You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Be afraid!!!EFFORT said:awesome man, you can tell u added muscle and lost fat. Its gonna be scary to see you next year at this time after were done with you.
JohnnyIrish said:On a side note:
I find it interesting how after each min on/off its like 2 steps forward 1 step back for such as how fast my heart rate is going. It jumps up and down.. but slowly builds up to a more consistant high number around the end.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Seeing his diet would be pretty good, it must be pretty spot onEFFORT said:Hey post up your diet here. I think this will be good for your next routine.
http://www.ironaddicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8050
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Both options are good, theres nothing wrong with taking sometime and fixing form up, and theres nothing wrong with switching routines now and just working on your form through that. Form is just something that should always be worked on while performing lifts regardless. So i'd say just pick one and run with it, then switch your mind over to focusing on the real important things like not missing meals, eating enough, increasing strength, sleeping, not missing sups,etc.Quagmire911 said:Seeing his diet would be pretty good, it must be pretty spot on
A simple power based routine ehhhh "strokes chin". Effort, what do you reckon about his question no.2, continue on as is or as I suggested keep the same routine/weight for a few weeks and concentrate on maintaining form for every rep. I think this would also be a good idea before he were to go onto a new routine, so as to adjust to ass to grass squats as well. But hey, your word over mine.
I was going to go over your log and make a couple of suggestions, EFFORT has suggested a new routine in the link above and I amen't going to argue with himAs for videos:
Squat as you said above we can not see the full movement. It would also be better doing it with a heavier weight. I have seen it often when people use the bar they are "lazy" so to speak. The movement doesn't look right, stuff isn't contracting as much, you aren't tight, I don't know. So try and get a video of ass to grass doing a workset.
Deadlift, again same as the above on the no weight. Switching between stiffleg and dead was just confusing and you started the dead at the top of the movement and the ROM was larger than if there had been plates on the bar. So again get one of your worksets if you can.
In the last post I made some comments about the benching. On the incline you need to put an emphasis on pressing the bar in a parallel in line. I think just about everyone everyone needs to do this when they start out. You will still see experienced people doing it a bit on max effort attempts. Basically one side is dominant over the other so takes more of the strain. So that is one thing. Also, makesure to take the bar all the way down to the chest. Can't really see your feet on this one, but makesure you aren't losing tension.
I said some stuff about the flat bench above. Here are some useful articles to help you adjust your setup:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJqWaEnd98A
http://www.t-nation.com/findArticle.do?article=body_115b600
I think there was another one but I don't remember what it was. These two should be enough though, I pretty much based my form around these. See my videos if you want to see roughly what it looks like. Effort said my form looked "spot on" so why not get you to take a look
Anyway, await to see EFFORTS opinion on your next move, whether to go on the the power based routine now or in a couple of weeks.
Congrats again,
Quagmire
I don't know at this point.. I guess its possible. lolQuagmire911 said:I watched the incline video a couple of times and what I saw was the bar coming to 1-3" above the chest If I remember correctly. My internet is being a ****, and won't let me view it at the moment.
Again though, perhaps this was because you were only using the bar and were being "lazy" so to speak, like I said with the deadlifts. People have a tendency to do that when they aren't using much effort. Maybe you bring it the full way on your worksets, but were you really making sure in the video above?
Await Efforts reply on the routine querie...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.