vs doing 20 which I was doing before is more then twice the amount so I guess I will get use to it in time.
New video:
Chest Supported Rows Now this was my second set of 4. The trainer who was nice enough to vid this for me then told me to instead of having my head down (I looked like I was kissing the weight in the vid.. wtf) to have it up high. I tried this for my third and fourth set and I could definitely feel it much more in my lats. Is that the proper way to do it?
I knew I saw it somewhere but didn't remember where and it was my own workout thread no less. My mistake.Quagmire911 said:I've given you these two on page 7:
Bench threads:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJqWaEnd98A
http://www.t-nation.com/findArticle....e=body_115b600
As for question one that would suggest that you are using your legs more than your abs. Try and find a different exercise. I have the problem where I can't seem to find a decent exercise for abs.
As for question 2, just keep things the way they are in the program. I wouldn't add in extra sets. If you didn't make all the reps in the later sets you should drop the weight a bit. Looking back over your log you are going up too fast on dumbbell shoulder press. You have nearly doubled the weight you are using. You actually got a rep more this week. I think you should drop to 45 if you can and go for 3x8. Once you get all 8 in every set, the week after do 3x10, and once you get that up the weight 5 again and go for 3x8. You cannot add 10 every week, especially on DB's.
And you meant thanks Effort, not Thottle.
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I see the logical progression there. I'll do as ya suggest, thanks again Quagmire.Quagmire911 said:I don't know where you got this drop set stuff in your head.
Do it like this:
Say you get 3x8 with the 40's.
Next week work up to 3x10 or 3x12, once you hit 3x12, go up to the 50's and so forth.
Its the whole noobie gains thing.. I'm just use to seeing all the numbers raise. Thanks for the guidance so I don't end up over complicating things or worrying about things that I don't need to worry about (which I was).EFFORT said:Just pick a weight that you can do ALL the sets with WITHOUT failing. Adding weight to accessory lifts isn't something to worry about. Just focus on pushing more weight on your MAIN lifts. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to always up weight on accesory work since as your lifting more weight on your main lifts you'll be more fatigued for your accessory work. The interesting thing is in 6months you'll look at your accessory lifts numbers and they'll all be WAY higher without you even focusing on increasing them, it just happens.
With DBs the jumps are quite a lot, so the idea is that if you build the reps up with a given dumbell to say 12, then once you increase the weight, you'll be able to get about 7-8 reps on it. Whereas if you just did 3 x 8 then jumped, the next weight would be a real struggle, maybe 3-4 reps.JohnnyIrish said:I see the logical progression there. I'll do as ya suggest, thanks again Quagmire.
So are dropsets not good or am I just misplacing their use?
As for where did I get it from.. its from what I know of how to lift. Such as while a lot of the new things I've learned have overwritten what I thought I was correct from the past.. there are some areas I haven't overwritten yet because well.. I don't know they are wrong yet. So I'm guessing this is one of those.
Ahh, after doing some more reading I see a dropset involves going to failure. As I'm not supposed to be going to failure in this new routine I see where its out of place.Quagmire911 said:The dropset in this application was unnecessary.
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